Do You Find Difficulty Communicating With People Over The Internet?

@Mickie30 (2630)
January 18, 2008 7:50am CST
I don't like the internet to speak with friends because it is so hard. You say something to someone and it is without emotion you never know how they are going to respond. I have fallen out with friends because of the internet and the way things come across. When you write an email to someone and they read it, its got no emotion in it so they may take offense. Does anyone else find this or have you fallen out with people because of the internet?
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• Singapore
19 Jan 08
I do not have problem communicating over the Internet. People can express their emotion by typing harsh words or adding exclamation marks.
• Bahamas
19 Jan 08
Sometimes it is difficult when you are typing in something. If the person can't hear your tone of voice then they may not understand the intent of the message. When I communicate using msn messanger and I have the dpeakers and microphones on so that my friends can hearme I find this to be verry effective.
@Mickie30 (2630)
20 Jan 08
I think that we need to hear people when they talk or they don't know if we are listening or not. We have 2 ears and only one mouth.
@johndur (3043)
• Pasig, Philippines
24 Jan 08
sometimes it is kind of difficult because there are thing that cannot be interpreted by words and letters,a siple gesture cant be translated in words and sudden burst of emotion also cant be translated in to words and letters.so i make sure when i write using e-mail,i try to be more imaginative to make an impression to the sender so they will know if im mad or happy or inlove.sometimes cultural differences also adds because you can say something to them that is strictly offensive to them when it is just natural in your home town.but still internet is the better way than using the old fashion way of snail mail and telegraph.
@Mickie30 (2630)
25 Jan 08
Yeah snail mail is the best way sometimes. I think you have a good idea about making your mails creative so it will make an impression on the reader.
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 08
I agree with you Mickie but I have uch good Friends and we know each other so well now as we have been Friends for year that we know how it is meant Also at the start if something came across the wrong way we would ask if it was meant nasty and that is how we solved it I speak to quite a few of my Online Friends on the Phone now to as I have free calls abroad so we have got to know each other even more It is like TXT Messages as well you never know how the Person means it
@Mickie30 (2630)
20 Jan 08
Writing is a brilliant way of communication but, it has no emotion or feeling in it and it can be misleading. I am glad you know what I mean. I think your way of asking how someone meant something is excellent because if there is a misunderstanding you know if they were being deliberately nasty or not. Also if we think of the type of person that person is we can see that if they are a nice person they wouldn't mean to upset you.
@subha12 (18449)
• India
19 Jan 08
hmmm, its your view. i do not find it that much bad to coomunicate. there may not be all emotions and smileys every where. But at a point of time it was my only mean to communicate with friends.
@Mickie30 (2630)
20 Jan 08
Its great that we can talk to people all over the world, but sometimes I find we can get mixed up over how someone means something.
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I find it easier to communicate with people and get the exact point across online because - I find at least - that people think more before they type and send something than they do when they are just holding a voice conversation.
@Mickie30 (2630)
20 Jan 08
I get nervous talking with people face to face and I find body language difficult. I hate it when people come right close to you and talk. I have problems with anxiety and do find it easier talking in a letter or over the Internet. However I have also had people get upset over something I have said that has come across in a way I didn't mean.
19 Jan 08
I totally agree with you, mickie30: it is likely to be misunderstood when talking through the internet. I can't forget when, some years ago, I was involved in some unpleasant situations with some people (who - ironically - then become my friends) who thought I was cheating them. But, apart from this, the worst happened when I did a joke to a girl I liked, and she was so annoyed that broke up any contact with myself for months!! In fact, I think she was already tired of myself, but It was awful to provide her a way to discard me in such a sad and harsh way...From then on, I learned that I shall take care of my relationship (or, at least, of those that really matter for me) DIRECTLY, watching his/her eyes and always (well..not always..sometimes a nice lie could be better than a pure thruth) be sincere...
@Mickie30 (2630)
20 Jan 08
Yes I agree with you. I think mobile texting is the same someone actually told me it was over via a text message it was one of the harshest ways someone has broken up with me.
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
18 Jan 08
No, I have not had it cause problems in my personal life, but I do understand what you mean about people taking things the wrong way. It happens here all the time to me. I find myself apologizing because I feel like I offended someone when I didn't mean to. It's just impossible to read a person's tone in this setting. You can't pick up on sarcasm, or hear a questioning tone or any of that. It's difficult, but I think it's a good opportunity to try to sharpen our written communication skills. Since you don't have body language available, or tone of voice, you have to learn how to say exactly what you mean with words alone. Quite a challenge.
@Mickie30 (2630)
18 Jan 08
Its a big challenge, but yeah your right about it improving written communication. I have found a lot of foreign friends on here and it has helped their language come on in leaps and bounds. As for me I have dyspraxia and get words mixed up like there and their but, I have found even this to be improved.
@wolfie34 (26790)
• United Kingdom
18 Jan 08
I actually find it very easy, probably because I am no good on the phone and find I can word and phrase what I want to say easier than on the phone. I feel more comfortable and relaxed when I am typing out talking to people, when I am on the phone there are horrid pauses and sometimes I am at a loss what to say, that's why I don't like mobiles either. No for me I find it much better, you can always use smileys for emotions and I can also have time to think about what I want to say. We are all different I guess in that respect.
@Mickie30 (2630)
18 Jan 08
I know how you mean, but sometimes I have fallen out with people over silly misunderstandings. I prefer to write on the internet it is easier to talk with people and not to be afraid but, sometimes things are misinterpreted.
@raijin (10371)
• Philippines
18 Jan 08
Well I do make a mental note on that part, that's why I always try to think first of the words that I'm going to use to avoid being misunderstood. Since we're in a forum site, many reactions can be misinterpreted and can be given with different meanings. As for me, I just choose the one's I know I can share what opinions at -without the thought of them at me being rude or something that opposes them in an offensive manner..
@Mickie30 (2630)
18 Jan 08
Thats a very good way of looking at it. We need to be aware of the words we use and how they will effect a person.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
3 May 08
I think sometimes ppl take things the wrong way b/c there is no emotion behind it. You can't see if someone is joking, laughing, giving you a dirty look or being sarcastic. I don't think it's any harder to talk to someone but I think it's easy to be misunderstood. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~