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India
January 31, 2008 8:59am CST
well...this is a sad part of my life.i am in college now studying.from 1st year i became a very good frnd of a girl and within a few day i proposed her.she accepted my proposal and everything was going well.Now in the 3rd year she told me that she had been compromising with her feelings and that she loves me but doesnt want to continue with this relation.i was awestruck after hearing this and asked her why didnt she tell me before.she replied that all she wanted is to see me happy.so,now i m confused with everything and cannot find a way to tell it to anyone.....what should i do now???
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6 responses
• United States
31 Jan 08
This is a tough one. If she really wanted you to be happy one would think that she would have been honest with you from the start. We learn from past relationships what we need from future relationships. We also learn what others need from us. I think the theme of this was honesty. She loves you but she is not in love with you and that distinction would have been very helpful 3 years ago. Keep your chin up friend and go back into the world knowing that you're looking for a girl that not only loves you but that is in love with you. Don't let anyone tell you that you deserve less then a soul mate. But don't let anyone tell you love is easy either. Good luck!
• India
31 Jan 08
i heve also told that she have told me those things earlier.she said that she did what her told to do.now it has gone to such a place where that fact is really difficult to accpt.but i think that is life.neways thanks for the support man...
• Malaysia
1 Feb 08
oh.. trust me.. all girls will say the same when they want to break up with you.. they'll give the sam reason .. that they love you but they refuse to continue the relationships.. based on my experience, i think it's best for you to forget her.. i know it's tough.. but.. it takes time.. just.. don't be overly sad.. you have other friends too right? find someone that can accompany you when you need them.. you can send message to me too.. i will reply whenever i online.. you have to forget her.. a relationsHip if left undecided will definitely end up becoming another disaster.. you don't want to happen.. do you? that's all i can say about it.. good luck.. =)
@kareng (22810)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Sounds like you got a bad rap. Chin up as someone else already mentioned and take it one day at a time. Maybe she will come to her senses. Maybe she won't. Either way, you have to go on living your life. Don't dwell on it too much. Things will get a little better each day. Somewhere there is someone PERFECT for you out there. Remember life is a journey!
• United States
1 Feb 08
Sounds like she has someone else but didn't want to see you hurt because she cares about you! I'm sorry this happened to you!
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
1 Feb 08
somu, honestly, she is in love with someone else. it is always like that...i love u...like to see u happy..blabla..but that is not the real reason. and the thing is, when u start a relationship in that age..u have to know that people r young, want to try something else.it is always like that. i know my friend told something like that also to her boyfriend..
• Philippines
31 Jan 08
love cannot live without trust. though it's hard, there's only one thing i can say -- the same to what others usually say -- move on. maybe she doesn't deserve someone as good as you. but hey! if she do really love you, love will find a way. go out with your friends! have fun.