What Happens If You Cant Decide On A Name.
@sweetcutiepie42 (180)
Australia
January 12, 2008 5:18pm CST
If your due for a bub and cant decide on a name what happens?..
me and my partner disagree on most names but luckily found one we like,it brought great argument and I said if the baby is born and no decicion is made the Mother should decide,and the father just deal with it :).. it could be cos im the mum though.
How do you pick names? Has anyone had a bub and not decided? how long can you go without naming your baby?
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@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
13 Jan 08
Me and my husband kind of argued back and forth with each of our kids. In the end he left it up to me with his suggestions in mind.
With our last we weren't exactly...on good terms when the baby was born. It was the beginning of a bad year and a half that ended in a separation (it's better now--we got back together). I ended up not even asking him what he wanted to name the baby. He had little to say about it and I named her on my own. He came to see her and I said this is her name and if you don't like it--tough.
He had more say in the other kids but ultimately it was up to me since I was the one that had to carry the baby for 9 months and get cut open and spend 4 days in the hospital starving.
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@sweetcutiepie42 (180)
• Australia
14 Jan 08
Its a very good point,only write it if you like it..what ispired you to write the name you didnt like to start with?
4monsters4me. Was the break up due to the name dision? hehe i agree about it being the mums choice lol after carrying it and ceserians etc (little bit selfish of ourselfs,but im sure ild understand if he carried it for 9 months and wanted to name it)
:)
@phillygirl606 (1112)
• United States
13 Jan 08
I actually changed my son's name after I came home from the hospital. I had wrote his name on the paperwork but never called him his name. I called him little man for a week because I could not bring myself to call him what I named him. My mom was actually the first person to call him his real name. And when she said the name I had given him I was like oh my god do not call him that his name is Anthony. And it came to me just like that. Anthony. And this was right around the time of 9/11 so I had a hell of a time trying to get his name changed to ANthony. After many months though the paper work finally came back with the new name I wanted for him. Good luck on the naming. My advice though, do not put a name on any paper work until you are absolutely sure what you want to call bubs.
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@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
14 Jan 08
Na, the breakup was long coming. We were both stressed out and things were crazy. We were separated for 6 weeks before we got back together. Things have been much better since then. We just celebrated our 8th anniversary. So all is good.
It may be selfish to be the sole namer but really...I had to go through 9 months of hell to have that baby I should get first choice on names. My husband didn't do anything. He wasn't even in the room when she was born because he had to watch the other kids.
Mostly it was because he wouldn't take naming the kids seriously. With our 2nd I asked him to write down a list of names he liked for girls. He picked: Kiki, Coco, Mimi, Echo. He thought he was being funny. So I picked the names. With our last he literally wouldn't discuss it at all. He said he didn't care. If I even mentioned names he got mad and told me to quit pestering him.
In the end I named her after my aunt and mother and told him I didn't care what he thought. He got over it.
@kimberlylynn (978)
• United States
13 Jan 08
My husband had the hardest time deciding on names. I got one of those books and highlighted what I liked. In the end we chose family names and ones that were true to our German heritage. Have you looked at names of your loved ones?
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@sweetcutiepie42 (180)
• Australia
13 Jan 08
Yep my little boys middle name is George and my next little boys name will be Micheal(close to my dads name)
I also love the meaning of names..
My little boys name means "Little King"
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@kimberlylynn (978)
• United States
15 Jan 08
There is so much more meaning doing it that way than just picking what is popular or changing the spelling. When they grow up they can tell people what their name means or where it came from. Kudos to you!
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
13 Jan 08
i would say the name that you and your partner agreed on is the name to name your child. my suggestion would be is that you pick a strong name and a name that reflects your family. a good, strong name is the right name for your child. to help you think of a good,strong name, just think that someday your child would ask you how you came up with his/her name, and you would be able to say the reason behind it. if your really serious about the name that you picked, then you should convince your partner to join you in liking the name that you picked. but if your partner has some suggestions, take the time and listen. i think the right name is out there...i have a name that reflects my family..i was named after my father.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
13 Jan 08
I'd think the probability of that would be low, but anything is possible. Perhaps asking relatives and friends for advice on the naming matter may help. If there is still a problem, try naming the child after someone very special in one of your families. And I do believe it should be a compromise, its both parent's child, not just one.
