Does he ever shut up?

Canada
January 13, 2008 9:44pm CST
LOL Does your spouse ever talk non-stop to you, even though you're not paying attention? Hubby here is chatting away from the lower level (I'm in the loft) about some guy who writes about popular technology/mechanics or something like that. The guy builds and writes. Hubby is amazed and impressed. He told me he wants to build a radio out of an oatmeal box with the kids but after that I lost interest... I'm myLotting here SHHHHHHH I need the concentration! LOL but he goes on and on and on and on and on... He loves technology, computers and everything that has to do with it (which is why he's still a university student at the age of 43!!) I like technology too but not at the same level. While I respect his passion, it's not my desire to talk about it all night! Gotta love him!
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@carolbee (16231)
• United States
14 Jan 08
Actually I have quite the opposite. My husband is rather quiet and doesn't want to be bothered with talking when he comes home from work. Guess he does his share of talking while at work. It's so annoying when he won't answer me or even acknowledge that I was talking. If I want to talk about softball and who is on his team next year, he coaches, or how many times they will be out of town, he will talk for awhile until I get bored with it..lol He's very bright, articulate and runs his own firm but he wants quiet time when he gets home. I respect his wishes and stay on myLot or work on a craft. I'm content and so is he. It works!
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
14 Jan 08
Oops forgot to ask how he is going to build a radio from an oatmeal box? This sounds like a real interesting project.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
14 Jan 08
I would love that - my hubby is the other extreme. He even grunts when I say goodnight. If I ask, did you have a good day, he says yeah. Not asking about mine or giving detail. He doesn't engage in small talk. He's genuine in that way, if we're at a gathering and he feels he has nothing to contribute he will politely nod and smile or if he's not interested - he doesn't feighn interest. If its a subject he likes, sometimes something sparks him to go on and on, like about the supernatural or this new national id card or the house we'd like to build or the gardens we 'd like and he'll have his share to say. And then you listen close as he doesn't usually talk much. I'm the talker!
• Abernathy, Texas
14 Jan 08
I do know he listens though - to most. Like I mentioned casually last night how yummy Panda Gourmet is (a to die for drive through chinese place) and on the way back from grocery shopping he stopped in. Stuff like that.
@SViswan (12065)
• India
14 Jan 08
lol..that's not my spouse but me who talks non-stop! Sometimes he's grunting away and then tells me....'I didn't hear a thing ...you might have to repeat it for me later'!!! On the rare occassions that my spouse decides to do some talking when I'm trying to concetrate (not myLot...I don't do it when he's home), I tell him as soon as I tune him off that I'm not listening. And he's fine with that. But this discussion has to be directed to my husband..lol
@SViswan (12065)
• India
14 Jan 08
I forgot to mention my son! He's worse than I am...lol
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
14 Jan 08
hehehe.... sorry just have a mental image of him balbbing away.... it is great though that it is something he is interested in and great also that you respect him for that :) I can however see how it would get a little annoying at times!! I am the chatterbox here... although my daughter is catching me... and probably my son will too.... sometimes I wish hubby would talk lots more (although he can do it if he feels like it)
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
14 Jan 08
oops sorry that word was supposed to be blabbing not balbbing - sorry sometimes I type too fast!
@carmelanirel (20976)
• United States
14 Jan 08
Oh yeah, my husband can out talk anyone, especially if he gets on a subject he likes..:)
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I have the opposite problem. Usually when my husband gets home from work he gets on the computer and plays poker with his friends. I will try to talk to or tell him something and it is like I am not even there. So we end up having very quiet evenings. LOL!
• United States
14 Jan 08
I'm lucky because my husband never goes on and on about anything I'm not interested in. I'm interested in everything he's interested in. LOL He's not very chatty either which I don't like sometimes when he comes home from work and I've been dying to talk to somebody all day.
• India
14 Jan 08
Oh yes, does he talk! In fact it is the only point of grudge in our otherwise perfect relation. All the time that I am home and he is too, he will go jabber jabber about what happened to him the entire day, who did what at office, how he reacted and so on. It’s the entire story, repeated everyday, irrespective of whether I want to listen or not. And I have to give my valuable comments and suggestions to prove that I am all attention. If ever I show that I am sleepy, or would like him to just shut up, you should see how he sulks like a child. Needless to say of course that I can never push in one word of my day, or my troubles. It’s almost like I have to make a prior appointment if I have to discuss anything from my side with him lol!
• Pakistan
14 Jan 08
strange? u r unique. femals normally require someone who talks to them.
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
14 Jan 08
Yeah I know the feeling some people just get into their own zone and there is nothing that can get them out again unless you resort violence. LOL That is funny though. Give him a task to distract him so that you can continue with your own thing, he probably wants your attention because your on here too much.
@AICIRT81 (847)
• United States
14 Jan 08
He's like that with cars. He'll start talking about what engines they have and horse power and types of tires. I find myself spacing. I have told him a thousand times that I have interest in all that stuff but he just keeps on talking and then he'll ask what do I think about they way a particular wheel looks and I'm like I don't really care... its a wheel and goes round and round. You know what i mean.. I feel for you.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
14 Jan 08
ya my boyfriend does that...and they say women can gab!! I'm a pretty quiet person and my boyfriend is very animated and talks alot. So many nites he gets into his "storytelling" and he literally talks me to sleep and then has to wake me. I try to be a good listener but sometimes I just am not.
@youless (104245)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jan 08
You are lucky. My husband isn't interested in talking a lot.
@Jshean20 (14359)
• Canada
14 Jan 08
My boyfriend can get a little too chatty at times, I find that the more he talks the more cocky he gets, so I have to basically tell him to be quiet lol. Most of the time he is fine, but when he has a little too much too drink he talks wayyyy too much. I think this is the case for a lot of people who drink too much though...
@Modestah (11188)
• United States
14 Jan 08
yep! but my son is worse about it. he goes on and on and on about computer components with all these letters and numbers and powers and and and and...... I asked him once, do you know I am tuning you out? that I am just nodding my head and not paying attention - that I really do not know a thing about what you are saying and am genuinely not interested? he said sure mom, but I just need to talk about it! okay, yep, ahah... is that right? really.... well, I'll be! isn't that just the way.... these are the pat answers I give.
• United States
14 Jan 08
when I was in classes I swera my husband would not shut up. Hear i am tring to read for my class on the next day or write a paper and he's going on. There are times you just want to shov a sock in his mouth so he'll be quiet for a second.HAHA!!!
@rsa101 (28906)
• Philippines
14 Jan 08
Well for as long as you respect what he does and he respects your I don;t think it will be a problem for both of you. Just make sure you do have your own space for your own thing and he does have his. I admire you for loving him too despite your differences in your likes and dislikes.