My bestfriend loves my boyfriend...

That's definitely one helluva betrayal of trust, I guess that your friend's bestfriend is not a friend at all. The most appropriate term for her is, a snake, that cloaked herself and pretend to be a friend. This did occurred to me one time, but that was during my teenage days. It's different from the situation you're friend has been to, so the best thing is to finalize whatever misunderstanding the three of them have. Whoever the man chooses would be final, just to put closure in it. But on the other hand, I envy that man (whoever he was). Could be one of those Adonis-type of guy, who got torn between two feuding friends. Ah, I guess that's how love goes..

I know of a person who have the same story, her bestfriend stole her man and she was really devastated but this woman I knew never gave up. After a week or two of being depressed, she went out of her shell. First, she reinvented herself, changed her looks and the way she dress up. After a year, she married this genius and nice man who is far, far better that her unloyal boyfriend. Your friend should be thanksful that she had seen the true color of her BF and her bestfriend. At leastm they are not yet married right? There a lot of men out there who are loyal and faithful so don't cry over it anymore. I just wish that this former BF won't cheat her traitor gf.Oh well! They just deserve each other you know and your friend deserve someone better.

I almost can feel the hurt your friend feels... because it also happened to me some years ago. I had a bestfriend almost like a sister to me. He knows I had a boyfriend that I really loved so much that I even disobey my parents just to be with him. She always accompany wherever we go, just to let my parents think I'm with my bestfriend, so that they would allow me.. But I never thought that when we three are together, she made passes on him. It's too late when I know that something serious had been happening to them without my boyfriend breaking me up first...It's all thing ofthe past now but it's really painful that I can't forget till now what they'd done to me.

hi fellow Filipina!Well,me and my friends never quarreled over a guy though two of my friends almost did.How did they deal with it?well,one just opened her mind about the issue and she didn't let the guy come between their friendship.

itz your bestfriend's fault, in the first place why did she let go of her boyfriend?.. Then she says she still loves him??? The hell,. . Do not make the situation as an excuse to your own fault.. .

that's the worst thing that could ever happen to a person...imagine? your own best friend ever betrays you? of all people? why she? it's okay if your boyfriend's new girl is the one you doesn't really know or is someone that is not close to you....it hurts to breakup with someone you love but it hurts more when the reason for breakup is your own best friend....

Obviously, your friend is better off without these two snakes in the grass in her life. She should shake their "dust" off her sandals and move on. They're obviously not worth the emotion she has lavished on them. Good riddance to bad garbage. This is the ultimate betrayal and if it were me, nothing will ever be the same again between any of those people and me, so tell your friend that she has probably avoided a more major headache in her life by these two going off and stabbing her in the back now than later. Can you imagine if they were already married??? Take your friend to a nice private place, bring several boxes of Kleenex, listen to her pour her heart out, tell her to cry, scream, punch a pillow (not you, or you can offer to join her, LOL!). And share with her this truth: when relationships break up, several things are precursors to this--and it could be one, two, or several reasons. One reason is that the people we meet and who become close to us are people we have had contacts with in our previous lifetimes. We all agreed, even before we were born, that we are going to meet and have relationships with them in this lifetime, because we have issues we have to resolve (karma), and/or we have lessons that we have to learn through them (university of life lessons). Or maybe your friend's vibration may not match anymore those of her boyfriend's and best friend's--she may have risen above them. We release people who no longer match our vibrations out of our lives, because we have probably learned all we can from them (even something as painful as the betrayal)in this lifetime. Her vibrations may now be higher or more fine than those two people's, so she could not hold on to them anyway. Conversely, her vibrations will now attract to her relationships that are more in tune with her. So tell her that the best is yet to come. Tell her that she should concentrate and meditate every day starting from five minutes and increasing it to however long when she feels comfortable, on joy, fulfillment, happiness, love, forgiveness--all the beautiful emotions. This exercise will raise her vibration and attract to her people who are more in tune with her. Tell her to release and let go. Forgiveness and release will create a vacuum in her life, which will then fill with what she wants. Nature abhors a vacuum. She will get the love she deserves sooner than she expects. Focusing her emotions of grief, sadness, and betrayal amplifies these negative things and repels good from her. Good luck to your friend. She is lucky to have you.

