You're an AS*H#L*!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@petebaja (516)
Mexico
February 18, 2008 2:44am CST
Yeap! You guys heard me right. She called me an as*****! I'm dating this lady and she just arrived at my place. Everything's fine until she starts working on her nails and other women stuff. So, I figure, let me give her "her space". I start posting on mylot. Big mistake!!! She goes off one me as if I were committing a cardinal sin. But, I'm just posting. What's up? She's sleeping right now and I can post. But what the heck did I do wrong? Why do you women get sensitive when us men are on the computer?
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@Saicows (113)
• Brazil
18 Feb 08
Dont you worry. Woman are like that. Don´t try to understand that only gonna get things worse. Just let it be lol.
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• Australia
19 Feb 08
LOL...Yep, you men will never get us, so just give up ;-P
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
Women! Can't live with them, can't live without them!
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@Saicows (113)
• Brazil
19 Feb 08
That´s an absolute true... As I say, that isn´t an issue, we love you women anyway!!!
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@KrauseHome (36772)
• United States
18 Feb 08
Well, I sometimes have just the opposite effect if I am sitting in the chair relaxing, maybe watching some TV that I usually do not watch. Then my husband tends to ask me if my Computer is broke or something like that, as he always expects me to be online either checking Email or posting here in myLot. But I can understand the frustration she might be feeling. Maybe she is feeling like you need to be spending time with her instead of being on the Computer. But maybe this is something you and her need to be discussing and then decide what is best from there. You need to remember myLot will always be here, so if you have to compromise a little, sometimes that is the best way to go. Wishing you luck.
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
18 Feb 08
not to take the guys side here but in all fairness, if she wanted to spend more time with him, don't you think that perhaps paying more attention to him rather than doing her nails would have been a more productive approach? I don't know but I do my nails, make-up and all my girly stuff in my own time. When I want attention from my boyfriend, I have found that the best and most sure-fire way to get it is to be all into him as well. It works both ways.
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
Go girl!!! Tell it how it is!!!! And thanks for being pragmatic. It's a new relationship and I don't think she should be demanding things of me that she isn't willing to do herself.
@roberten (3131)
• United States
18 Feb 08
Because some of you have just proven that you can't be trusted; or, on-the-otherhand, we may be so insecure that we find everything you do in life threatening that doesn't directly involve us. Go ahead, pick your choice!
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@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
18 Feb 08
Yeah.. I know what you mean! But, I'm not an as#h*l#, why can't she trust me? I've done everything in my part!
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• United States
18 Feb 08
Well i dont thnk she should have called you that, i mean. she was doing her thing. why couldnt u do yours? UNLESS you have given her reason to not trust u on there anyway... Or you are always on their. you can expect a guy to be intrested in you painting your finger nails lol...goodluck~
• Canada
19 Feb 08
Call me crazy but I think it goes both ways. She could be doing her nails and other womenly things when your not around or when your doing something else, like on the computer. I guess she just wanted to be near you but she needs to verbalize that. Like do you mind not going on the computer while I am doing this can you just sit here and watch tv beside me or read the paper or something? We really do have to communicate our expectations with each other, don't you agree? For me when hubby is doing other stuff I jump on pc and take advantage of that free time and when we want to make sure we spend time together even though we aren't doing anything except being in the same room together watching tv or playing cards or whatever we make sure we communicate that.
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• Australia
19 Feb 08
This was well said I think...Good points were made...
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
Good point. Verbalize. We hardly do any of that at all. I've been single for so long that I guess I'm used to doing things my way. And she's got so many admirers that she thinks she can do it her way. But you're right. Communication could have prevented the flare up.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
18 Feb 08
I get this all the time from my boyfriend. He always thinks I'm trying to hook up with someone when I'm on the internet, where its just an outlet for me. I don't go out much or have many friends where I live so its my opportunity to interact with others. Whats funny though, is he will see a discussion and want to respond. Go figure.
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@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
Yes, I remember! Your boyfriend the photographer.
• United States
18 Feb 08
oh God,at first i thought you were meaning to the whole Mylot community. The way the title of your post looked,it made me kinda offended,but when i read your main post,i than understood that you was meaning that your g/f called YOU that.So sorry.But yeah,women can be a pain at times. But,if we didn't have them,we wouldn't be here neither.Think about it. If the whole wide world had only men in it,we could never perduce babies, with a woman.hehe
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@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
18 Feb 08
You're so politically correct!!!!
