Do you have relationships with people of a different religion to yourself?

@babykay (2131)
Ireland
January 19, 2008 4:37pm CST
I am from a Catholic background. All of my friends and family are the same (Ireland can be pretty monocultural). I am no longer a catholic myself and many friends would say the same. Recently a close friend began to date a Hindu man, it seems to be working out well. Do you have close relationships with anyone from a very different background to yourself?
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Jan 08
I'm married to someone of a different religion, and have friends from many religions and backgrounds. I love having a diverse friend group, actually. I love learning about other people's beliefs, celebrating different holidays, and basically just broadening my horizons. The marriage issue is one a lot of people feel strongly about, but really having different beliefs works well for myself and my husband. He's Christian (non-denominational), and I'm a Celtic Reconstructionist Pagan. We go to an interfaith religious fellowship for people of many beliefs. :)
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19 Jan 08
Being of such disparate beliefs (and morals, political views, world views etc) makes for brilliant conversation and discussion. I live to learn and discuss and since being with my partner my own research into my own beliefs has increased ten fold, simply because he asks questions I never would have thought of... and I would hope vice-versa.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Jan 08
You make a really good point! Having someone else ask you questions about your beliefs and expect clarification also inspires you to do more of your own research. I know I've done that as well when someone asked me a question I couldn't answer offhand. It's interesting to me as well to see how very different beliefs lead to a lot of the same conclusions about how the world works or what we should be doing in it. It's amazing to me how many different belief systems have similar elements or ideas, and finding those common threads is always exciting for me.
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19 Jan 08
There seem to be a lot of these types of topics recently... must be a media thing. My partner is aetheist occultist and I'm Christian. We have been together for five years and have our own flat (we must be ne of the messiest couples on Earth!!). My friends are of many varying and interesting backgrounds and of several different religious persuasions; aetheist, agnostic, Methodist, Catholic, Jewish, occultist, Jehovah's Witness, Buddhist (of a sort...)... and a whole bunch I couldn't name.
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@urbandekay (18278)
19 Jan 08
Was nearly converted to Hinduism once, sounds seductive at first but... all the best urban
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@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
27 Jan 08
depends on what cast in Hinduism you were slotted into! Urban why is your rating going down and down each time I see you?
@urbandekay (18278)
20 Jan 08
Ah, sorry went a bit mad there, meant to post this on your other discussion. all the best urban
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@urbandekay (18278)
27 Jan 08
I don't know but started when I was arguing with an ardent atheist and have a couple of peeps that follow me around making inane comments. Not really something I give much thought to though. all the best urban
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• United States
19 Jan 08
I probably do. There are so many religions mixed up in the United States that you can encounter about twenty just walking down the street. I don't discuss religion with my friends, I just gravitate to those that are spiritual beings, you know?
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• Indonesia
20 Jan 08
My father and my mother comes from different religion and everything is going well so far. I enjoyed celebrating different festive and celebration. They teach me well to go along with people in different religion. I've ever date with someone from different religion too but that was not going well with his parents who wants their son only to have close relationship with the same religion.., Well that makes me broken heart.. In my country, it is not allowed to get married with different religion. Either one must converted to other religion. Lots of my friends get married abroad because of this law..
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
20 Jan 08
Hi babykay, I don't believe it has any great effect anymore. Many people are no longer attracted to religion. That doesn't me they don't have a belief, but that they see nothing in organized religion. I have a nephew whose wife is Buddhist, and they are very happy together. She has been welcomed into our family and he into her family. I was born and raised an Anglican, but my beliefs are very different today. Blessings.
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@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
27 Jan 08
Blessings (of the multicultural type) to you too!
20 Jan 08
yes im a british white women and catholic. i have been together with my partner for 4 yrs and his muslim from pakistan. we have a very strong relationship and also getting married too him. we are engaged but havnt fixed a date yet.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
20 Jan 08
i am a Catholic and my bestfriend is INC (Iglesia ni Cristo). and we totally get along fine. religion doesn't matter to us. even if sometimes, it keeps us apart. like when she's going to their mass and i go to ours. but we both have experienced attending mass together. i went to their mass and she went to our mass. ^__^ and even if they don't celebrate Christmas and other holidays that Catholics celebrate, we still greet each other give each other gifts. ^__^ i also have other friends under different religions. but no matter how different our beliefs, we get along fine because we respect each other and we don't let the teachings of our religions mess our friendship. ^__^
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Yes, I do. To me it doesn't matter what religion a person is in, so long as they are a good person. My husband is Episcopalian and I am Catholic. Our religions have never gotten in the way of our relationship.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
20 Jan 08
A person's religion is not even on my agenda when choosing friends or relationships. I have friends of all backgrounds.
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• India
20 Jan 08
I'm not involved with anybody right now. I'm not averse to having a relationship with someone from a different religion.
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@nyumix (1658)
• Belgium
20 Jan 08
Yes, I do have best friend which has different religion than me. But it does not matter for our relationship, we know each other already almost thirteen years. And we are still best friend.
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• United States
20 Jan 08
I am Lutheran and my husband is Catholic.My son in law is also Catholic.Having a different religion doesn't make me love them any less.
@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I do have close relationship with people from different backgrounds other than mine. We enjoy each other's company and learn from each other as well. Another reason it's great is because there's always a holiday to celebrate. What it boils down to is that we are all people. We respect each other - what we feel, what we believe. We can have conversations about our religious beliefs without feeling that we need to convert them to our way of thinking.
• Kuwait
20 Jan 08
Yes, i was a roman catholic before but i am now here in muslim country met my partner in life and get converted too,, it doesnt really matter what is the religion of a person when you get same belief and principles in life,,,i feel more comfortable,, though i still miss my old religion too...
• United States
26 Jan 08
Yes, like I said I married a man that was from a different religion than mine. WE married in his church and it was expected for me to change my religion and raise our children Catholic. The problem was I was 18 and pregnant when we got marriend and did not realize what I was getting into. We are still married our children went to the Catholic school so they got the religion. I am not catholic because my husband would not go to church with me, he was always working or had always had some excuse for not going. He does not want me to go to another church so after several fights I have decieded to leave religion our of our marriage. I am religious and live by the teachings. I just do not go to church.
@loneleaf (165)
• China
21 Jan 08
I don't care about this and most my friends have no religion faith, if had to say they have, i think they are antitheist, me too! Actually i am so curious about religion that once encounte any people that have faith, i want to make friends with him or her, sounds a little weird?
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I have aquaintances from every race, religion, creed, and many different countries. I am not married and I do not date nor do I intend to so I cannot answer to that. The more diversified your relationships the broader your horizons are as a human being. The more able you are to understand the people around you and what makes them tick. You are also less likely to commit a faux pas
• Indonesia
20 Jan 08
I would say.. as long as there is love (not only lust)... SO WHAT?! hahaha good luck
@coreytim (46)
• United States
27 Jan 08
Im pretty much in the situation you described. I was raised catholic (although now I am no longer one), and I am currently dating a Hindu. The cultural/religous difference really isnt noticeable or anything. She isnt even that Hindu, but her parents are so she goes along with it. I would say if you like someone dont care about anything else.