Mylot Feedback & Responses

@dramaqn (1990)
United States
January 16, 2008 9:36am CST
Do you comment back to those who respond to your discussion? Does it bother you when people don't comment to your responses? Well I always try to make sure that I comment back and it bugs me when I comment on people's discussions and they don't. I thought one of the key points of mylot was to create a discussion to get a conversation rolling. Are you one of those people that just creates discussion after discussion and never come back to see what people have said? You know I don't have many pet peeves in my life, but this is starting to be one. And what baffles me the most, is when people get on here and complain about how much they are paid. Well, if they would take time to re-read the guidelines then maybe they could get a clue. And maybe if they would respond to people who are interested in their discussion then maybe, just maybe they would have better luck. And I'm not talking about those one liners, oh my those are the worst. And those are mainly the people who complain. I love mylot and really enjoy coming here to write about something serious, funny, news worthy, or just something on my mind. And have the same love and passion when it comes to responding to others discussions. What is your take on all of this? How do you feel when you have put so much time and effort into what you may feel is a masterpiece of writing, only to have some yahoo give you a one liner response? Come on, we are like family here, don't you think we deserve to give our mylot family better responses and input? After all, when we don't we only hurt and hinder ourselves. Please, share, vent, do what you may, but just say more when you do it.
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@sacmom (14250)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Honestly no, especially if there is no need to. Like if those that responded to my discussions didn't ask me any questions. I also get caught up with others discussions (and real life) that sometimes my own discussions are put on the back burner, so to speak, so that I can respond to these other discussions instead. Sometimes I get back to these, sometimes I don't. I don't mean to do this, it just happens. :P I don't think I have ever complained (much) about the money I make on here. After all if I wanted to earn a real amount of money I could always get a real job.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Loved how you ended your response. I wish more felt that way. This is a nice site to do some networking and meet some friends while getting some extra cash. The way some people go on about how much they are not earning, I don't get. It's not meant to get rich from. Well, thank you for responding, I always enjoy reading your comments on my discussions. How's your new year going? I hope well.
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@sacmom (14250)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Maybe it's because the words "earn money" are used when trying to refer others to this site. Some people could misinterpret this and when they find out just how much (or how little) they actually earn on here they are disappointed and decide to vent about it on here. Other than my legs hurting, the new year is treating me okay. This is what I get for working out last night, after slacking off for months... :P LOL How is the new year going for you? By the way, I want to congratulate you on finally reaching 500! I was going to reply to your discussion about it, after I made my reply to this one, but it got deleted. So I'll say it to you here instead. CONGRATULATIONS! :)
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Thanks! Yes, I think people could misinterpret some things about earning money on this site. As far as my new year, it's getting off to a bumpy start, but it's good.
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@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
16 Jan 08
If I am the one who started the discussion, I try to go back and respond to the posts people made on my discussions. I haven't started very many of my own though. If I am just a responder on someone elses discussion and the original poster responds to to my comment I don't usually go back to make another post unless they have asked me a question or something of that nature. There are a couple of people on here that I tend to have more "conversation" with.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
I totally understand. I too tend to have a few friends here that I tend to have more conversation with. And I must say, whatever you are doing must surely be working by the looks of the number beside your name. How long have you been with mylot?
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
My apologies, I forgot to say thank you for taking time to respond to my discussion. I greatly appreciate it. I look forward to seeing responses from you again, and responding to some of your discussions.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
16 Jan 08
No it does not really bother me.I have had this happen before when i first started here, but i looked back at the discussion and found that it was not very appealing,and i knew i had to come up with a more interesting discussion...Now i always get responses..YOU REALLY HAVE TO WORK HARD TO MAKE A DISCUSSION GOOD IN ORDER TO GET a lot of discussions..Sorry about the capitals i accidently touchrd the caps ...
