We never argue

United States
January 14, 2008 5:41pm CST
We talk about things but never argue. So I am confused why do inlaws, and close family members always try to find something to argue about? How can that be healthy? I mean when things get stressful I talk it out not yell! I make sure people know where I stand, if they don't know then they will step on my toes right? It makes me feel like my heads spinning and I want to start yelling! But, I refrain from it I hate that feeling. Its the most uncomfortable place to be and since its my choice I don't go their. Kinda like the worst vacation that you hated and can't forget! You know what I mean? Sorry just wondering how people with so many choices of topics in life between family members and friends can love living in a repetitive circle of confusion and turmoil!
2 responses
rockvixen
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
14 Jan 08
Not all inlaws choose to argue. My inlaws never argue at all. In fact I get along so well with my inlaws that there is never really anything to get upset about. Sure I may argue with my husband at times, but even so we stil get along most of the time. Besides the fact my inlaws would never allow argument. Like you however, I sometimes feel like yelling, but then I realize there is no need to. Why argue with family? I never do.
letsrock2001
@letsrock2001 (200)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I hear ya always been around arguing my whole life. Until I got married and even before with my now husband and child.Its like smoking or not I choose not to! Just think everytime I pick up the phone to call them their is an argument waiting to happen. So I just curtail and try to steer away from it. Doesn't always work tho!
snoopypoos
@snoopypoos (363)
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15 Jan 08
i think that inlaws try to get in your way because they are never satisfied with your partners choice in life. its like when my daughters get married i will never be happy with the person she has chosen......they could have been better. but they could have been worse, i am not like that, i would prefer to sit at the enemy lines and wait for one of them to come me and ask my advice.....then i can say what i think, but probably not the whole lot because i dont want to hurt their feelings. i think people should keep a little in.