I am so confused.....

love you!!^^ - love
China
February 15, 2008 2:37am CST
I am so glad to be here,and I have made a lot of friends here.When I have time,I should reply all my friends'discussions as possible as I can.But,I find that some guys here add so many friends,but never visit some others's discussions.I donn't konw whether I should delete them.There is an old saying in my country:courtesy demands reciprocity,how can they do things like that...Is money the most things here??Oh my god.... But,most of people here are so friendly,and have a kind,warm heart.Wish all the friends here happy everyday in the new year,and wish everything success in your life!!
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@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
15 Feb 08
we make a lot of friends because of the really friendly community here. yes, some don't respond to discussions. it could be sometimes that they are not notified of the new discussions. i read somewhere that e-mails sent sometimes tended to get lost. but it could also be people are also busy too with doing their own stuff. sometimes, they might forget to respond too. it could also be that the people are not really interested in the topics started thus they do not respond as they have nothing to contribute. sometimes, i fall into that category. i tend to miss some topics as i am either not interested, or have no idea about the topic thus can't say anything. of course, there are those who forget all about it and also expect us to see their posts. but like someone said, concentrate on the ones who do respond to you and try and respond back to them. i also don't respond to many of my friends but i have not deleted them. i think it doesn't really matter for me anyway since even if they are not contributing, they are not doing any harm to me. have a great day.
• China
20 Feb 08
Yes,you are right,I should think as you do,and wonn't keep comfusing later,just visit the friends I like and reply to the discussions I have interests when I have time.Thank you,you helped me a lot.Wish you have a good day.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
21 Feb 08
i am glad that i could be of help. take care.
• China
20 Jun 08
Long time no see,I will, thank you once more. Have a good day.
@ellie333 (21018)
15 Feb 08
Hi Fairanny, most people on here are lovely and have great manners and respond to your responses on the discussions, they are a few that don't, but that is life. Concentrate on the people who can relate too and have things in common with. I have many inactive friends but I haven't deleted them. It could be that they just have other stuff going on in their lives right now and haven't got so much time to spend on my lot. I am more selective now than when I first joined and will only approve people I have things in common with. You are right 'courtesy demands reciprocity' as manners do cost nothing. Yes there will always be some here just for the money but most are genuine friendly people who will respond. Thank you for your good wishes for the year ahead. BIG HUGS Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21018)
15 Feb 08
Sorry didn't mean to spell your name wrong. my typing not that good Fairyanny. Ellie :D
• China
20 Feb 08
Well,thank you so much, you always give me so much warm and tell me much about the life.Maybe you are right,they just have less time to come here.Maybe I should do as you do,leave them,and see what's happening in their lives.You can just call me anny.^^
@VAnnasamy (426)
• India
16 Feb 08
Response is a two-way affair. But then, while reading some of the topics/comments, one tends to give a thought in return based on the idea flows that time. You may watch for some more time( as you deem fit) to delete yr friends' circle here. Meritoriously DEAL IT before you decide to DELETE. S'U'CCESS can never be without yo(U). With best wishes to you and your friends (including me)
• China
20 Feb 08
Thanks for your kind heart,and I think it is not a bad idea to do so .Wish you have a great day.
@Porteno (99)
• Belgium
16 Feb 08
Hi fairyanny,I'm afraid you just realized how Internet REALLY works. A lot of people start out with all the best intentions, but, just as in real life, they soon find out that they don't have the time to answer all the e-mails they get, upload Facebook pictures, write new Associated Content and still have a normal life. The only advice I can give you is to stick to the ones that DO reply to your mails, that read your discussions, and to consider all the rest as an important lesson learned in life. I'm normally not this serious about things, but look at it this way: if out of every 100 people you meet you get to keep 1 good friend, you are very, very lucky. But at least you 'll know who to focus your interest on. Stay positive and never ever loose faith!!!!
• China
20 Feb 08
yeah,I have to accept the truth,and I am glad to take your advice,that's quite a good idea.Maybe you are right that only 1% of people on the internet can be my very good friend is so lucky.I will also follow your suggestion and keep active and never loose faith.Thank you so much and wish you have a good day.
