how to deal with the olds...

vanities..taking care of your mom will always be not that easy especially as her age but dont get tired taking care of her...Im not yet in your situation right now but given a chance I will do the same as what your doing now..your will be blessed by doing so believe me...You must have a lot of patience... yes you are correct that all of us will undergo in that stage..I do love my parents to be with me but some olds wants to stay in their own house too..but giving a chance I will never regret doing so..its not that we are repaying what they have done to us but it is a simple way of saying thank you for being a parents to us..I know you will be blessed for what your doing now...keep going..

When people get older and older their behaviour too changes to some extent like adament, irritation etc.,I took notice of this from our grandmother who lived with us..eventhough we took utmost care of her she never get satisfied and always find fault with us specially with our mom..they will not pay heed to hear our advises and hence there is no solution to deal with them..only thing we can do is adjusting them till they rest..

I feel it is your moral responsibility to take care of your mother if you can. The least you can do is to put her in home for aged, where there will be someone who can take care of her. It is natural some people at 70s or 80s act like a child, particularly those who are incapable of doing things on their own, who have psychological fear that they will be left alone etc. IN India, whatever is the level of income, people do not leave the aged parents to look after themselves. They do take care of them.

I am caring for my 80 y/o mom. She is bipolar with schizoid affective disorder and paranoia. Some days are pretty difficult but at least she is on her meds now so it is better. Her heart surgeon took her off of them a while back and we could not get her back on them. It was terrible. Things are brighter now but there are still good days and bad days. I love her dearly but she makes it difficult for me to take care of her. She doesn't like me giving her meds to her but I know if I don't she won't take them.

I was very lucky because my Mom never got that way but I did have an ex father in law who was and I know how irritating it can get but you have to realize as much as it gets on your nerves....if they really knew what they were doing they would be so upset and embarrassed. They can't help it so we have to deal with it. I just lost my 82 year old mother a month ago and not even because of that but I've always felt that we need to have a lot of patience with our "olds" because they won't be with us forever. Think more about how they are feeling than how we are feeling. My Mom had a lot of ways about her that irritated me and years ago ...thankfully...I basically learned to ignore them. That's the way she was and I loved her unconditionally because she was my Mom.

You just need to be patient enough to your mom. Acts that irritate us are just but part of getting old. Just be patient and have the heart enough to understand her and you will find yourself loving her much. It's great to take care of growing old parents who also took care of us all through our growing years. :)

It can't be easy for parents ether to have to depend on their children to take care of them. They have lost their independence and that is a difficult thing to give up. They have to wait for you to take them to the store and the home isn't theirs any more. So be patient and remember it's not easy for her ether

My dad is 84 and I am his caregiver. He has lived with me for almost 4 years now. He has CHF (congestive heart failure. Since living here he has gotten more like a child in his ways of acting and the help he needs as well. not an easy task to say the least. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

I'm going to be a bad daughter if I say I wouldn't want to take care of my mom. I can't live long with my mother because we always argue about a lot of things. Sometimes she treats me like a little girl and I just hate it. I guess it's a normal thing for aging people to behave that way. I cannot blame my mom for doing so. For one, she has no work to be busy with. Well, of course she's busy tending the house right now. She's still strong and likes to do a lot of things. She's about 70 years old now and I think she's looking younger LOL!

No , my mother is living with my sister and im glad that she is taking care of her and all...

Hello vanities, My mother is 70 years old now but she is still a strong woman, sometimes stronger than me. She is not staying with me but a few months ago, while my husband was away, she stayed with me. She accompanied me and helped me a lot. For that, I am really grateful to have her. Let me share this with you... Even though she is strong and independent, still sometimes I feel like whatever she does, (even if she is trying to ease my burden) is totally different from what I expect from her. Sometimes, I argue with her. Sometimes, I feel like the way she does something is totally wrong. I know she is my mother and she suppose to know life better than myself. But sometimes, when she is not around, I do miss her and think how much I have hurt her by arguing over small matters. Yes, we will go through that phase later in our life and we still don't know what kind of old person we would be. Maybe, if we feel irritate with our mother's behaviour, our kids will feel the same towards us later? Ha! Touch wood! I hope my son will feel so great to have me around!

Oh! not easy to deal with the oldies. my mom is 71 and my dad is 74 but they are still good! and yes sometimes its so irratating bcoz they act like a kids. and the different with my mom if she like she wanted to get that and if you can't gave to her she feel that you dont love her.What i do is gave my mom the things that i feel she is happy coz i want my mother happy even in a small things. in the case of my dad he is ok but sometimes i feel that he like material things and that is different that i found to him, coz he is not like that before. But still i hope i can give to my parents even a small thing that they feel happy, coz like is so prescious!!!! Just follow your parents wants,likes and give as you can what they feel happy!! and moreeeeeeeeeeeee PATIENCE!. coz they are our parents and they need our love especially at their. and i know you can handle them. take care!!