Getting out there...

Hi Mare73! You convey it by SAYING it! Far too many people assume that just because you're seen out there having fun, going out with friends, that you're "looking." You and I both know that's not always true. Go out, have fun - but the first time someone brings up dating or relationships, very politely state that you're recently single and want to enjoy that for a while. That gets your point across, but by using the phrase "for a while," you're leaving a door open. As far as how long to wait until a serious relationship, no one has the answer to that but you. You know yourself better than anyone, and only you will know when the time is right. Don't sell yourself short - give yourself some credit for knowing yourself, what you need, and what you want. When the time is right - you'll know. Good luck and have fun with your freedom....for a while!

Simple answer. Say it. When you meet new people say "I've been through a rough time. Not looking for anything serious." That way no one gets confused. As for when to get into another relationship, only you have the answer to that. Everyones time line is different. You'll know when it's a good time for you. Don't let anyone push you. Have a good time. Make new friends. Spend time with old friends. Time is the key.As they say time will tell. You could also take some time just for you. Be with you. Get to know what you want. Be prepared for some down time. Could be good .

I understand how you feel about the trust issue. I think you should focus on you and your family's needs right now. I wouldn't go seeking any kind of "serious" relationship right now. You need some time to get things in order, etc. I think it's alright to make new friends, but just tell them you are not interested in a serious relationship...at least for now. You may in the future, but just take it one day at a time. Go out with your friends and relax! God bless you!:)

Be up front, don't get emotional or at least try and compose yourself with class and dignity and simply tell the truth: "I just came out of a 2.5 year relationship and I am experiencing trust issues". I mean being upfront with others makes it so much easier to be upfront with yourself and truly heal from the keel of a relationship gone sour . . . How long do you wait? When do you rush right back in? Well, I tell my clients 'in relationship endsville', to just be straight-forward about what you are feeling and the decent people feeling empathy not sympathy will surround you and make you feel comfortable even when you are truly the most vulnerable. Truth does set you free, I really honestly believe that . . . sharing the light and happy new year, Miss Erica Hidvegi, the Enlightenment_Advisor, B.A. Psych/M.A. Transpersonal Studies- Cnslng/Author, Artist, Photographer, Entrepreneur & Freelance extraordinaire http://www.authspot.com/writers/Enlightenedpsych2.964

You'll know when you are ready. They say that you need to learn to love youself before others can love you. And that is totally true. Also get yourself a copy of the book "he's just not that into you". Awesome book will realy be an eye opener. Go out and enjoy life i say.