can this work?

You may be telling the truth about yourself but that doesn't mean he's telling the truth. People tend to make-believe on the computer. That's one of the reasons why I am a member here, so I can talk all I want about myself and my friends and family and there is no way they will ever find out because no one here knows who I really am. Not that I'm lying about anything but I can embezzle the truth and no one knows. I think you need to meet this person in a public place first, before you can make any real judgements. They could be so phony or they can be telling you the truth. You'll never know unless you meet him and how do you do that living so far apart. Don't go to his country to meet him because you never know what can happen. My daughter met someone online when she was 15 years old and he ended up raping her and putting her in the hospital. You can't trust everyone, not everyone is as nice as you.

They say a jorney of a thousand miles has to start with one footstep, I think the guy really care about, it does't really matter where you people meet, it has to do with the feeling that you have for him. I think you should give him chance and watch him to see if what he say he is; is true and from there, you can come up with a decision. I think it will work.

yes in some cases internet romances can work, but... be VERY wary!!!!! it is sooooo easy to lie on the internet! i have heard of many people being hurt with dating people they had met on the net... good luck!!

Proceed with caution! I married a guy from another country - he wasn't a US citizen and in the end, he only married me to get residency here. Shortly after all his restrictions were removed, he started cheating on me with a much younger girl. Now he is her problem! The problem with online romance is that you can say or be anyone you want to. My ex told me so many lies and I fell for the person he invented. After we were married and I saw the real person, I lost all trust in him because I never knew if I could believe what he was saying. In the end, my instincts were right. He lied to me from beginning to end. He used me. He betrayed me. So be careful and don't let loneliness be mistaken for love. You need to be with a person face to face so you can see their body language toward you as well as their words.

Hi mamakatsarj, I'm not saying that this cannot work but I think you have to be very careful. You have never met this person, he may be what he says he is, but then he may not. I've seen it work out well but I've also seen people have very bad experiences. Think about it and take care. Blessings.

This is good to find a pen-pal you feel comfortable with. I have and better said had plenty of pen-pals. They are all nice in the beginning, then, they became jealous, and posessive for me writting to others. I want friensdhip and not a commited relationship! Even if I made up my mind for a commited relationship, I won't take somebody jealous or possessive. I hate it when they bring false accusations against me and this is neither love or frindship. It is just being dominanmt!

I've been through this before and I have to tell you it's easy to get close to someone you haven't met on the net. You let your guards down and open up easily. If I were you, I'd take a deep breath and wait a little longer. Meet this guy and find out more. He says he is a police officer...you don't know for sure. Even seemingly shy people open up easily on the net and feel comfortable with a stranger. That's how the net is and you have to be very careful.

So you are in love over internet. there are many people who fall in love in internet. I think before committing, you can really check that person in real. Many times peopel cheat over internet. I am not telling it is also same. but be safe.

Relationships work better off when they're closer.If everything is going good, its fine.We just never know everything or the other side of that person.Some things can only be learnt when people are close.Its better to meet up and decide things to avoid anything from going wrong because of the distance.I am not totally disapproving of it, just that you have to be a bit more careful.Warnings are just to keep you from going too far too soon without knowing the end.When you're pretty sure about things,please do continue what you are doing.Hope it works out the way you like it.All the best.

Don't become another statistic that we read about in the paper. It's fine to continue chating with this individual but don't give him your address or phone number yet. He actually may live closer than you know just culling information from you. If after a month or so chatting, get his phone number and call him. By getting his phone number, that will tell you a lot or put you into a position to find out more about him. If you use all the resources available to you to investigate him and find that he is being honest, then you might consider meeting him in person but in a very public place where other people are around you.*********As a retired Police Captain, I would suggest that you find out what police department he says that he is working for and call him there to verify he is who he says. The reason I say to talk to him there is that he could be using the name of a person working there.*********I wish you true love, but be careful, there are many evil people that use chat lines looking for victims!!!!!!

Well, maybe you should think twice or even thrice before making a decision. In your situation you should also consider the opinion of your child about you having him. And usually people in the internet are fools. I'm not saying all but some of them really are. Just be careful about thinking and making decisions. Take things one at a time.

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I feel happy for you.i am glad that things are happening in your favour,There doesn't seem to be anything wrong if you;re sure about it.but the thing is that are you sure yourself?Being online in chat rooms and knowing people in virtual world is absolutely different from knowing people in real world.I would suggest that you meet him before you decide on it and be careful and also get his credibility looked after.though i sincerely hope that things work out great for you.

Don't rush on things first. and don't give you feeling 100% yet before you meet the guy in real person. you had to access that if what he tell you and how he potrays himself in internet are real or just fake. after meeting couples of time and both of you still feel the same, you can considered about the proposal.

You not only need to look at this through your heart but also through your mind. The chance of a relationship happening over the internet into a solid relationship are slim but it can happen. What you need to remember is that he can tell you anything at all and that doesn't mean it is true. I would be running a background check instead of taking his word only because you are meeting over the internet and wouldn't it be wise to be safe than later on be sorry and have your heart broke in two. I see this discussion was posted 3 months ago. So if you progressed with this relationship how did it turn out?

You know what? I was in the same situation! The only difference is that we weren't that far apart, only 40 miles and we met, got engaged 1 month later and got married a few months later. Yes, love will see you through whatever you throw at it, but I truly believe you two need to meet in person. It sounds like you both have fallen head over feet in love with eachother, and that is wonderful, but if you want to be together forever I think you two should really be together. It might be tough to do, but if you're truly in love, then you will work it out. God knows I would have moved the earth if that is what it took to meet my one true love.

i don't believe in love over the internet. it's natural to like each other especially if you find others very interesting and you feel comfort when you are in touch. it's called infatuation. i think you didn't know this person well. there is still a lot of big blank spaces until you meet this person and spend time with each other. you can only tell that this person loves you if he proves to you few things even simple things that show care. it's true that love starts from liking but it takes time or it develops through different ways.

Hello dear mamakatsarj. Long time no see. I am gald to see your new discussion today. Well, let's come to the point of the discussion itself. I think that this guy is nice based on the conversation in the discussion as both of you feel so good chatting with each other sincerely. But I think that it is a little bit difficult since you both live in different part of the world. If later you can both fill in the distance gap, it is still possible for you both to have a try to see how it works...Anyway, I wish you happy and content with your life now and ever.

It's really difficult to have a relationship just like yours my friend.. I believe that it is important for you to meet each other first before going into a more serious stuff like marriage. Sometimes people feel so comfortable with the ones they are chatting with online since they can tell everything that they feel which often times we cannot do to people who are real and not from the cyber world. At times, being so comfortable with these people we chat with makes us more vulnerable. Too much risks at stake. Be very careful my friend.. If it's true love that you have for each other, you would know BUT you have to meet first and see if what you have online is the same as what you can have in the real world. I wish you luck and may the Lord God bless you.

Chat room relationships can be quite diffrent than actual ones. Don't get your feelings to involved with this guy cause more often then not these types of things don't turn out the way you want them too. They can even turn very ugly. How do you really know this guy is who he says he is? If you were to ever actually meet him make sure it is in a public place and trust your insticts. I personally have never been involved like that with anyone online, So my best advise is be careful, don't let your feelings go to far just online, and be prepared for the worst that way you get the best!