invasion of privacy

United States
January 26, 2008 3:57pm CST
i am so upset i could scream! my mother came to me with disturbing news this morning last night she got on the computer and noticed that my stepdad had been on and left his email account on. right there on the screen was a private story i had written and saved off on a disk. the day i wrote it my stepdad demanded that i let him read it and i kindly said no. i explained that it was a story i wrote for me and that i did not want anyone to read it not even my mother. well i don't know how he did it but he found the disk and read the story then sent it to my ex. when my mother confronted him he said she had no right reading his emails but he has the right to do whatever he pleases because he is a man. i was so upset that i deleted every story on that disk. i want to move out but have no money and their are no apartments available and i have a two week old baby to care for.
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8 responses
@Adoniah (7515)
• United States
26 Jan 08
As long as you live under their roof, you do have to live by their rules. In the future, do not use their computer. Either use a friends computer and put things on disc as you have ben doing, or use a computer at the library. Then get a lock box that you can either lock in your room, or leave at trusted friends house and keep your personal discs in it. That way, not only can no one in the house read it, they will not even know it exixts so there will be no questions or demands. Shalom~Adoniah
@leeesa (885)
• United States
27 Jan 08
Living by someone's rules is one thing, but everyone is still entitled to their privacy. He had no right to do that! Just because it's his house doesn't mean that he can go through everyone's things. It's not like she was smoking pot or something that definitely would have negative impact on the household. It was her personal thoughts. And to say "because I'm a man" or whatever, that is utterly rediculous. We aren't living in caves anymore.
@lightningd (1041)
• United States
27 Jan 08
Well, I guess the first thing I would have to ask is who's computer is it that you wrote the stories on? Where did you store the discs? I mean, I learned a long time ago that if you want something kept private, you have to guard your privacy with your life. Also a little known fact, everything you type into a computer can be recalled if a person knows how to access it. It is possible that he didn't find your disc, but was able to access it from the computer's hard drive. There are also programs called key loggers that record every stroke on the keyboard and they are sent to the person designated when the program is set up. I guess if you want to move out, you are going to have to find a way to get the money to do so.
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@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
29 Jan 08
You have every right in the world to be mad. It doesn't matter if you do live in his house and if he is the "man" If you had wanted him to read it, you would have let him read it. I don't see where he get's off saying that just because he is a "man" he has the right to do whatever he wants to do. I was always under the impression that when you were in a relationship that it was 50-50. So why does he have all the control? Have you ask any of your friends about moving in with them? If he found the disk it must mean he was going through your stuff, even if he wasn't your step dad and he was your bf or husband I dont see how he has the right to go through your personal stuff that was suppose to be kept private. I really don't think he would like it if he did something in private and you went through his things and found out what he did, and not only read it but sent it to some of the people that he knew? I think that he was in the wrong because you do have a right to your privacy!
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
27 Jan 08
it is hard sharing a place with the folks...I've been there, trust me! You learn ways to keep private things private after awhile...like making all the text in your documents white and in a non readable font...and naming them boring things like resume.doc...lol
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
27 Jan 08
I had the same situation before with my dad when he read my mails when they arrive...its not like its an important email, i just dont want anybody opening my mails when i havent opened it up yet. The i told them im mad and that its invasion of privacy..from them on, no one reads my mail when they arrive if the recepient havent opened it yet.i told them i can share it to them whatever is inside the mail and not do things before i even get it. I still live with them until now..i think its a matter of talking things out without getting mad and calmly...you just need to tell them that its your privacy.
@leeesa (885)
• United States
27 Jan 08
Sounds like he has trust issues. He's probably spying on your mom too. It you save it on a disk, where did you hide the disk? I would be worried if he is going through your private things. If I were you, my first priority would be to find a way to move. I know how tough that can be. I had a baby when I was 16 and lived with my mom and stepdad. I need to get out, so I moved into an apartment with a friend of mine. Neither of us had much money, but we made it work. Do you have anyone you could share a place with?
• United States
27 Jan 08
I definitely hear what you are saying. It would be very agrivating if somoene did something like that to me. That's why I moved out of my parents house before they started snooping in my business seeing who I was dating, listening to phone calls and all that other cool annoying things they do.
• China
27 Jan 08
it's really annoying .i wonder if you can encode the documents.