Do you ever feel you are being used due to your talents/skills?
By ubuntujason
@ubuntujason (196)
United States
February 2, 2008 1:15am CST
Hey all~
so i really doubt this is just me, but i want to talk about this subject none the less. ME, i know computers, i know psychology, i know metaphysics and religion....many people i know, both friends and non friends alike, know i have talents in those different areas. Yet sometimes i fell i'm being used by people cuz i have this or that talent. am i alone? or do some of you feel used due to the fact you have some certain skill? now im not talkin bout those who pay you or help you out. i'm talkin bout the people who call you only to ask for help w/ say their computer....then ask how you are doing as an after thought....am i the only one who has this happen? what can be done? etc. etc. etc.
~j
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
3 Mar 08
do you know how to say no? people will not use you if you know how to say no specially when you feel that they are just using you. if you feel theyare using you then they might be using you because you allow them too. i let people use me, specially when they are people who are close to my heart. like family and relatives. i am a singer and some people try to use me because i am good on what i do, but i dont allow them. if you think you are good on something then dont let people use you, dont allow people to do that to you.
@ubuntujason (196)
• United States
4 Mar 08
yea i tell many people no....too bad that doesn't stop them from nagging at me to do this or do that....that gets so annoying
~j
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
i understand what you mean. i have an older sister and once she want something she always look for me and let me be the one to do it for her. but those days are over i would love to do things for her but if she will continue to treat me like her worker or maid i would not difinitely do it.
@ubuntujason (196)
• United States
4 Mar 08
i'm glad you've taken that stance, its hard sometimes...i know it is :S but maybe one day these people will learn to treat ppl w/ respect!
~j
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
I used to...many years ago. Now I establish boundaries and when I feel that people are using me or taking advantage of my talent and training I say so. The world will not fall apart if you say "NO!" We train people how to treat us and perhaps they are taking advantage of you because you allow them to do so.
Most people fail mind reading school and it is up to us to make ourselves understood. Maybe you need to find an honoring, open and accountable way to let them know how their behavior is making you feel and re-negotiate things. Clear communication is the best way to resolve conflicts.
Raia
