You Might Not Be The Sharpest Tool in the Shed but You are Still a Tool

United States
February 18, 2008 10:47pm CST
I love how everyone is an expert on everything it seems nowadays. I love when some people have a friend or you have a relative that went through something that somehow makes you a scholar and expert on the whole thing because you heard about it second hand over coffee the other day at Star Bucks or so and so said they heard it from their husbands sisters second cousins brother in laws dog. My aunt was a social worker so please come to me and let me fix all your problems. I'm a pharmacy tech so let me tell you that you shouldn't take this medication with that medication because the combination could result in nose bleeds, blurry vision, and anal leakage. I swear I want to shake these people smart but then I will hear from someone who is a survivor of shaken baby syndrome and they are now a member of MENSA. How do you feel about people who have friends of friends or relatives in certain professions that they think that makes them the all knowledgeable person behind the green curtain when they tell you what you should do?
5 people like this
9 responses
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
19 Feb 08
Actaully that doesn't bug me as much as people who try and tell me I don't know what I do. I worked in the medicine for 8 yrs, started in Family Practice and ended in Optomotry. I worked everything from OB/GYN to Peds.. so when I give medical advice or information to people it bugs the crap outta me when I get the ones who come up to me and act as if I don't know what I'm talking about. Same thing when I deal with folks and religion, I hate that they assume that just because I don't share their religious beliefs that I don't know anything about it. I suppose it goes both ways, you've got those who actually do know things on a subject because we've been there done that and got the training who have to also deal with people who don't think we know what we're talking about or doing when in fact we really do. Like the one's who claim every doctor is stupid, or every lawyer is only in it for the money. Assumptions on either side are anoying, doesn't matter who's doing them.
3 people like this
• United States
19 Feb 08
I actually see what you're saying and wasn't thinking about this at midnight when I posted this discussion. lol But it boils my blood too when someone tells me that I don't know what I'm talking about because I don't have a diploma in the subject hanging on my wall. I get into this argument with psychologists all the freakin time. My oldest son was diagnosed with a learning disability, albeit an "unspecified" learning disability and I am still waiting for one of these quacks to explain to me how my son has a learning disability when he is on the honor roll at school for having all A's and 1 B on his report card. Then haven't kicked him out of the general education classes to make him ride the short bus yet so until they can show me how he has a learning disability I'm going to argue the "fact" I didn't go to school for 8 year for my nice shiny diploma but I have been a mother for almost 12. I think I win that one.
2 people like this
@IceMagi2 (102)
• United States
19 Feb 08
My uncle and grandfather do this all the time with me and they are just Truck Drivers for crying out loud it's not like that can give me correct advise on my relationships seeing as how they spend most of their time away from their significant others. Not to mention the neither one of them are gay lol.
3 people like this
• United States
21 Feb 08
relationships are the same for people in homosexual relationships as they are for people in heterosexual relationships. Haven't I taught you that by now? Like it is no more proper for you to be going down on your boyfriend on a first date as it would be for me do that with my boyfriend the very day I met him remember 1 - 2 - 3 -4 You are such a (come on you know the rest)
1 person likes this
@anniepa (27279)
• United States
19 Feb 08
I guess I should take that to mean that you don't want me to pass on the very good medical advice I've learned because my brother-in-law's next door neighbor's sister's sister-in-law's cousin' friend's neighbor's uncle works with a woman whose neighbor's niece is a certified nursing assistant? Well, I'm hurt...lol! Annie
2 people like this
• United States
21 Feb 08
You said it! BR to you for your wit and the ability to make me laugh!
2 people like this
@anniepa (27279)
• United States
23 Feb 08
Thanks so much for the BR, Cyn. This really is a great topic because I've met many people just like you've described. Annie
@Riptide (2761)
• United States
19 Feb 08
I am with devilsangel on that one. If someone wants to give me advice, I take that as a a nice gesture of trying to help me and genuine concern. What burns me more, is when I get told I don't know what I'm talking about, just because I didn't go to school for it for 4 years. Some people are an expert on life and know a little bit of everything, by experience or simply keeping their ears and eyes open. Judging if they are credible enough to give advice, simply by the kind of job they hold, is pretty judgemental and condescending if you ask me. Everybody is so greatful for a doctors advice and he must be right, after all he is a doctor,even if it is regarding gardening or cooking or whatever. Bit a simple cleaner or factory worker? OMG they can't possibly know what they are talking about, after all they are only "simple" laborers. Maybe they went to college but now can't find a job in the field they are studied in or simply decided it's not for them, so they take on jobs in whatever field they can get to pay their bills. I think if we only listened to the "studied experts", we might never find alternative solutions to our problems.You don't have to have a diploma to do some logical thinking. For example, I been telling people for years that artificial sweteners are not only a health hazard,but that they do just the opposite of what you think, that they actually make you gain weight and not lose it. I wasn't believed, of course not, after all, I am not a doctor nor a scientists, what do I know? I do have observation skills and after seeing that the majority of people who use artificial sweetenrs are still fat years later,kinda proved my point. And wouldn't you know that the other day in the news they said that they did lab tests on rats and it proved that artificial sweetenrs cause weight gain. Well, gee I been trying to say that for years. But what do I know, I'm only the stupid solar panel lady from next door :)
2 people like this
• United States
19 Feb 08
I don't rip someones head off for being concerned and caring about me enough to take their time to give me advice. What I can't stand are the people who know EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING! Like another user said above you, her husband is a mechanic but that doesn't mean she can rebuild an engine. But I'm sure she is pretty knowledgeable when it comes to other things. It is the people who get in your face telling you what you HAVE to do because they've seen it happen to someone else, and half the times never lived through the experience on their own. I will take advice from someone who has been in a situation a lot easier than I will from someone who starts telling me what I need to do with "well when my dad's uncle went through this...."
