One-sided love
By scorpiobabes
@scorpiobabes (7225)
United States
January 30, 2008 8:25am CST
How many of you have been in a one-sided love affair (meaning you love them, but you're not sure how they feel about you)? How long would you stay involved with that person?
2 responses
@blondegirl1975 (4298)
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30 Jan 08
I have been in this situation, My last boyfriend we was together for just over 9 months on and off, i have to say that we prob spent more time off then we did on, It was all his way or no way at all, One minute he wanted to be with me and love me and the next he did not know what he wanted or how he felt about me, He often felt confused.
This was horrible as one min he could be loving and very tentive to me and also our rel but the next he could be cold and i would just feel like i would be banging my head against the wall.
I guess i put up with it for so long because i always had the hope that there would be one day where he would make his mind up and decided that he would love me.
Sadly that day never came and we finally split last year, I was deverstated but now i have met someone else and we have now been together for 4 months, and i know that he loves me because he makes me feel loved.
The funny thing is i am still friends with my ex and he is now settled down with someone and i could not be happier for him, we still talk a couple of times a week.
I know now tht we was not right for one another and it was a good thing when we split because it means that we are both happy now but we was def not happy when we was together.
After i have moved on with my life i can see now that i never really loved him, i cared for him and still do but being with my currant boyfriend in which i do love i now realised that the rel that me and my ex had was nothing.
We make far better friends more than we ever did when we was lovers.
I guess only you can really only decide to how long you want to stay with someone for but i can say that there is someone for everyone out there who will love you and if they love you, you will feel really loved.
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
30 Jan 08
Thanks for the great response. How did you figure out when to break it off with the ex? And how did you know that you never really loved him?
@blondegirl1975 (4298)
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30 Jan 08
I realised enough was enough when we met for the last time, we had been split for about a week but he wanted to meet me again to see if he could change his mind, I did and we spent the weekend together. On the final day i was driving home and he text and said he was still confused I knew then that i could not take anymore of this. At this time i thought that i had still loved him but i also knew that i could not keep putting myself throu this anymore and i rather be alone and keep getting hurt like this.
I realised that i had never loved him once i had met my new boyfriend because it was only then that i could see that what me and my ex had was not a rel. Things became so much clearer to me once i became happy once again and i could look back with an open mind.
That is something that i dont think that you can do when your in this situation because your constanstly hurting and searching for the answers that your so in need to know.
It is only when your not in this situation and you have moved on from it that you can look back and you than realise that the answers that you so badly was searching for was staring you in the face the whole time.
Sometimes i think it is far more important to listen to what your head is telling you instead of what your heart is telling you.
I would really like to wish you luck and hope that you will find happiness soon,
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
31 Jan 08
Thanks for the honesty...I guess I'll have to do some more thinking about what's best for me.
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@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
it happened to me before to a person I just met and we became friends. We'd always been together that we cannot let a day pass without seeing and talking to each other. But as time goes by, I felt something for him, he became closer to me. But this thing was just just one-sided, when I let him know that I was falling for him, he denied he felt the same way. So what I did was continue talking to him. But a time came when I decide that I should not be confined to his company because it was being hard for me. So I stopped seeing him.
