How Will I Know?

@carolbee (16230)
United States
January 28, 2008 8:00am CST
How will I know when the right time comes along to write a book about my life as an adopted child? Keep telling myself it's not the right time. Actually, I don't have the skills to write and eventually will be looking for someone to help me write about my interesting but crazy life.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
Its a last minute decision really. You can't really give a definite time to distinguish to write something like that. You just write it out when you feel like it. Some might just write a particular part of their lives and then continue another one when they get intersted on writing something again. Autobiographies are like that. Biographies, on the other hand are those written about people, by other people.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Glad you set me straight on the autobiography. I really didn't realize the difference. Thanks for responding.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
No problem! Glad that I was able to help in some way ^_^
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
28 Jan 08
Hello dear carol bee friend. I think that you could try to write your own story in the first hand and later ask one of your friends who is good at writing to help modify what you have written so that you can have it published if you wish you. Happy writing and practising. I am sure that you will succeed in writing if you keep practising.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Not sure how to start the book but sure know how to end it. Guess I should start doing something with it or it will never happen. Thanks for responding.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
28 Jan 08
what are you waiting for? why not start writing the first draft? i dont think you should delay...people are waiting to hear your story! what kind of help are you looking for?
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Jan 08
My biological father is still alive. He's a minister now and his kids just found out about me. I don't want to stir up any issues by writing something that might damage his character. Names can be changed but to get the "hang" of how this all happened, I have to go way back in life to a small town. Thanks for responding.
• United States
28 Jan 08
Hi carolbee, The desire within you to write your story is already there. How will you know when the right time comes? It will come when you least expect it. The seed is growing inside you. The words are coming together everyday. The memories, the drama, the heartache and the good times are collectively forming into your very own words, as it happened. Actually, you DO have the skill to write it all down. All you have to do is write it, just as you would speak it. You don't need all the fancy words or phrases. The best words, the best story you can tell will be told just as if you were telling it to your best friend. You might have someone help you with grammar and spelling, but the best told story will be in your own words, as it happened, as you remember it. The time will come when all you want to do is let it out. The time will find you......you don't have to look for it to come...... Then, you will suddenly look at your first draft and emotionally write,,,,,, The End........which will only be a true beginning. Good luck.......
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Thanks for the good advice. The spelling and grammar shouldn't be an issue. I could have my husband proof it once I've begun to put something on paper. Thanks for responding.
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Good morning carolbee. Might I suggest you get a tape recorder and tapes and anytime you think of things for your book you can put on tape until you are ready to write or have it written for you. I am not a writter either, heck I even have problems wording things on here and at times things pop in my mind and later I find myself trying to remember what it was I had thought of earlier. My brother loves to work in our family tree and he has met with many elderly relatives and just sat with them and told them to just talk about all they can remember and he was recording it all. As for the right time? That is for you to know, it will all flow I think when the time is right. As the saying goes "Never put off for tomorrow what we can do today" or something like that. LOL
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Great ideas you have. Guess I should start off making some kind of outline or number the events from the beginning of my life. I still don't know all the details but most. Thanks for responding.
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
28 Jan 08
I would love to read your book when it hits the book stores. My sister in law was put in an orphanage when she was young but not a baby so of course it was hard for anyone to want to adopt her but someone finally did. Sorry to say her adopted live was not a good one but she is one great person today.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
28 Jan 08
When you sit down and find ourself writing it. Suddenly, you'll want to write about one event in a notebook. Then another event. Or you'll start an outline. Something will happen that will trigger it. Then you will write. Get a notebook and keep it handy.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Very good ideas. It will take time. I did talk to an author a few years ago and she couldn't help since she doesn't write those sort of books. Guess I could try it on my own. Might up end a joke book...lol Thanks for responding.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Jan 08
depends on how serious you are, that is the bottom line, take a few writing courses to get the hang of it and then go from there. I have written two books already
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Took a writing class in college but that was a few years ago. Have to apply what I learned with the facts and take it from there. I am serious about a book but keep thinking it's the wrong time. What kind of books did you write? That's interesting. Thanks for responding.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Jan 08
i wrote my life story, then I wrote a novel
@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Why don't you start writing a journal about your every day activities and feelings? You will eventually get to write your book that way by writing down your autobiography or memoirs.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
4 Feb 08
I could start a journal with my past feelings but am thinking in terms of starting with an outline from birth until now. Then add what I can recall from the past and important memories. I'm older now and will have to cover many many years. Thanks for your response.
