Some of my Friends have so many Friends...

United States
January 18, 2008 7:02pm CST
I'm wondering what's the point of having hundreds of friends on Mylot, if they never respond to any of your discussions. With so many Friends, my discussions would get lost in the shuffle. I currently have 37 Friends (too many, in my opinion) and at least half of them NEVER post a response to my discussions!
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@Adoniah (7515)
• United States
19 Jan 08
It ups your odds though. You never know who is going to be out and about at any given time. And do you ever check to see what part of the world folks are from? A lot of my friends are in really different time zones, like in different worlds almost. So they eventually show up after I have gone to bed. Then, I catch up with them the next day. It all works out. Some of them are so cool it is worth the wait!!!! Shalom~Adoniah
• United States
19 Jan 08
I must admit, the past few nights I have noticed there is really a nightlife here on Mylot! I never paid attention, I woudl ususally post in the morning (EST). So I'm seeing it's fun to talk to Friends in "real time". And you're right, it does up your odds to have a lot of Friends.
@Adoniah (7515)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Well, all the Good ones are out tonight any way.lol
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Jan 08
You have a good point about it upping the odds. Most people do at least check out the discussions of people on their lists, even if they don't always post to all of them. So eventually they'll likely get around to you! :P
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Jan 08
*laughs* I might be one of the people with too many friends! I'm just too nice to turn people down, unless they've already done something to seriously offend me. Personally I don't worry about whether all my friends respond to all my discussions. I just cherish and relish the ones who do. And I try to respond to my friends whenever they have discussions that interest me, but if I have nothing to say, then I don't respond. *shrugs* I haven't really had complaints from my friends about not being active enough on their discussions, so I guess I'm doing okay.
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• United States
19 Jan 08
Hello, lecanis! Well I have to say, we've only been Friends for a short time but you have been very good about responding to my discussions. So thank you!!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Jan 08
Aww I'm glad to hear that I'm being a good friend! :) Thanks!
@Adoniah (7515)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Hi, lecanis.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Your so right. I use to get upset when alot of my friends werent responding to my discussion. But since Ive been back I dont have as many friends as I did before and now these great new friends have been responding back to me. I think some people only care about having alot of friends on mylot but thats not important to me. Responding back to each other is.
• United States
19 Jan 08
Yep! I would rather keep my list small and keep it to people that I actually have discussions with!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
26 Jan 08
thanks for the best response!
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I have alot of friends on here. I like having them. I don't respond to every one of their discussions b/c some may not interest me or I may not know much about the topic but generally I reply even if it does take me a little longer. I also like having so many to pick from. It gives me alot of variety and keeps my attention more. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@drannhh (15235)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Some of them might have their notify off and not know it. What I've noticed, though, is a bit like what the farmgirls in the midwest used to reply if they didn't have a date when the boy they didn't like asked them out. They would say to their friends "Should I go out with him or wait to see if someone 'better' asks me." The friends would reply, "Go with him anywhere, some of HIS friends might be cute!" And then we would elbow one another and chant "EVERYONE has friends!" Rotten bunch we were, eh?
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@cbakhru (25)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I agree with you. Same thing goes for Myspace and other sites. What's the point of having hundreds of friends if you don't know them that well or even not at all and never communicate with them?
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@healer (1783)
• India
19 Jan 08
I am also one with many friends and all this is because i never rejected any friend request. Everyday i find new friend request and i always accept this but its so sad that these friends who have requested does not even bother to check my posts or profile after they have been added. And on the other hand i also do the same, but i don't understand why they keep on adding up friends when they don't bother to check after being added. I think many people here are like me only, who have got many friends but the discussions are blank.
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
19 Jan 08
I am one with a lot of friends, but i have been here a while, and i took a break, so a lot of the friends i have are friends from the past that do not mylot regularly or at all anymore, but i keep the ones that i remember and liked a lot incase they decide to come back. I do a little housekeeping once in a while. And i have added you or you added me recently and i will try to respond to as many of your discussions as i can ;) I also put notification on, on the friends that have really interesting discussions and that are very loyal to my discsussions as well. Its just fair, and respectfull to answer their discussions if they respond to yours right ? I like to think so anyways!
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I am not sure how many friends I have to be honest. I didn't turn down anyone that requested me as a friend when I started. Then I decided to choose a few of them to have their discussions sent to my email. If they stopped starting discussions that I had interest in, then I would take them off my list to send me the discussions and add someone else. I don't start many discussions myself, but do like to stay faithful to my friends and answer their discussions that pertain to me.
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
19 Jan 08
I try to limit my friends here, I've been a member on this site for a year and my friends list are still as the same as it was before. I maintain it to atleast less than 200, since I also delete some and add some. I guess others add almost everyone for them to earn at, like making friends to gather responses and earn more money only for their sake. I don't start most discussions, so I am mostly in responding. I always respond to most of my friends, especially those active ones, as much as possible. I remove those that are not active, those who starts discussions 20 to 30 times a day and then don't even take their time to comment on my responses. That's what I atleast look up for a friend here, since it doesn't really matter if they respond to my started discussions.