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@neelygal (1022)
• Bahamas
18 Feb 08
Maybe your lady just had a bad day?Or may be its that time of the month for her.Is she always annoyed when use your computer?Has she caught you cheating before?Maybe she thinks you are talking to other women and thats her way of letting you know she is jealous.Talk to her and see whats going on.
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• United States
18 Feb 08
Relationships between men and women are so tricky -- nobody is a mind reader! Like Goodie said, were you supposed to sit around and twiddle your thumbs while she did her nails??? I can't figure out why she called you a name, either. Seems that was uncalled for. Communication is really important. She came over to your place. Why didn't she do her nails at home? Cuz she just oculdn't wait to be with you? I don't have any good answers for ya Pete. I just think relationships get too complicated. Talking about what each other expects is key -- not expecting the other to read your mind.
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
18 Feb 08
First of all, don't catagorize us all into the same little slot as your girlfriend. I am a woman and when my boyfriend comes over here, he often jumps on the computer and does whatever he does while I am fixing dinner or doing whatever. I have not only never been even slightly offended but I actually enjoy the space and the comfort of knowing that we can both be in the same place and he doesnt have to be wanting my undivided attention. It doesn't sound as if you did anything at all wrong. It sounds as if your girl wants you to do nothing but pay attention to her. Or maybe she was just having a really bad day and you got the results of it. hard to say.
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@gemini_rose (16192)
18 Feb 08
It doesnt actually bother me when my other half is on the computer, the way I see it is if hes going to get up to no good he will and then thats his problem because he will be in big trouble if I ever found out ha ha. Actually though he gets nervous when I am on the computer and always thinks im up to no good when im actually not. Hes getting better over time though.
@tala91285 (1080)
• Philippines
18 Feb 08
She probably felt as if you were ignoring her. You should've had probed around a bit longer with the girly stuff she's doing. Then you should've asked her if it was all right to use the pc.
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• Australia
19 Feb 08
LOL...I'm sorry but that's hilarious! All I can say is that, I know when my husband is on the computer, I get upset because I want him to be spending time with me instead of ignoring me. It doesn't matter if I am busy doing women things, he could still be spending time with me talking to me or whatever. What's funny is that I can spend a whole bunch of time on there, ignoring him mind you and he lets me. Then when he gets on I bug him to get off. Don't get me wrong, this doesn't happen often. Usually I realize I am doing it and just leave him alone and let him do his thing. It's just sometimes I bug him because I know we don't have much time together because he works and I want to spend our time together and not waste it. This may be what she was thinking... However, I would never get nasty with the hubby and call him names like that because I want him to come spend time with me. That usually makes a person want to do the exact opposite. She's probably PMSing and sometimes it's best to just give in and do your thing a little later....LOL....
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
PMSing....LOL....LOL....that's always a woman's excuse, isn't it? But I understand it. Better yet, I've learned to understand it. She's definitely moody during those 3-5 days plus it's a new relationship so she's very insecure.
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• Australia
19 Feb 08
LOL...Man, you sound like my husband now...PMS is a documented and proven fact. Of course, I am not opposed to using it to my benefit my cause at times. I know, I know, so wrong! Most of the time however, when I say I have PMS, I DO! Heck, my man can usually tell without me saying a word anyway. Get her some PMS pills. Of course, if you have ever seen that Everybody Loves Raymond episode where he tries to get Debra to take some, you may want to think twice about pulling this one, LMBO!!! You poor men and what you have to put up with! But hey, I am a firm believer in male PMS and so we have to put up with our share as well. That's what keeps the spice in things, I think anyway. We don't want it to be the freakin Brady Bunch now, do we? ;-P
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
You're right! I had a relationship with a goody-too shoe and I was bored. Believe it or not, I can tell when her "monthly visitor" is coming! It's like she's a totally different person....possessed or something...LOL
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• United States
19 Feb 08
What did she exspect for you to help her with her girly stuff. Maybe next time you can share with her what your doing , you know like look im reading this do you want to comment or If she is fixed her her self all the time kick her butt out the door!
