New "friends"
By novataylor
@novataylor (6570)
United States
February 3, 2008 1:49am CST
I am new to Mylot. My profile says that I have been her a month. Frankly, I don't think that's right, I think it's been longer, but who am I to argue? I have so many friends here, I am blown away! I'm talking about people who's discussions and comments I've read have attracted me beyond belief. Even if I had been here forever, I'd still be amazed at the friends I have made. They are intelligent, articulate, witty, razor sharp, kind, loving, compassionate, supportive, and incredibly funny people. Some of them have asked me for friendship and some of them have been asked by me for friendship. Here is my question. I have been asked for friendship approval from people who I have seen hide nor hair of ever. Haven't heard or read one single word from them. But yet, they ask me to be their friend. One thing I always like to do is ask someone why they wanted to be my friend. But I can only do that if I accept them as a friend in the first place. And if I don't immediately accept or deny them, I can't get into my friend page at all to send a message, snoop on them and where they've been lately or anything. What do you do in this situation? Do you deny or accept? And why can't we have the option to put the request on hold until we've investigated their profile or looked for their responses or discussions? Does anybody have anything to offer here?
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8 responses
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
3 Feb 08
hell baby you accepted me so fast my head was spinning. In fact as I remember it was yes Angel let me suck your toes.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
3 Feb 08
I told Weemam that once. Bless her heart she did not know what to do with it.... she did say I love you to pal.
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Welcome to Mylot Novataylor
I am on Mylot for over one year. During this time I used to have many good friends and some are still have.
Some are active everyday, some once a while.
Lately many of my old friends become inactive.
I am cleaning my friends list once a while, after someone is inactive for 2 months.
Some people are busy. If you here only for one month, you may hear from few people once a while...
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Hearing from you, lovely pola, is a real treat. I of course accepted your friendship proposal, and quite immediately. I always read your comments. You're very sweet, and appear to have a gentle, loving nature. Just my kind of gal. Thanks for taking the time to come to my discussion. Your contribution is valued. Love.
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
4 Feb 08
You're welcome - very well deserved comments, I might add. And hugs right back atcha, darlin!
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Well my lovely, I ususally on accept or request to be friends with someone that has responded to me posts or I have responded to theirs. I think that we should be able to pm everyone not just our friends. becuase then we can question if we don't know who is trying to befriend us. I'm usually easy going and think the more the merrier. LOL!! I have a big hear and enough room for every...Shhhh don't let that out.LOL!!!
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
4 Feb 08
don't worry,Bella, I'll only whisper when I talk about the fact that your heart is the size of TEXAS! You know, I wish we could PM other people too! If they haven't answered the discussions that we answer, then how are we supposed to know what they're like? That needs to be revamped.
See ya tonight, you little vamp!
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
3 Feb 08
hi nova.i am always missing out on all the good bits.have you got a stalker.just keep on deleting her.i usually only accept people i have had respond to me and can usually get a vibe if they are ok or not.there seems to be a few ,lets say strange ones out there at the moment.they are probably a little pissed off they were not invited to our little party the other night.let me know if i can help you with this problem.cheers sue
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Thanks suehan. And you're probably right, they're probably pissed off, but if they wanted to, they could get into our discussions and have all the fun they liked. they haven't, though. No one's stopping them. the thing about this one was that I hadn't seen or heard anything from them before. I looked at their profile, and really, was simply not interested at that point. If she actually had something to say, I'd read it and make a judgment at that time. But she's chosen to remain silent. Oh, well. Her loss. And thanks for the offer of help, sue, don't be surprised if I take you up on it. Cheers right back atcha!
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
3 Feb 08
If I see a friend request from you and haven't seen you comment on my discussion I will not add you. I keep my friends here to a minimum just as I do in real life. On any give day I may approve one person but deny 20. It is nothing about the user but you have to show me something in the comments you leave me or on other discussions I visit for me to want to add you and be notified when you write something. I have like 24 friends and every month I go on a cleaning and get rid of the ones who don't post discussions or don't comment me. All they do is take up space.
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
4 Feb 08
I'm with you, Cyn. I want to know what the person is like and what their general leaning is. Being as opinionated as I am, I really think i should be careful as to who I make as friends. There's enough space taken up already, in my tired little mind, in the comments on discussions, and in the Lot in general. But, as I told you, having you as a friend is pretty incredible. I don't want to wax to sentimental here, so I'm gonna shut up now.
@jazzsue58 (2666)
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30 Mar 09
Looking at your profile, I see it says you've been a member for a year, but last UPDATED your profile a month ago - perhaps this is what MyLot meant.
I was going to say, 2000+ posts in one month is pretty hard going even for St Louis!
@chrislotz (8136)
• Canada
4 Feb 08
The only way I accept someones friendship is if we have similar interests. I check their profile page and I look at their discussions they started. i will go back as far as 4 pages if need be, before I make a judgement call and add them or not. When I think of asking someone to be my friend, I do the same thing. In my mind, there is no use having a friend on my list that I can't relate to. What's the purpose then?
I know what you mean about some friends never responding to my discussions. Every once in awhile I go to my friends list and I know which ones I haven't seen for awhile so I check their profile page and see how active they have been. If they haven't logged into mylot for some time I just leasve them there, since it doesn't affect me at all. But if theya re active in mylot and not responding to my discussions I will delete them. To me it's a two way street. If I am responding to their discussions and they are not responding to mine then I don't want them as a friend because to me they are not a friend.
@jazzsue58 (2666)
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30 Mar 09
There was a similar post to this yesterday. Be warned. If a person's profile shows few posts but many friendships, they are trawling (or trolling?) for referral pick-ups. They are cheating the system. Don't give them the time of day. Otherr than that, people will increase their friends so they get more replies to their discussions. This is okay so long as they play fair - I always try to respond to my friends' posts but that is because they are generally active on mine! I have a few 'firm favourites' though, that I seem to spend an inordinate amount of time with, simply as we have a lot in common.
I strongly feel that NO ONE should be able to ask for friendships until they've done a minimum number of posts. I've been lucky though, as all my friends seem to be genuine.
