Smoke and Fire Last Night!
By CatsandDogs
@CatsandDogs (13963)
United States
January 24, 2008 12:32pm CST
Oh my gosh!! My husband let our puppies out to the bathroom and came back inside and said he smelled smoke outside. He thought it was a few neighbors chimneys that must've had fires going so no worry. This morning we wake up to the news and come to find out there was a trailer fire a street over from us in which a woman died. We were floored!! We now feel terrible because we just didn't know better and who knows, maybe we could've done something? 17 years ago, before I met my husband, I was living with my fiance and one Saturday night I stayed over my best friends place and woke up to finding out that our house caught fire and he was dead. Last night and this morning brought back a lot of memories of the hell I went through for months after. I met my husband about 2 months after it happened and he's was saved me from total distruction. Here I am trying to regroup from what our friend put me and my husband through and this happens to stir me up once again. Geeze... is there ever an end to this nervousness?
There really isn't a need to respond but please do if you want. It's really a venting for me in hopes to get it off of my chest and out of my system....
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6 responses
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Jan 08
You said that if you had known about the fire last night, maybe you could have done something. It sounds like you may have suvivors guilt about what happened 17 years ago. I am so very sorry that this happened to you. I could not imagine going through it.
But, you must forgive yourself for not being there 17 years ago. I know that you are probably thinking that if only you had been there that night, you could have done something to save him. That may be true, but everything in life happens for a reason and you were not there, because you were not meant to be there.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
25 Jan 08
If you were standing right in front of me.... I'd give you one big hug. Thanks for your kind and true words.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Yes I was pretty impressed too. She can be pretty uncanny sometimes. She sure did hit the nail on its head. However, I've come to terms with it though, enough to get on with my life.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jan 08
I try to focus on the positive's in life but when something like this happens, it's hard not to reflect in the past. It's even harder when it's in the neighborhood and so close to us where we could see the smoke and smell it too. Thanks for responding!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
25 Jan 08
Sweet do not go through the Guilt Trip as there would have been others to that would have woke up from it and not been able to do anything so please there is nothing you could have done
As for yourself you certainly would not have been able to help due to what happened to you
And yes it will bring Pain and Memory back
Try to calm yourself and please Honey you could NOT have done anything
Big Hugs to you
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Thanks for your sweet and kind words gabs. You're such a sweet and thoughtful friend!! You sure know what to say and when. Big hugs to you too my friend!
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@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
5 Feb 08
That is horrible--in both cases. So sorry you have to deal with the bad memories all over again. I know there is likely nothing I can say to help you feel better, just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and affected families. I think God must have been watching over you the first time, keeping you safe and calling your first fiancee home for reasons we may never understand. I am so glad you are here on mylot with us though...
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
7 Feb 08
You're right. God has plans for me and is why he saved my life but gosh, for the life of me, I don't know what it is! LOL Thanks for your nice thoughts...
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
26 Jan 08
You go ahead and vent all you like hon...you probably need to get things out...it's better than bottling things up and holding them in.
I wish I was wealthy so I could shout you and hubby a holiday out here to Australia where you could relax and get away from everything for a while. Hope you're both ok.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
7 Feb 08
Hi MsTickle :) Please forgive my slowness. I hate to leave anyone out that's responded to my discussions but sometimes life has it's own way of doing things. lol Oh I would love to come to Australia if only I could! It would be so nice to just get away from everything fimiliar. Thanks, I wish we all wanted for nothing but then again, we wouldn't have anything to wish for, would we?
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
24 Jan 08
i will say a prayer for the womans family. I'm sure it was hard to cope with the loss of your fiance and this would really bring back those memories. Ventig always helps.