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
No problem about the caps, been there done that...lol. You know I was looking back at some discussions I started the other day. Some of those I don't know where they came from or even remember starting them. But there were some very memorable one's. Yes, interesting is important. Even if the discussion isn't that interesting I've found that if the headline is good enough you will get responses, because some people just can't help themselves. The headline intrigues them, and for some reason feel compelled to read. And if it's written with quality, no matter how un-interesting it is, they will still leave a comment. You are so right about working hard to make a good discussion. But I've found that I don't have to work as hard as I use to, once I stopped trying to think of topics. Now the topics just flow for me. And once I start typing, the possibilities are endless. Thank you so much for responding to my discussion, it is greatly appreciated. And again don't worry about the caps, it could possibly be an attention getter for a passer-byer.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
16 Jan 08
the longer you are on mylot the better you get, as you said ideas just flow in...
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
17 Jan 08
I try to comment back to most who answer my discussion.Still it does not bother me when people do not comment on my answers.It is very nice to know taht you do it with passion. I think if you comment back in responses, your discussion gets more visibility and more chances of getting more responses.
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@garnet80 (354)
• Australia
16 Jan 08
When I post a discussion I respond to most comments. Sometimes I feel that a post doesn't need a reply as the person has said all that needs to be said or else it's similar to something I've already written to another reply. It just depends. Most times I do respond to post.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Well thank you for responding and know I value your thoughts and opinion. Good luck in all you do here at mylot.
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
16 Jan 08
I try to go back to my discussions and reply to the responses left, but I do not always get to all of them. Sometimes I do not reply simply because there is really nothing to say to some comments. MyLot does not want you to simply respond thanks for responding like some people do.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
I can see both of your points (the 2 above me). I guess I'm just a regular old chatterbox. And, no I don't get to all of them either, but I at least try to respond to at least 2. I've rarely come across a discussion that I've started where I didn't have anything to say back or a question to ask. And even when I'm just saying thank you, I try to give a detailed version of why I'm saying thank you. It has really helped me, not just with my earnings but with making new mylot friends. And in closing I will do like I always do, leave by saying thank you for you response, it is greatly appreciated.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
16 Jan 08
This is what it says in the guidelines: Please make sure you give your best effort to respond with quality responses. If you don’t know how to respond to a discussion, go on to the next one. Answers like “I don’t know” or “I don’t care” don’t help anyone and will be removed. So I do respond, but only if I had something to say. And yeah, sometimes it isn't very long. Depending on the topic, I may not know much about it, but still want to have a say in it..
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Well, at least you give it a shot. Thank you so much for responding, I hope that many others will benefit from your response. I really appreciate you putting in there about when people say "I don't know" or "I don't care". I may say that I don't know about something, but I make sure that I elaborate on it and ask questions. And by doing this I can find out more about the topic, if not from the person who started the discussion, then maybe by someone else who is leaving responses. Thanks again for your valued response.
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@chunter (1761)
• Singapore
16 Jan 08
I don't comment back to those who response in my discussion....As of late, I have been posting any newer discussions anyway... Can't be bothered with thinking of a topic to discuss about...I rather just reply to others....easier and faster that way
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Well how's that strategy working for you? Is it easier? I use to think like that until I stopped trying to think of topics to come to me. Once I stopped trying to think of topics, things just started coming to. Whether if it was something I saw on tv, something happening around town, or in my life. I think some people do have trouble thinking of things to discuss and it then becomes overwhelming and they just quit starting discussions. I didn't think I'd ever find something to discuss after I had my baby. See, when I first started doing mylot I was pregnant and had plenty to discuss. Even after I had the baby there was something to talk about and pictures to post. And after awhile I didn't post anything at all, until I realized I was selling myself short of earning with mylot. But I guess, to each his own. Well good luck in all you do and as I always say, thank you for responding to my discussions. You always have something good to say, and I really appreciate it.
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@dfollin (15118)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Yes,I do respond to people and yes it does upset me when people do respond to when.I know people are busy and can't respond to everything.But,when the conversation is important then that does upset me.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
I couldn't agree more. It's definitely upsetting when it's an important discussion. Yes people are busy, but my thing too is, why did they join if they are that busy? I know things come up, but it seems that if they are serious then they'd make some sort of plan, like a few who responded here stated they do. Well, thank you so much for your input, it's very much appreciated.
