marriage

India
February 12, 2008 2:10am CST
would it be fair to marry a boy/girl of of your parents choice thou you dont like him/her in each an every way.
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14 responses
@dandan07 (1908)
• China
10 Dec 08
I have no idea. Though now we live in the modern world, there is still some old things left. Some people here are too busy to find their other ones, so their parents try to help them solve the problem. If you have the time, and have lover, I think there is no need for you to marry with the one your parents choose for you.
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
that's not fair!You're the one who's getting married,not them so why should they choose for you?
@TravisE (445)
• United States
13 Feb 08
That would depend on what "Each an every way" means. If you mean don't like there politics, looks, personality then no. If you mean don't like the way they chew gum, tie their shoes, or their taste in movies then maybe. ;-)
@catjane (1036)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I realize there are some religions and societies that still do this (pick mates for their children). If it's been a tradition in your family for years, you might have a very hard time going against the grain. In American society, this just doesn't happen. We grow up and find a mate of our own liking, we fall in love with them and marry. Our parents have no say in the matter. Mind you sometimes they might not like that person and protest, but that is all. Maybe you can explain to your parents that, even though traditional, you are in America now and should adopt to the Western ways of life. Tell them how unhappy it would make you. Good luck.
@ycanteye (778)
• United States
13 Feb 08
To sum it up in a word, no. Your parents aren't the ones who have to live with and put up with this person. Who you marry should be your choice and no one elses.
@kethavat (24)
• United States
13 Feb 08
No its not fair on your part plus ur parents...! Just your ruining ..the girl/boy life.. since you dont like her..! If you dont like her/him you should try to explain/convenince your parents..! that should work out..Otherwise.. its really a big mistake..!
• United States
13 Feb 08
It all depends on Why you are marrying. If you are solely marrying because of your parents, then you should. But if you want to choose your mate and you must love the person you will marry, then you shouldn't.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
13 Feb 08
no. i do not think it is going to be any fruitful. in case of arranged marriages parents think so that we should marry the person of their choice we like him or not. so many things in life can't just go in adjustment.
• United States
12 Feb 08
I don't think it would be fair to you or the one you are supposed to marry. Having to be involved in a loveless marriage can make you yearn for a lot more, and it would probably also lead to you being very unhappy! Go with your heart, not what your parents say, after all, you have to live your life with that person and your parents don't!
@mitchz (131)
• Sweden
12 Feb 08
marriage is marriage ok divorce is divorce
@rsa101 (24858)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
I think its unfair since you are supposed to choose your partner you are comfortable with and happy. Forced marriage is not acceptable in our place and not enforceable anymore.
@Galena (9120)
12 Feb 08
no. it would be nothing short of stupid to marry someone you don't even like, let alone love. if you marry someone you dislike, then you are bound to live the rest of your life in misery. not fair at all.
@itsmepinky (1301)
• India
12 Feb 08
no i feel u shud marry the one whom u love coz life will be miserable if u marry that guy/girl whom u dun like.
@nanayangel (7862)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
Hi there monty1010in! I don't think that to marry someone just because your parents want you to is fair. I believe that marrying someone should be based on your love for the person, how well your relationship with him or her is, and how you enjoy each others company and trust each other. Parents won't teach you something that will hurt you but marriage is another thing. You'll be spending your life with the person and only you have the right to choose who that person should be. I know that you being the one to choose doesn't mean that you'll have a perfect marriage but at least you can't blame anyone else if the marriage didn't work. But I do know couples who are together because of arranged marriage that learned to love each other and their marriage is still going strong up to now.