Do you feel obliged to respond?

@Fidget (291)
February 19, 2008 9:42pm CST
If you start a discussion, do you feel obliged to respond to people who have posted? I always try to respond but sometimes I lack inspiration especially if they are all saying the same thing. I have noticed some people just say 'Thanks for the response' which is polite and shows that the author of the thread has bothered to see what people say but is it kinda cheating seeing as we are encouraged to create detailed posts?! So what do you think? (hmm, gonna be interesting if and how I repond to your views, lol).
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
Before, i only choose the response that i will comment to... but now... i make it a point to comment on all responses to my discussions... it is is just a short one... i will write thank you... then encourage the member to elaborate more... if the response is from a new member... i welcome hi/her and write thank you... It is sometime difficult to comment on all responses... i try to say something either by agreeing with their opinion or disagreeing...
@Fidget (291)
20 Feb 08
I suppose I should do that some more, encouraging people to elaborate a point in more detail. The reason I asked this question was because I had just finished going through 3 pages of responses and by the end of it all I seemed to be saying was 'Glad you like it, have fun :)'. THe smiley is always a warning sign I am running out of things to say. I suppose that rather than complain about one scentance answers I should take a proactive approach and draw the person into the discussion more. Thanks for that.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
This is the reason why i don't mind getting only a few responses to my discussions... so that i won't get tired giving each a comment... but sometimes... if i do get like 20 or 30 responses... i don't comment to all at the same time... i do it 3 or 4 at a time...
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@patgalca (15917)
• Orangeville, Ontario
20 Feb 08
I don't comment on EVERY response in my discussions. I only respond if I have something to add. I figure if someone sees that I did not respond to their post but I DID respond to some of the others, then at least they know I DID read it. I am not going to thank every person that posts, and I don't expect others to do that to me. It's unproductive and this is about productive discussions. Reading thank you after thank you after thank you is not interesting to the rest of the readers. They may stop reading the other responses. We are supposed to read all of the responses but it can become monotonous reading all the thank yous. It may discourage someone from responding. I'm not saying it does. I'm just saying it "MAY". We all want to participate in interesting and meaningful discussions.
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@Fidget (291)
20 Feb 08
er, thnak you? lol. I agree that 'Thank you' after 'Thank you' can become boring and that the whole point of this site if for discussion. I just feel a little guilty sometimes if I reply to quite a few people and not others but then I suppose thatif there is nothing to reply to then that post is not adding to the discussion and skipping it sould be okay.
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• United States
20 Feb 08
Not all response get you interested to leave a response. Thanks for the message or response is fine. I find some people don't put forth any effort to respond to the question. Or read it all for that matter. I don't respond back to all of them or My wrist will get sore again. I am having problems with them again. I guess 50+ posts have a price tag. :)
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I'm with you on that. sometimes it is just hard to keep reading the same message over and over and it is even more difficult to respond over and over. I don't think it is a big deal. I mean, when I make a post, I don't always expect a response. I assume that the person read my answer and took from it what they needed ,,if anything. It is very time consuming to respond to every little comment and I don't feel it is nescessary. it depends on t he discussion. just be yourself.
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@Swaana (1208)
• India
20 Feb 08
This is something of a question. And I wish to respond to those who have replied for the discussion I have started with a Thanks to show them that I have read their response. But still I too have felt that just a thanks is not enough as it is just going to stop the discussion. If I really want to continue the discussion my response to the replier's response should also be elaborate. So....
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• Philippines
20 Feb 08
Well, we are not really expected to give a comment to all those who responded to our discussions. It would really be difficult to do so especially if they are all saying the same thing only in a different manner. But I manage to say thank you from time to time. If there are responses that I think I have to comment on then I do.
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• Canada
20 Feb 08
I do try and take the time to respond to each poster that responds to my disscussions because I feel if they take the time to respond to me, I should take the time to respond back. I also rate everyone that posts on my disscussions :)
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@Fidget (291)
20 Feb 08
I knowq what you mean but at the same time doesn't it ever seem a bit futile especailly if their response is just a scentence repeating what had been expressed over and over already?
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I try to respond personally to each person who responds to my discussions. But, it does get tough when some or most are saying the same thing. I sometimes feel repetitive. But, I think that if they took the time to respond, that was very nice of them and I want to let them know that I read their response and what I think about what they said.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I posted a similar discussion recently and found that most people do post return comments, but they don't expect it of you necessarily. I do feel obligated, but I too have a hard time with what to say, especially when I get alot of responses. Unfortunately, I have become very lax of late in returning comments and I keep telling myself to do it, but am still procrastinating.
@ESKARENA1 (18298)
20 Feb 08
i always respond when i have something to say, i feel it is only right and polite to blessed be
• United States
20 Feb 08
I do try to put something personal when I respond back. I will admit sometimes I just have nothen to add/ ask to a coment so I will use thanks for your coment
• United States
20 Feb 08
Omg I was thinking this just todya and im one of the ones that say thanks for the responce or something like that but usally to people that only put one line. My discussion was in the one sent in email and that gave me a lot of responces, and half of them said the same thing in the differant ways. and then some said something else in differant ways. it was a little discouarging but i just kept responding back.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
Actually i dont think we are obliged to answer if we dont really feel like or we cannot join a certain discussiions because it is dificult to answer a discussion but you have less knowledge about the topic. Or we dont feel the subject.