Sure that was kind of unethical for her best friend to "get jiggy" with her ex. But ultimately your friend can only blame herself. If she still loved him, why did she break up with him? Just because of the long distance? I don't think that's good enough a reason.

Well first of all, this girl was not her best friend. Best friends don't do things like that, no kind of real friend would do something like that. She has loss two people that she thought cared for her. That is a pretty tough pill to swallow. I hope that she learns from this mistake. You have to choose the people in your life very carefully. All you can do is be there for her and help comfort her. Show her what a real friend is like.

In my opinion, this is the most painful of all pains. I view it as a complete betrayal from both my friends - best friend and boyfriend. Personally, I would let both of them go with my blessings. There is no point trying to hold him back. Without trust, there cannot be love and love no more.

Oh my gosh, I would probably freak out! Well, it's that worse that your bestfriend falls in love with your man and that is just a big thorn in the butt! It happened to me, but the guy wasn't my boyfriend. The girl wasn't like my closest best friend but she knew that I liked the guy. And for that fact, when we went to a birthday party, she had the nerve to flirt out with him. And what an idiot the guy was to respond to that flirtness when he even told me he liked me. Well I don't regret because my mom said he wasn't even worth a single feeling. My best advice would be, if the girl was your best friend she should've told you sooner, no matter how hurtful it was. Honesty is honesty and truth does lacerate the heart than the tongue. If you're truly best friends you'd reciprocate and respect others' feelings. It's such a tough decision to keep both your loved one and your bestie, but you'd see the good thing in the end eventually. Usually, the guy isn't worth the fight - it just makes his head blow up like a balloon. But then again, if the girl really liked the guy and DID made a move without you knowing, then she's definitely a traitor.

Well, this is sad and really betrayel by both, by best friend as well from her Man and when u saw them and its sure u cant get along with both of them as u will always be suspicios so its better to take it as reallity and try to cover up Best of Luck to her

Both parties are guilty here and the most guilty person here is her boyfriend........he owes her an explanation........Don't accuse this gal so much becuase you never know maybe the man has been eyeing her all along and he got a perfect chance to convince her, maybe he told her that your friend gave him a go-ahead to date her best friend. Men are very cunning sometimes and they can really take advantage of a situation. That man does not deserve a second chance though your friend should listen to both sides of the story to know who was in the wrong. Sorry for her.

OMG! I would die losing my partner and my bestie on the same day! i think this is disgusting and although she may still love her boyfriend she has to write the both off and move on, it sounds harsh but i would never be friends with my bestie again and therefore could never love my partner in the same way again. This would have shattered this girls trust. I would be outta there somewhere new and start again!

uhoh. betrayal in any form is still betrayal, her bestfriend should haven't fell for her ex in the first place. what ever the girl would say to make her feel alright there still no excuse for what she did.

Yikes! I dont know what to say about this kind of situation, seems like a scene in a movie and yet we are amazed how movie scenes could happen in real life. AT least you are there ready to support your friend who is now in deep distress. This could be very painful on her part knwoing that even her best friend did this to her. I neve thought friends could be that untrustworthy. Maybe they were not really meant for each other. Maybe the friend was never a friend after all.

That is messed up. My friend or so I thought she was was the same way. I hate people like that. Your doing good by being there for her it will be hard for her to get over it and to trust other poeple. Even though she doesn't feel it now one day she will be better off and find someone else better. Keep up the good work.

It's in the cardinal rule book of best friendship to not date one's ex. I would say that it's the ultimate betrayel. My best friend at one time slept with my now ex-husband .. What I did is cut them both out of my life forever.

That's y ple always says, do not ever fall for ur frenz ex or good fren's bf or ex bf :( This is a serious thing because even though broken up, the feeling is still there, unhappiness when u see him/her with another guy/gal, but now u have no power to stop them anymore.. Wat i can advise is that, stay away from both of them till ur fren had cooled down or had given up on them..

Hey there mycharm88! The story of your friend is really so sad. I could even relate to that a little. I know how painful it is to lose someone so special in your life. What is even worse is losing two special people in one's life. The best friend and the love of one's life. It has somehow happened to me way way back. It was really so painful but I still manage to smile and continue my life for my life must go on. I just put in my mind that God will never leave me empty. Some things or people may have left me but I know the best is yet to come. It is so sad yet reality always bites and that's life. We should always bear in mind that life is never fair.