As another idea, there were people who asked for baby names on mylot.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
12 Jan 08
We had our names chosen for our kids before they were born but I knoe of a few people who did not have the 1 name chosen they had about 3 they both liked then decided when bubs was born on what to call the baby. Sometimes the baby just looks like a certain name (if that makes sense) so as long as you have a few names (like a short list of 2-4 names) you will probably decided which one is best when bubs arrives :)
I have also heared of people changing the names they chose once the baby was born as they did not think the chosen names suited it.
Hope this has helped you a bit :) Have a good day and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and the birth!
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@florlei (46)
• Philippines
12 Jan 08
I'm 7 months pregnant and me and my partner do not have a name yet for our baby, which will probably come out by the end of March. Deciding for our baby's name really is no big deal for us. We agreed that if our baby is a boy, we will name him John Nicholas and her nickname will be Face Off hahaha lol. This is because when I was 3 months pregnant I enjoyed watching movies of John Travolta and Nicholas Cage and my husband's name is also Jan. And if our baby is a girl, we agreed to name her Ryanne Kylie, from a local and foreign celebrity name. But you know what? I believe that a baby's name isn't important, what's far more important is that, my baby comes out strong and healthy.
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@smacksman (6053)
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13 Jan 08
The tradition is to call them after your parents or grand parents.
In our case my mother said for heavens sake don't call the poor girl after me - Gladys Mabel! They were of course very fashionable names in 1900 but not now.
This reminds me of naming a litter of pedigree pups. You have to submit a preferred name and an alternative name for each pup. My Shumba had ten pups in her first litter so try to think of 20 names! haha.
Give your tummy a wee rub from Uncle Smacksman and I wish you all health and happiness.
@sweetcutiepie42 (180)
• Australia
20 Jan 08
hehe how funny.
I couldnt call my kid avis or anything like that..names have changed so much!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
13 Jan 08
My husband and I had a hard time picking a name for our second son. We THOUGHT we found one that we both agreed on, though when I was close to my due date (only a few days away) we discussed the name again and agreed that it didn't sound right for our baby. So, with the help of his parents, we picked a name that had a nice ring to it. Who knew in-laws could actually be helpful? :P LOL
@CanuckPrince (1052)
• Halifax, Nova Scotia
13 Jan 08
i cant remember for sure but i think the guiness record for a baby going unnamed is 7 years.. i can verify that if anyone thinks otherwise (i dont wanna bother reading through the book right now and the website only has 40000 records which dont include that one).. anyways the way me and my wife named our daughter was we both made our own list of names we liked from the baby book of names.. then we compared lists and any names that matched up we put on a new list.. and then we chose from that list of names as to what her first and middle names would be :) we have another baby on the way now but no name picked out yet.. i was thinking of doing that again but its another girl and clearly we already picked the best names we liked so its gonna be a bit harder this time around but at least we'll have a small list of names to pick from instead of millions :D
@sweetcutiepie42 (180)
• Australia
13 Jan 08
7 years! thats madness,that poor kid ..wonder if they called him blogs between born and when they named him.
Goodluck picking a name!
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@CanuckPrince (1052)
• Halifax, Nova Scotia
13 Jan 08
im wondering how that kid made it through school for 2 years with no name.. musta had a nickname or something for teachers and friends to call him.. i guess mean kids would have to think real hard on stuff to call him though haha and thanks im sure we'll figure out a good name :) we have a few in mind just havent decided totally yet
@stalwart (3)
• India
13 Jan 08
name must be decided by both father and mother both should agree for that name if the name decided by one not liked by the other then they should convince each other or got for other one which they like becoz that name should be called by them all the life. like this they should live knowing other interest to have better life.
@vincet (7)
• Australia
20 Jan 08
I guess its alright for the mother to have the desicion if you cant come up with one together.However I think it needs to be a name that you both "dont mind" not a name one of you "hates".
Being a dad,i would want to come to a compramise..even if i got a say in the middle name that would be good.The kids have my last name so that makes me happy :D
@sweetcutiepie42 (180)
• Australia
20 Jan 08
good point about the last name,i wouldnt choose a name my partner hated but a name he didnt mind.
