letting your partner stop habits he has grown with...
By glitzypurple
@glitzypurple (1477)
Philippines
January 10, 2008 5:05am CST
I have heard other people tell stories about their partners and bad habits or habits that they dislike. I know some people let their partners stop such habits and sometimes it causes fights between them and even break-ups. Of course when people are in love they try their best to do everything their partner wants them to do, but if it's already overboard I think it could be the cause of heartbreaks and such.
I was just wondering, is it healthy if you do that to your partner? If he already grew up with that habit and you don't really like it even if it doesn't do any harm, will you or will you not stop him? An example is if your partner has this habit of chatting and meeting new people on the net, I don't think that means harm, right? And you don't like him doing that, will you stop him or just let him be happy in his own way?
Thanks
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9 responses
@noriko (1254)
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16 Jan 08
it depends on what habbit is that. if you explain it very well to your partner and help him to stop a bad habit then i think there will be no problem about that. but in return you should be willing to stop a bad habit to. some partners are like that they will only stop something when you stop something too. so prepare for the pay back hahaha
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
15 Jan 08
Hi dear
i think after marriages both male and females undergo change and slowly adopt new habits keeping in view requirement and liking of partner.
The best way to mould partner about anything slowly and graduaklly so he dont feel that he or she is forced to do that, by this way u can have result in smooth and better way
Take care
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
11 Jan 08
Since I pretty much believe that you cannot change a person, no matter how hard you try, I probably wouldn't do much in the way of trying to get them to break that habit. However, if it were something hurtful that was causing strife in the relationship and in other parts of life, then I'd have to put my foot down and try to get them to make the choice to change. The only way they'll change is if they decide they want to change.
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@infoguy (210)
• India
11 Jan 08
I wont mind my partner doing such things.When my partner has grown up with such a habit then y trying to stop it or fighting over unwanted issues as long as the person feels comfortable with their habit ...I wont disturb or ask for a change...
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
11 Jan 08
i can tell you one thing glitz, this is probably one of the hardest things that anyone can accomplish.
try to change or stop your partners habits, especially habits he had since he was a child.
it is possible.
but i do think that the first thing that you should thing about, is why do you want to change this habit of his, is it really such a bad habit?
i suggest you first try to accept the habit, and just if you think that this habit can cause damage to you or your partner, you should work on changing it.
it is possible, but it is hard.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
11 Jan 08
well i think that every individual needs and has the right to live for himself also.its just not right in my eyes to stop my partner form doing anything which i really dont like however its not even harming me.if it gives happiness to him,i can rather igonre it or try to accept this reality.for me i always try to come in my partner's shoes as well and then think.since there might be many habits of mine as well which he wont like.however i definately would feel bad or hurted if fights with me on this topic.s the same goes for him to.actaully this one thing which i guess couple should understand.getting married does not at all means that one does not have the right to do anything without partner's permission.everyone needs space in their life as well.
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@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
10 Jan 08
I guess it just depends on each case differntly!
And it depends on whether the habit is harmful to one!
But if it doesn't cause problems, and no harm, I don't see anything wrong!
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@Poltergeist08 (155)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
10 Jan 08
I wouldn't mind if my partner had a habit of chatting online. I'd join her sometimes, probably, but generally I wouldn't mind because I'm not the jealous type.
As for your question of quitting habits, you should talk with your partner about it and if both of you want to quit the habit in question then you can. With love and patience everything can be accomplished.
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