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
LOL...ha ha ha...you're so funny. Yeah, I tried to get her interested in mylot and other sites. She's too restless to sit in front of a computer for more than 5 minutes. But I find your comment, "if she's fixing herself all the time kick her butt out the door!", very very very funny!!!
• United States
19 Feb 08
lol, Don't worry so much about it , it sounds like she's young getting to know each others likes and dislikes takes time. That is why they say if you want something bad enough you will work hard to keep it. :)
@Hatley (164259)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Feb 08
as one of these sensitive women what did you say to her or do to her to make her call you a bad word so to speak? That makes or breaks your case. perhaps she is just a bit conceited and into her own person too much but there had to be some sort of trigger that set her off. I myself do not like women talking like that but then I am a senior citizen. as to guys on computers I have no quarrel as I am also a computer nerd not a geek as my son who knows computers inside and out but I love to mess around on the computer so here I am on my computer and my son on his, and neither of us give a darn that the other is occupied, we are each to busy to care. Maybe you need a new lady.
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
Thanks for the response. Your last point is under consideration. Stand by for future posts as I will update everyone on the outcome. Oh by the way, you hit the bull's eye about her being conceited!
• Canada
19 Feb 08
Some women are just plain insane. I believe that you should be allowed to do whatever you want while she is doing her thing. Does she really expect you to sit there and watch her pamper herself and not do anything? Unless, perhaps, she thought that her pampering herself would turn you on or make you think she was beauitful and by turning away and using your computer you somehow offended her frail ego..
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
"frail ego"....those are the key words! You hit the bull's eye, my friend.
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
19 Feb 08
Well speaking from personal experience- everytime my ex was on the computer- it wansn't anything to do with any site such as mylot. (Not to mention that is how he got caught cheating on me- via email) Have you been caught doing something that has offended her before on the computer? Other than that- maybe she didn't like that you weren't paying attention to her. I know when I start mylotting- I get all wrapped up in it...lol.
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
Oh I'm not cheating, that's for sure. I don't meet people on-line. Most of my friends aren't the on-line types. I wasn't either until I got hooked on mylot. I value my on-line friends just as much, however, I've never met any of you guys in person. So cheating on-line is not the reason she's upset. She just wants attention. It's a new relationship so I have to adjust to her mood swings.
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
18 Feb 08
Hmmmm... she hasn't been the victim of virtual infidelity in the past, has she? Sounds like there might be something more under the surface. There's a TV commercial that got heavy play on the East Coast for V-day. It shows a guy painting his woman's toenails, asking if she wants another coat. Then the announcer says, if you're not THAT guy, go to some jeweler or another for Valentine's Day. If you can find a copy of that commercial, you could play it for her and ask if this is more like what she's looking for....??!?
@petebaja (516)
• Mexico
19 Feb 08
I'm not familiar with that TV commercial. I guess I have to see it to understand the point. I'll go searching in YouTube.
@_pahn_ (17)
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
oh yes.. That's one thing you would really hate from women.. so sensitive.. I mean, they are doing stuffs, but they don't want you to actually ignore them, but you just want to give them privacy.. it is really annoying most of the time..
@drannhh (15235)
• United States
18 Feb 08
Well, this is such a no-brainer that I read every reply carefully expecting someone else would have said it. You figured "let me give her 'her space'--" but you didn't ask her what SHE wanted. Maybe you felt rejected because she was doing something you don't do and maybe that was a put off. But you did the big silent he-man hunk routine and what she obviously wanted and expected was COMMUNICATION! Don't feel bad, I've been married to the same hunk 40 years and he still doesn't get it. Guys have a primal instinct to solve problems with ACTION. Women have an instinct to communicate (and to "groom" as you found out). You probably think she was inconsiderate to do her nails in front of you. She probably thought she was bonding with you in a special and trusting way. I don't think she was sensitive about you being on the computer. I think she was sensitive about your having decided for yourself what you thought she wanted instead of asking her straight out. Then you stuck your head in the 'puter and got all interested in what other people were doing while ignoring her. You probably didn't think of saying something like this: Wow! That is a great shade of nail polish! Are you putting that on just for me? Probably you can't type while that stuff is wet, do you want me to tell you what is going on on myLot? Of course, if you did that and then she said NO! and called you a name, then you might have reason to be confused, but don't you think maybe you are being a little over sensitive?