Does anyone else feel alone in a group of more than 3?

January 21, 2008 7:09am CST
I tend to find that if I'm out in a group of two or three I feel more comfortable than when I'm with a group of 4 or more. Is that just a thing that I have or is it common with lots of people? I'm not exactly the most social person in the world so it might just be me. It just seems more difficult to communicate with large groups although I think three is a good number.
4 responses
@honeylore23 (1081)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I am a loner but not lonely (those two words are really different). I use to prefer being alone. At times, I feel alone and out of place when I am with more than 4 people, especially if I am not close to those people. I also feel alone, when I am in a group of people and they are talking something I have no knowledge of. I am having hard time dealing with them. I don't know why too, and I wonder why other people can mingle with them so easily and me can't. I do think that is has something to do with how we look at ourself, I mean our self confidence. Other reason might be because we are not really open to them. We are afraid to show who really we are coz people might think like this and like that.
21 Jan 08
Yes. I's about, self esteam, confindence, how out-going you are and whether or not you care. It's a shame that there are so many different feelings that push towards depression but than that's just life. It just gives you something to aim for and without that there'd be little point as far as I can see. I think the less we worry about it the better, although we can just better ourselves.
• India
21 Jan 08
I don't think so... I personally feel that when i m in group, no matter how big is group, then i feel confortable and also when i m alone... The thing that you want to know might be possible can be happen to many peoples in the world but i must say it is not true for me...
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Actually I feel left out and alone if they are more then two because it seems the others are always talking to each other instead of me. I can try to butt in and ask a question here and there but it doens't really work. So I am uncomfortable in large crowds and smallish ones.So it is not just you. I don't get out much or get alot of company except for kids so most times I am a little rusty on adult conversation.
• Australia
21 Jan 08
I get like that too! I think that some people like closer friendships than others which is a bit hard to do with a big group. There is a lot happening in a large group and it's hard to know where you should be focusing. It's also hard to know when to talk or to fit a word in if there are more people talking.