@whittby (3072)
• United States
4 Feb 08
I would say just go for it and start writing. You can organize it all later. The more you write, the easier it may get. Once you have it written down, you can get it critiqued and get some help with grammar, outline or whatever. I bet there are so many stories and ideas you have stored up that you could fill up pages. It doesn't have to be published right away.. the fun would be in the writing. ...Whit
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
4 Feb 08
And you are exactly right. Am sure thoughts will trigger more thoughts and it will snowball from early years to current. Thanks for responding.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Right now is the right time....start by jotting down things you want to include in the book. Maybe little incidents and other major events......Try to start at the beginning as you remember it....make an outline sort of by heading a chapter and what you want to include in it! It's hard to start and if you really want to do it now is the time....or you will keep putting it off! I know.....it's hard sometimes to just sit down and do it! LOL
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jan 08
I have been putting it off for years and guess there is never a good time to begin a book in this type of situation. But, I would have to start from the very beginning. Don't have all the details and could contact two aunts who are still alive but neither want to talk about it. I tried to get some information from both of them about the adoption process but they don't want to spill the beans, so to speak. I only know it was legitimate and went through the court system. Thanks for responding.
@gantwick (849)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Make sure you keep notes. There are probably plenty of wordsmiths out there who could turn your notes into a book. You might also keep a small tape recorder handy to mention memories that may pop into your head at random times. Good luck!
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jan 08
A tape recorder is a good idea. I am home so much that keeping a notebook wouldn't be a problem or typing an outline on the computer might work for starters. Thanks for responding.
@Umbra75 (56)
• United States
30 Jan 08
I hate to tell you this, but it will *never* be the "right time". But, don't worry about that. Just take some time now and then (though, try for a few minutes a day, if possible), and write down at least something about being adopted, even if you sit there for fifteen minutes and all you can come up with is a joke your adopted parents told you. Put that joke in a folder, and keep adding to it until you think you have enough material for a book (don't worry about how thick it *should* be - just worry about when you feel it's ready). When you have the material, you can go through it, and start arranging things the way you want them to be before doing any actual typing.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
31 Jan 08
You are exactly right and thank you for the informative response.
@Minotaur (105)
29 Jan 08
The sooner you write it the more you will rememeber. Even if you do not poplish it for years it is worth writing it down now.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jan 08
And you are exactly right. Thanks for responding.
@Dinolist (55)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Hello, Carolbee! I am a 40-year-old writer. I've had stories published in newspapers and a couple books, but haven't published a book yet. My advice to you is this: If you wait for the right time to do anything, it will never come. There is never a right time. Just start. Take it one page at a time. Write from your heart, let it flow, and don't worry about spelling and grammar. Go back and make corrections, then let an editor do the final proofread. Work a little bit every single day. Set aside an hour that's your writing time and just do it. This kind of consistency over a year will give you a book. Go for it!
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Thanks so much for your great advice. I agree with you and should take an hour a day to recall the series of events from many years ago, as much as I am able to remember. Thank you again for a very good response.
@MGjhaud (23251)
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
Well I love writing and hoping one day I’ll have my own book with my own story on it. hehehe.. I wonder how sad life is for you. I hope you’re well anyway. :) Well, good luck to you. I hope you’ll have your story soon.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
4 Feb 08
My life is good and I'm real fortunate. Thought I might share my feelings about being adopted and put it in book form. Good luck to you if you decide to write a book. Thanks for responding.
• India
29 Jan 08
i think it is to didikalt to deside that but according to me you just start now and update that reguleary if you think you are missing something anlayge that nd add that after som time you find a right book you complated
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jan 08
You are right and have a good idea. Thanks for responding.