@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
16 Feb 08
I know exactly what you are talking about...almost all of the people that I have met on here have been really nice to me and they have tried to help me with whatever problem I have had..which honestly is alot more than I can say about other forums that i am apart of...I just come here mostly for the fun and the people on here...but I don't know why people don't go to their friends discussions unless they don't have anything positive to add to their discussion..or maybe they do have so many friends that they don't have the time to go and answer all of their discussions...I dont understand why people add so many friends..unless they just really like what the people have to say and they just want to add them hoping that they can help them in any future questions that they might have...I try to visit my friends as often as I possibly can..but still i don't get around to all of them all of the time..I try though...I really do like the people alot on mylot(didn't mean for that to rhyme lol)and I will try and help people with their problems as much as I can...hope to answer some of your other questions sooner or later...
• China
20 Feb 08
Thanks for your kind heart,and you are absolutely right.I am also visit my friends as often as possible and when I have time,I should come here and find what happens to others.I like to konw the wonderful world through mylot.Wish you have a good day,and just be happy here.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I don't delete anyone who doesn't answer my discussions. To me it's just not that important. People answer or don't answer for whatever reason. Maybe they no longer come to the site. They sign up and for whatever reason they don't come back. maybe the discussions don't interest them. There could be many reasons but for me to take it personally is just not necessary. If you want to delete them then do it it's your choice.
• China
20 Feb 08
Yeah,you are quite right,it is all depending on me.Thanks for your suggesition.Have a great day.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
You could keep or you could also delete them on your list, that will depend upon you. But if you'll ask me, I have deleted some of those non-responsive members here. The thing that I always put in mind, there are still more of them to come and that it's better to move on than be taken aback by them. I'm not here mostly for the money, I'm out for good discussions being posted by responsible members. As long as my attention was caught by a specific topic, then I'd go and read it. If I liked the way it was written and knows something about it, then I'd respond to it without even asking for something in return. I'm all-over mylot, so friend's posts or not, count on me to be on that discussion!;)
• China
20 Feb 08
It seems you are a candor,I like your words.I guess it is hard to attract your attention,am I right??^^I think it is a long way to go for me on my lot.I should follow your example and be all-over mylot too.^^Wish you have a great day.
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• China
15 Feb 08
I'm feeling shame now because I don't often my friends'discussion. I'm a new one here,and don't know what to do,so I seldom answer others' discission.But from now on I will try my best! Whay you say touched me!!!
• China
20 Feb 08
Hehe,welcome you Shifeilong and wish you have great days here.It seems you are Chinese from your name,am I right??Have fun here,and you will learn much English here.
• India
15 Feb 08
Yes, I know we should try and respond to all our friends’ discussions but it is just not possible all the time. And then I don’t like all the discussions that I see so I select and respond. But I make sure that sometime or the other I respond to all my friends by turn and try to keep them happy. And yes, I have never yet refused any friend request so all my friends are valuable to me.
• China
20 Feb 08
Maybe it is not a bad idea that respond to my friends by turn.I just think it is hard to make people happy but I think it is so easy to make me happy.I also never refused any friend request and try to visit all of my friends.I think most people here are friendly and have a kind heart.
@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
15 Feb 08
Hi fairyanny, I appreciate the saying “courtesy demands reciprocity”. I totally agree that there must be give and take. Lopsided business should always be discouraged. It is a natural rule of our social living. So that it is why we feel so disappointed if we do not get any responses from friends to whom we have been posting our responses all the time. I did delete some avatars which remained inert for quite a long period of time. Most of them with posting number under 10 and even didn’t creat any discussion in their profile. Here, I do have friends who are helpful, sincere and enthusiastic, to make the community life here pretty joyful. Happy Chinese New Year.
• China
20 Feb 08
I like your words,and that is just the truth.The problem to me is someone created so much discussions and never only reply the answers to their own discussions.I just have a little unhappy,I have to say you are absolutely right.hehe,thanks for your helpful suggestion.Have a great day.^^