Ex-Wife Needs Be a Little Less Self-Centered.
January 11, 2008 2:05pm CST
I have an 8-yo. stepson and a 2-yo. bio. son. My husband's exwife is so...GRRR! She was taking my stepson to the dr. every time he "just didn't feel well" without asking us if we thought he needed to go, and expecting us to pay half of the copay EVERY TIME! Divorce papers say we carry the insurance (we do), and that she makes the copay. Does she? Only half! She did it so much that we finally asked her to stop, unless he was really sick. Now, it doesn't matter if he's puking, fever, red spots, whatever. If it's our scheduled weekend, she brings him to our house instead of trading weekends and letting him stay home with her. I love my stepson dearly and I don't mind cleaning his puke out of our carpet, but what the h*ll?! I don't want my 2-yo., my husband (who works outdoors 7/365), or myself needlessly exposed to crud! My son caught strep throat from my stepson (he cried to stay with his mom that weekend) and we had to pay 1.5 copays, and 1.5 pharmacy bills, and we had to stay up at night with both, cleaning puke out of 2 beds at 3:30am! We pay half of everything for my stepson, on top of child support. I thought that's what child support was for? Especially $350/mo.! Again, what the h*ll?! Why is she so frickin'...GRRR!?! She also has a new boyfriend and is preg. with him. She has started treating my stepson like a little servant when he's with her, so much that he told my husband he wants to come live with us. And the boyfriend is no better. His grades in school have started slipping (he's in 3rd grade) b/c he's fetch-and-carrying for her instead of getting his homework done. At least when he's at our house, his homework is completed and he gets to act like the kid he is! He's obviously worried about her new baby taking his place at home, and he knows that he and my 2-yo. are treated equally (well, as equally as a 2 and 8 yo. can be, but they are loved equally!) and that my son isn't replacing him in our hearts. However, it's very sad that my poor boy sees already just what kind of person his mother is, loves her anyway, and she just keeps pushing him harder and farther away. And, not being predjudiced in the least, she started dating a black guy. And when my husband and I voiced minor concerns (b/c he was a new boyfriend, not b/c he's black) she started screaming at us IN OUR OWN HOUSE IN FRONT OF MY TWO-YEAR-OLD to just shut the h*ll up and go put on our f-ing white hoods and cloaks and get out our burning crosses to start the march! Um, yeah. She doesn't come into our house anymore. I guess she knows she's no longer welcome. Ok, so that was a really long rant, sorry it's my first discussion and not the 50th or something. Next one won't be about her, I promise! Lol.
• United States
11 Jan 08
Woa. Sounds a lot like my ex. But I can top it though. My ex's second husband was a shriner clown ( he got it annuled after a week ) Her next significant other was alcaholic handicapt black girl. Her present significant other is a disabled medically enhanced transdikeual ( being kind there ). My daughter has always been their maid. She finally decided she's had enough & is moving in with us at the end of the school year.