Are you compulsive ?
January 25, 2008 10:03pm CST
I never was but since my recent hospital admission i fear that i have developed a bit of compulsiveness towards my house .Each day i get up early and do relatively the same things at the same time.I get very frustrated now if the kids leave anything out of place .All day long i find i am putting things back into their place even if they are not finished with them .I annoys the hell out of me to walk into a room and find just one thing out .Even to the extent of a cushion on the chair being in the wrong position . I was never like this before and am starting to worry that it may get out of control ( is this healthy / where does it stop ). Do you have any similar behaviours and how do you cope with it ?
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• United States
26 Jan 08
Its so nice to "see" you again. I haven't seen you in a long time and was wondering how you have been. I hope things are well with you. I think some of the problem is your needing to control something. You can't control your health, your medical condition, your treatment. It had to be scary going thru all that, and not being in control of any of it. The house you can control, thats what it sounds like to me. I would go batty if I let stuff like that bother me too much. I have too many people, kids and critters in and out of my house. Sure I would like things to be nice and stay nice. But I have learned that life is too short to worry about stuff like that. Take care and good luck Hope, you are often in my thoughts.
26 Jan 08
Thankyou Polly it`s so nice to be able to be back with friends once again .It`s true you don`t know just what you have got until you have not got them anymore. The treatment and all that which i have gone through and still am is totally out of my control even to the extent it has caused some major things to resurface .But yes i know i have always wanted a really clean house but somehow just never had the energy or the will power to keep it that way .I suppose having the five kids and looking after many others i never really had the time .Now there is only hubby myself and two kids left and as you said the need for control i have focused on the house in a wat i`m not sure if it`s out of control or not i just do not know where you can draw that line . But i know as soon as i`m up in the morning i start even before my morning cuppa and i do not stop until it`s all where i like it . but hey i need something as you said to control and the house is as good as any . My battle is an ongoing one that maybe some day i will beat ( well am having a darn good try at beating it )It has taken it`s toll but for now atleast i`m here to talk of it so it must be a good thing. Take care and stay safe my friend.
26 Jan 08
Hi _hope_, I am glad to see your doing ok. I think you may be developing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) http://www.reachout.com.au/default.asp?ti=279 Please do go speak to someone before it gets to a stage where it is really hard to control.
26 Jan 08
Hi merrymell it`s good to be back if only for a short time . I am seeing a psychologist every two weeks not sure if we talked about this yet but have on another obsession i have begun to show so will talk next week about this then .I didn`t realise i even had avy until one day when i thought to myself why do some people drive me crazy .
15 May 08
Two people I know are compulsive. One is my brother but he has some mental health issues like depression, anxiety, panic attacks and the like. He has to check everything half a dozen times, if he misses seeing or hearing the news on tv or radio, he gets very stressed. The other is my partner but hers is only when there are problems with my daughters or even her daughters. Then she wants everything in the place perfect. There is a place for everything and she insists that it goes in its place. Even something like the tractor has to be put back in the shed and that is even if we are only taking a break for lunch, which would be say half an hour. Think it is related to mental health for those who suffer from it. It will pass though, or at least it does for my partner once the problems settle down.
• Calgary, Alberta
17 Apr 08
Hi hope,one thing to look at is that you are not as busy as you were before,but it is in your system to be this busy,now with most of the kids gone,and how many critters you are looking after is probably fewer,this is how you are compansating for it,maybe find a couple more joey's. Glad to be able to chat again with you.
17 Apr 08
Hi Hope, I think its all the stress of surgery and I am glad you are seeking help from a professional. You have had a hard life and bore too much of the pain, more than a single person can handle. Keep going I am sure, you will get over it soon. Next time you itch to do something around the house just take a look at the sky and see how beautiful it is. How dirty the nature is- all dust and unplanned bushes but how beautiful they go togehter. Find peace in this and just walk out of that room. I also have some obsessive behaviors like washing my hands frequently and It does take a tremendous will power to get over that need to do something. Wish you all the best and hugs.