what love is...

Philippines
January 23, 2008 1:08am CST
Am i worthy enough to fell this thing called love at this age of 19? Well,I don't know if I am... I have a boyfriend and now,we're going 8 months long.He's working far from me and the only thing that binds us is only trust and love,maybe.yes,I am trusting him so much that every time,i am the one who understands if he failed to communicate with me.If he failed to remember our special day....because,he's reason is that,he's busy with his work. I try to understand him,maybe because of my love for him. last week,he calls me.He said,he's going home before valentines day comes.I ask him hen,but he answers me "surprise".I also believe what he says.2 days after,he's sister sent me a messages that he's already in Iloilo City,a place not so far from ours.One night,i decided to call him to ask when is he's arrival but,I'm so shocked upon hearing the voice on another line.It's a girl....It's really hurt that I don't know what to answer when she ask me if who I am...I quickly turn off my cellphone 'coz I can't afford to hear another words from that girl.Now,I don't know what to do.he breaks my heart....I waited him to call to explain what happen but,no one calls... I don't know what this mean.... Do I need to listen his side or that phone call is enough to conclude that he's making me fool? Do I need to forgive and understand him again or this is enough to be a martyr... what should I do now?
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6 responses
@gunlock (55)
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
Another issue of insecurity,. . . As the saying goes, "Do not jump to conclusions"... Do not make uneccessary actions without being sure of what really is happenin',. . trust me on this, investigate it.. .it's 8 months worth,
@bairuv (102)
• India
28 Jan 08
according to me love --- understanding is not only applicalbe for the man and woman ,boys and girl,husband and wife,boy friends and girl friends . mutual understanding is love -- u should think ,love is every were.how we are seeing that the love.
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
thank you...I am very thankful to all of you who respond and give me an advice to this problem....
@baronarthur (4187)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 08
Just show your love and see the truth. "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends." If he a liar, you will see it. My question is, "Do you really love him?" Better you answer it before you find the truth..
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
maybe yes...I'm in love with him because I wont act like this if not.I can't imagine myself crying in the midst of the night and in the entire day while counting back the memories we shared before...even crying in front of my instructors..in fact,I disregard my study for a week already because of this.But now,I realize,why do I'm wasting my tears just because of him.I want to forget,but how?maybe this will take time.... anyway,thanks for this very good response.this helps me to see the reality of life...
@bishu_sinha (1457)
• India
23 Jan 08
Love is what love does. Pls. try to investigate the real fact. If it is found that he is fall in love with another girl then try to understand the situation and make a self decession. God bless you.
• Philippines
24 Jan 08
maybe I have to...but it's really hard for me to make decision as of now...
@babymar (359)
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
you should talk to him and let him explain his side...coz you are not sure yet if it is his other girlfriend or not....what if she is just a friend or maybe a relative? it may be just a misunderstanding....talk to him and make him explain everything....if you feels like he is really cheating on you then breakup with him and try to forget him...
• Morocco
23 Jan 08
hi lib_assist19, if i were in your shoes(lol i'm a boy)i will forget him as he did,try again ,look for someone who really cares about you somone who loves you and who lives near to you beacuse as you said what love is if your boyfriend is living or working so far from you,that isn't a love for me,i'm a boy and i think that my girlfriend must be living near to me to see her every day because i love her very mush,so i advice you to forget him and be sur that there is a lot of boy who are ready for benne your boyfriens,just you have to chose one (lol!!!)
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
yes,maybe your right.It is better to forget him...as easy as this but,the question is,how?as of now,I can't tell when I will totally forget him.all I can say is....TIME WILL TELL. Thank you...