2 people like this
@Riptide (2761)
• United States
19 Feb 08
When someone tells me I have to do something I tell them that the only things I have to do is to pay taxes and die lol.
2 people like this
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I so know some people like that! Where no matter what story I'm telling they have advice. What I hate the most is when they say something I know is wrong, and I correct them, and they just say "Oh" or otherwise ignore that I corrected them. I've been talking about my sister's baby a lot with my one friend, and this one friend knows nothing about babies but constantly gives me advice or says that my sister shouldn't listen to her doctor. Come on! What do you know? Then there are ppl who have had babies who think that they did everything right, so if I tell them my sister is doing something which they didn't do, they say "oh she doesn't have to do that" or whatever. Basically since they had one, they think that anything she has been told to do is wrong and they are always right. I do admit I like to give advice, but I usually preface it with "i heard on the news..." or "I read somewhere"... and I always make it clear this is just something I think I know but I almost ALWAYS say I don't know for sure. I enjoy sharing the knowledge I picked up from articles, books, and media, but I also know not to be a know-it-all.
2 people like this
• United States
21 Feb 08
Nothing wrong with sharing knowledge. That is good. That is how people learn. And I'm glad you don't beat people over the head with the knowledge you are giving them. I would hate to have to ask what you do for a headache.
1 person likes this
@rowantree (1190)
• United States
19 Feb 08
ROFLMAO I want to shake them smart too! But like you already said, you can't do that. So I ignore them. Which seems to make them angry for some reason.
2 people like this
@skinnychick (6906)
• United States
20 Feb 08
OMG- I know that member of Mensa..no seriously. The carddoes not make you a genius. I REPEAT- DOES NOT MAKE YOU A GENIUS! Whew, I won't say it again thanks for letting that rant in... LMAO at anal leakage..it's the little things that give me so much laughter! :) I'm guilty of this a bit?..imagine coming from a long line of nurses and 1 doctor plus being in school yourself...question answered. But I do it with my friends at times, most of the time they ask about medical stuff. But sometimes they don't and I can't help myself. I do know what I'm talking about so that probably makes a difference. I don't actually know someone that tries to give blind advice and I suppose I should be thankful for that. It would drive me crazy...
1 person likes this
• United States
20 Feb 08
That's pretty much it... With you it starts with the title and goes right on from there... You said anal leakage again- LOL....that is going to be in my head when I go to school tonight that could be bad...
1 person likes this
@urbandekay (18308)
24 Feb 08
LMAO, as they say, none so dangerous as one so stupid they don't realise it all the best urban
1 person likes this
• United States
24 Feb 08
They also say "when arguing with an idiot make sure the other person isn't doing the same" LoL Thanks for your comment urban.
@casinocat (284)
• United States
23 Feb 08
Okay, three things.... 1. I love your username. B. I adore your tags. and 4. You win the award for Best Discussion Title! Oh yeah, and so that I am not totally off-topic, myLot is full of geniuses who are more than willing to offer their sage advice. Kind of like real life, eh? Do you have a blog I need to subscribe to? Oh he!!, I'll go check your profile...
1 person likes this
• United States
23 Feb 08
Compliments are always appreciated. There are some that find my humor distasteful. LOL I don't have a blog I take out all of my frustrations here. I added you as a friend so make sure your notify on me is on. Many of my discussions don't last too long because someone is always offended by something. Check out my 626 discussions. Not only am I funny, sarcastic, and have a never ending wit, I can make people think and pay them money to do so. And I couldn't agree more with your comment to this discussion more. Thanks for commenting.
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
21 Feb 08
I don't see the problem. ;) I'm one of those people who knows a awful lot about nothing, and am more than happy to share my comments on the subjects. Mylot is GREAT for that, don't you think? ;) Lol! I do know what you mean about other people using their friends and family members as their credentials for knowing all about their experiences or professions. For the most part, I believe that when I do give someone an opinion on a subject, it is usually based on my OWN experience and knowledge.. certainly not something I've heard from someone else. Although I have been known to offer to contact those people who might actually know something, if it would help to get more information.