Okay, I feel like a loser, but...
By sunnylilme
@sunnylilme (5)
February 12, 2008 9:10pm CST
I've lived in this city for a year now. It's a nice big bustling city, with lots of people in it. I've got a great husband, and two beautiful sons.
I should be happy right? There's only one problem. I have NO friends. I mean none, zero, zilch, nada.
I've had several friends come and go within the past year. Two of them I really liked, but they've since moved. My husband is in the Army and people come and go all of the time.
A lot of the people I meet are crazy. I meet people who want me to babysit their kids ALL OF THE TIME, then don't help me when I really need some help. I guess I would call her an opportunist, and that just really isn't healthy and emotionally taxing.
The other person I met was so self absorbed. It just became emotionally taxing as well. It just seems when I do meet someone, they are so wildly outside the sphere of "normal". And believe me, I am not picky!
When I really look at myself, I think I'm a nice person. I'd like to be friends with me, if I do say so myself.
I'd really like to meet someone to have adventures with. I'd like to have friends who maybe also have small children, and our kids could be friends and play together.
I wish I had someone to laugh with, and go to the gym with...something...
I go to church, but there really isn't anyone there in my age group. It's mostly a silver crowd:) I go to playgroups with my kids, and no one really talks to me. If I start conversations, it's just lightly social and we all go our own ways.
So the question is, where do I go to meet friends? How do I meet people without seeming lonely and pathetic?
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3 responses
@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
13 Feb 08
You sounds just like me, except I don't have kids. I am sorry that you haven't met any "normal" friends. I have met a few people like you described and it sucks when they turn out to be weirdos. I hope that you meet some good friends. My husband has a friend that just got out of the Marines and is now enrolled in the army and he said that there are a lot of people like that at the Marine base that he was at.
@sunnylilme (5)
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13 Feb 08
Yes, I think it might be the military community. It's ironic, because our husbands are gone all the time, and we could sure use a community to help us stand while they're gone.
@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
14 Feb 08
My husband isn't in the military (his friend is). I think that it's like that for people, even people not in a military family. I think it's tons harder for people like you who are in a military family because a lot of people just don't understand. I think that it would be wonderful to have some kind of group or something to turn to. I don't know what state your in, but I know here in North Carolina there is an Army base and a Marine base (not sure about any other military branches) so I know there are a lot of people in your situation. I have the trouble of meeting new people because a lot of the people I meet are either mean or like you said, take advantage of you. I hope that you meet some people who are worth your time.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
13 Feb 08
friendships at least the kind you describe take time. being with an army man makes it kind of hard for you. Just smile and be friendly whereever you go and you shouldn't have trouble meeting some people. Sometimes places like the playground are a good place to strike up conversations or the bus stop...places where you go and see the same people regularly.
