When and how, do you Break Up with your Hair Dresser?

United States
January 26, 2008 8:10am CST
I have been going to the same guy to get my hair cut and colored for a few years now. I have become disappointed with him in the past few visits and am trying to get the courage to "break up" with him. My last visit 4 weeks ago was the last straw. He simply did not have "time" for me, but was very happy to accept the 140 for services and the 10 dollar tip. The woman before me received my extra 15 minutes. I wonder how much she tipped him? The visit before that he was very cold and aloof and the visit prior to that one, I took my son and he was very rude to him. My question, How do you break up with your Hair Dresser?
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8 responses
@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
2 Feb 08
I used to have a hairdresser who was the one designed my hair styles and advised me to put the highlights on my hair. I was very happy with her until last year. Without any reasonable reasons, she started cutting my hair hurrily and left me to her assistance to blow dry my hair. When I consult her for the colour for my highlights, she just showed her impatience. For many times, she just left me waiting for half an hour or more without saying apologies. I told myself enough is enough. Before Christmas last year, I changed another new hairdresser and am pleased with the new one.
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@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
3 Feb 08
Very well said, JanisRemaxRealtor. We are the customers who pay the bills. Who wants to pay without receiving a good haircut and service? After all we are the one make the decision. By the way, my new hairdresser is a woman.
• United States
2 Feb 08
I have no idea what goes through people's minds when they are providing a service and get paid for it, why in the world would they be rude and provide poor service? The reason you go to them was because of the good rapport you built over the years, and that is the reason you stay. This guy was unacceptable, made me feel like I was imposing on his time (that I was paying dearly for)..........it's over! I will find some one closer to home that is just as good and nice to me :) I am glad you are happy with your new person now. Is it a man or woman?
• United States
5 Feb 08
My guy, is a guy that does hair for the Limited and Express models for their runway shows in New York, LA and all over magazines. He really does, usually do a good job. I just didn't like his rudeness. I have cancelled the appointment and will find someone here closer to home. My time is just as valuable as any one elses :)
@coffeebreak (17797)
• United States
1 Feb 08
If he isn't concerned about hurting your feelings, why should you be concerned about hurting his? Could be his is trying to tell you he doesn't want to do your hair anymore, get lost, and instead of just not taking your appointment, he takes it, takes all your money and does a bad enough job hoping you will go elsewhere. Him doing that is just hurting himself.. he looses your money, and you aren't going to give him any referrals or recommend him to anyone, so he looses. Just call, cancel your appointment nad find someone else. I was always one to give the bene of the doubt, turn the other cheek, all those things, until I just got trampled on so many times, I finally woke up and smelled the enchilladas burning! Look out for yourself.
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• United States
2 Feb 08
I am a Libra, I am always concerned about keeping a good balance in all relationships in my life. From my children, parents, boyfriend, clear down to the guy that cuts my hair and the check out person at Kroger.........But, the last visit and him being rude to my son was it for me.........now, where to go? I have been asking everyone I know! The enchilidas smell just about right and I am leaving to go eat them :)
• United States
5 Feb 08
The moment he was rude to my son would be the time to break up.I am not a parent but I do know you are not rude to children.I am sorry about this. I know a good hairdresser is hard to find.But he/she is out there. Good Luck.
• United States
7 Feb 08
Question. Do you have a girlfriend who's hair yo like? Ask her where she gets it done. Or if you are abold person. Whenever you see a woman with great hair, ask her where she gets it done. Good Luck. I'll keep my fingers crossed.
• United States
5 Feb 08
Yeah, he's gone. I made the call. Now, my real work begins to find a new person. My son is 17 and I thought this guy would give him the type of hair cut he wanted. Well, he didn't and on top of that, I just didn't like the way he treated me last time and my son. So, the search begins...............
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@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
Have the courage to say, "I'm sorry but lately, I'm not satisfied with how you cut my hair and all those." And tell that guy all your reasons!
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• United States
26 Jan 08
Thank you for that. I am sort of the person that will try to avoid conflict or hurt feelings at all costs. My next appointment is scheduled for 2/29 and I need to call as soon as I can. Would you worry about hurting his feelings? I wonder if he would apologize and talk me into staying longer. I did not mention I also drive about 25 miles to get there. I am sure I could find someone else just as good, cheaper and closer.
@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
31 Jan 08
This boils down to service. You can tell him straight out that you are unhappy, or just find a new stylist and never look back. I have had different stylists and I just make an appointment with a new person and don't book again through the person I didn't like. Maybe he thought he deserved a better tip. I think the going rate is around 10-15% for haircuts. But in my opinion they still have to earn their tip. And you weren't happy. He should take it as a sign that maybe his work was lacking since he got a lower tip. That does not excuse him being rude to your son. For that alone I would leave.
• United States
2 Feb 08
Being rude to my son was the beginning, now with the last visit, that was the end..............now the search begins for a new person.
• South Africa
27 Jan 08
I view this kind of treatment as a bad service, and I personally hate to spend my money on a service that was not delivered. You are in no way obliged to continue using the same hairdresser much in the same way you can shop around for the best insurance qoutes.Would you return to a restaurant that served you inedible food??? I think not... You do not have to break up with your hairdresser, simply take your business elsewhere.
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• United States
27 Jan 08
You really are correct. I have a serious problem with conflict and am a very loyal person. I have been going to him for years. I had a hard time after over 20 years switching my insurance last year! Thanks for your input, it makes it easier to make the break due to bad service. Have a good day!
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
3 Feb 08
I would just stop going. I don't think you owe him any kind of explanation. He'll soon figure it out.
• United States
3 Feb 08
Thank you. That is pretty much what I have decided to do. I just don't know where to go next. I will ask some people I know around town. I would prefer to go someplace closer. I had to drive about 25 miles to that guy. I am sure I'll be able to find someone real good right here close to home.
• United States
5 Feb 08
I would just find myself a new one and Esta Izvestia baby! rotflmao or something like that. Hey it's my money I am shelling out, and at 140.00 a pop I not only expect your attention I demand it. If you can not give me what I want, I have no problem at all moving on. For goodness sakes do your homework on a new hair dresser though. You don't want to jump out of the frying pan into the fire.
• United States
5 Feb 08
He's gone baby! I love all of the encouragement I get here :) You're right about homework on a new person though....geez, now the real work begins!