Why am I always the bad guy?

United States
January 24, 2008 1:38pm CST
I'm going to admit before I even begin this that I did have a reputation for being hot tempered in my younger days. Since marrying and three kids later I have learned a great deal of patience and forgivness. However I do have a breaking point and it always makes me out to look insane and I'm sick of it. A long time buddy of my husbands bought the house next door to us about a year ago and now thanks to me we have to act as if he doesn't live there. After he moved in we (and others) realized he wasn't the person we thought he was. He's a nasty slob who tears up everything he and others own without regret. He also likes to act as if he know EVERYTHING and anything he owns torn up or not is better than ours. Over the years he's cost us thousands of dollars mostly by our 4wheeler and dirt bike. I have overlooked these things because I felt he was a friend. He lives between us and another couple in which we made our group. We play pranks on each other regularly even going as far as hiding peoples trucks. He has always been involve with this. A few weeks ago he was getting a new roomate so we all agreed that if we were going to play one on him it needed to be soon. It was forgotten until the night before his roommate was moving in. A friend of ours' 15 year old daughter was at my house and wanted to pick on him like we ALL do to each other so I agreed. Being unplanned we took a 12oz (small) container of cake icing and smeared it on his steps rail and truck. No biggie. He would see it in the morning. HA HA. We help clean it up like WE ALWAYS do. Instead he decided to leave everyone ugly text messages saying he wanted it gone now throughout the day which escalated into him coming to my house and the other neighbor's and going off about it saying no one was allowed on his property any longer. I found this going a little far since the neighbors had nothing to do with it and he knew this. This went on for days and he became angrier when I would tell him who all was invloved. I'm not outing a 15 yr old to this nonesense. I told him to drop it and please return my house and shop keys. Then it was different. He did not return my keys or even mention them and decided to act as if nothing happened. Then one evening he calls because he's been trying to pull out an old fence post from MY yard where we were taking down a fence and can't get one out. His friend needs it. I'm sorry I know this may be petty but you t reat me like this and then think its ok to take stuff out of my yard? Ok so years of junk has just built up on me and I'm sick of it. I was good. I ignored him. Acted like he wasn't there. Then one evening a cousin of ours is visiting him for some reason and sees my hubby outside. He tells him to come over. I asked my hubby not to go because I didn't want to get stuff started. Of course Im being stupid so I said atleast don't go in. Just find out what he wants and come back. He went in. Later my husband and his cousin are in our shop doing something and I was sitting on the back porch talking on the phone. Here comes the neighbor/x-friend. I had enough. I didn't want him near me and here he was. Not at the shop, but at me! I told him that if we weren't allowed on his property then he needed to get back over there on his. No cussing or anything. Now all the guys around here think I'm insane and are telling everyone how I just go off on everyone. This is the stupidist stuff I've ever been through.
1 response
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
25 Jan 08
Well, if your "practical jokes" were reciprocal and something both you and the neighbor participated in, then I don't see what his problem was, unless he was just worried about it still being there when the new roomate showed up, getting a new roomate can be stressful. And as for acting like nothing happened, guys have the corner market on that. They forget about these things very easily and he had already forgived and forgot and probably doesn't even know why you were mad. Women are always the bad guy in situations like this, if you can tolerate the neighbor then I would say let it go, the guys will forget about it soon enough.
• United States
25 Jan 08
Forgetting is the problem. I really don't care about it anymore but he's still running his mouth to everyone. He's making me out to look crazy and no one seems to acknowledge the fact that he went off first. As far as the roommate goes..he is also a cousin of ours, so he wasn't a problem. It is very complicated since ALL of his friends are either related to me or he met through me. This is just so stupid and it isnt the first time something like this has happened. Im just sick of all the guys letting it go between them but what I do can never be forgotten.
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@Aurone (4757)
• United States
27 Jan 08
eh, it sucks but sometimes men (boys) are like that.