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@dfollin (15118)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I started a discussion of importance.And someone commented back that they did not agree with me and told me what they had heard about the situation.I corrected that and defended my view.But,the person never did respond back saying if they had found out what I was saying was true or understood my point better after I had told the whole story.And this is a MyLot friend of mine.A few days later she still had not responded so then I sent her a private message to please go in and read my response to what she said.She has never responded again or sent me back a private message. Iam a widow with a child and have other things going on in my life,but if I take on a respondsability then I will do my best.I understand also that things do happen.Like last week I had a cold,still not completly over it but,I was weak and did not even have the energy to sit at the computer.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Wow, I must say, I haven't had a response situation like that. Yea, anything could've happened. She/He could be sick, computer problems, who knows. I hope you hear from your friend in the near future and hope that everything is ok. and I can certainly understand about being sick or too weak to sit at the computer. Thank you for your response and sharing that special situation. It is greatly appreciated.
• United States
17 Jan 08
I try to come up discussions that will get a lot of response and I do keep up with them and read everyones responses. I try to comment back as much as possible so that people know that I care about what they are saying. I know that the guidelines say are are not supposed to comment every response to your topic just to Thank them but my comments are more than that, I add to watch the people say usually when I can. If I can't add to what they say then I try not to bother much with just posting one line comments. I love it when people comment my responses but if they don't I try not to let it upset me.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
18 Jan 08
What a phenominal response. I do the same thing. I try to add to what they say or compliment their response. And I always try to make sure that I thank them for responding. I think I started do that not just because I try to be polite, but for the simple fact that they didn't have to respond. And I speak genuinely when I tell them how much I appreciate them commenting and when I thank them. So, know I greatly appreciate your comment today.
@XhunterX (62)
• Philippines
17 Jan 08
If i feel the necessity i would. It don't bother me at all if other people did not comment on my responses, its not as if the end of the world for me when nobody cares to what i have to say on the particular topic. For me, we may have different views on a particular topic but as long as it doesn't go out of the line and everyone is intellectually stimulated, then thats fine with me.
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
18 Jan 08
I certainly feel the same about when people go out of line and off subject. And I love when I come across something that is intellectually stimulating. I just love reading. Thank you for responding, I greatly appreciate it.
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
17 Jan 08
Yes, I do make a comment on the responses I receive to my discussions. I feel that the replies of respondents must be acknowledged and gone through. Sometimes, if the response is in one line or not very relevant, I do not make comments. I prefer making counter-comments and sub-comments, as much as possible. It feels good if somebody post his/her comments/counter-comments on my replies. But if someone does not post his comments, I do not take it seriously. Nonetheless, my preference for repling to the discussion goes to those, who post their comments on my replies. Good Post by you.
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
17 Jan 08
That's awsome. You know, when I posted this discussion I didn't think I'd get this many replies. I'm almost overwhelmed. But I don't mind, because I love to read in general, but here I love to read what other people think and suggest. As far as relevance, it really does bug me when when people reply to discussions and they are not even on topic. But, I guess you'll have that. Well, thanks for responding, I greatly appreciate it.
@anniepa (27280)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I do my best to respond back to all those I have something to say to. As the guidelines state, we're not supposed to use one-liners or say things like "I don't know" and and sometimes there's just nothing more to say to a response. I don't mean that the response wasn't any good or anything like that, but sometimes there's nothing more to add to what has already been said. Annie
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
18 Jan 08
Yes, this true, sometimes there isn't anything to say. Thank you Annie for responding and I hope that a newbie comes across your reply as well as someone else on here who stated about responding with "I don't know".
@Ohara_1983 (4119)
• Kuwait
16 Jan 08
sometimes i do reply all people who respond my discussion if am not busy, more i give is to reply first my friend discussion, then i reply who reply my discussion, i love to see that some member here in mylot reply my discussion. i really proud of them specially to some of my active friends, & new members.
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Yes, that always is a good feeling when active friends respond. Another thing I do is if I see someone who responds to me on a regular basis and always gives good feedback, I make it a point to add them as a friend, if they don't beat me to it. I also enjoy when the newbies respond. I usually try to keep the discussion going a little so they get the hang of being a member. I remember that's how someone did me. Well, thank you so much for your response.