I need help with mom part two

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As some of you know mom is in a nursing home and told me that she is going to move out and live with a nurses aid. Mom thinks it is safe for her to stay by herself while this aid is at work. Mom has a history of falls and the last time she fall she had 20 stitches in her arm. Mom cannot get herself off the floor when she falls. She is also on a narcotic patch and morphine tabs twice a day. I feel with that heavy medications she is not safe to be left alone. Mom has a history of making up stories so I do not know if this is even true. Mom did give me this girls name who she is going to move in with. I went to the Administrator of the Nursing home today. When I told him what mom has told me he got up and called in the Director of Nurses and the Social Worker. They had heard that mom was moving but not who she was moving in with and where she was going. They assured me that if and when the time comes mom is to leave the nursing home they have to have the address and the person's name who mom is going to live with. If mom checks herself out against medical advise which is her option then it will mess up her Medicare and most of the time the doctor will dump her. I also explained to them that if this is a lie I do not want to get anyone in trouble I do not want to cause an aid to get fired over mom's lies. I also said that if mom is pressuring the aid and she needs an out then she can call me and I will tell her (the aid) I am against this and then it will be my fault mom cannot move. As much as I want mom off my back and as much as I would like mom to be happy I also want mom to be safe. She put me in charge of her care so this is what I am doing. I have also called her physician and explained the susiation to him and he is against her leaving. She did the tell her doctor she was moving but she did not tell him that she will be staying by herself most of the time. The Administrator also told me that when a patient leaves against medical advice they cannot come back to their facility and they also call adult protection agency. I was going to call adult protection agency for advice next if nothing works with this step and mom insists on leaving. The administrator told me there is not a policy of aids taking patients home to live with them the only reason he can think of why she would take mom home is to get mom's social security. The whole mess just upsets me to no end. I know I should not get so upset because it might be one big lie, it might be just a story so mom can convense me to bring her here. I cannot and will not being her here to my home. I cannot care for her any longer. I am sorry I am ranting and raving once again. Because when this is all said and done I will be the bad guy and I will be the one who will get chewed out. I am so sick of her crap. Sorry