Do you fight fair?

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When we do get into an argument, it's natural that our main goal is to win it. But does that mean that there are no rules? Sometimes just to win, sometimes for lack of better arguments or reason, people tend to bring everything into an argument, even things that have nothing to do with the issue being discussed. Things that happened years ago and are not related to the present argument come into it - often things that still need closure but that might not have any reason to be discussed at that point. So, what are the rules, you may ask? Well here are some: An argument, no matter how hot the tempers are, should still be mature and not abusive. Issue at hand should be kept and the only thing being discussed, forget about past hurts or things that were not solved yet. THere will be another time to work on those, but it's not relevant at that time. AN argument is a private matter. It's important to avoid having an argument in front of other people that have nothing to do with it. Arguments in front of our children needs be avoided as well. Worse comes to worst leave and find a private place were you can continue the argument , hopefully in a more calmer manner. Recognize what you want the outcome of the argument to be. HOw can you know if you "won" if you are not sure of what you want from it ? Don't turn it into a forever thing. Recognize when the argument is stretching far from it's - possible - utility and know went to stop. If you're wining, let your opponent be able to leave this argument with some dignity - maybe that person will return the favor if another argument occurs where you're not so right. Make an effort not to over react. Ok , you might have a right to be upset, but keep it in proportion as much as you can. Don't turn the argument into some name calling thing that serves no purpose.Keep the issue in perspective. Use I sentences. It really works. So... do you fight fair?