Should i confront him?

I am curious as to why he is getting in touch with you. Did he clean up his act? Looking for forgiveness or something else? You alone are going to have to make to choice to see him or not and ask him your questions. You might want to meet with him in a public place and see what he has to say and then decided whether or not to ever see him again. That way you could ask your questions and then have some sort of closure about it. Take care and good luck.

Oh my it is hard to say which is best. I was in a similar situation and finally I did confront my dad and he refused to admit his guilt at all. He had abused me sexually as a little kid, and I wanted him to apologize or at least recgognize what he had done was wrong. so then i felt asthough I should have left it alone. My mother never knew what he did and I never told her as it would have broken her heart. I do feel sometimes a person like that should be made to face what he did but again it might not do any good at all. I did learn to stay away from my father at all times as the one time he abused me my mom was ill in the hospital. Idid try to get my pastor to help but he refused to believe my dad. the doctor in the small town. would do something so awful and he called me a liar. I feel for you and am not sure what the answer is but perhaps you should just go on with your life and not let him back in. He truly does not deserve to belet back into your life not after the way he treated you and your siblings. good luck and take care.

Of course this is just my opinion but it seems that your dad will never take responsibility of what he has done to your family in the past.I feel that you will get no closure from confronting him.He will manipulate you and make you miserable all over again once you learn that he won't change.You have your own child to protect now.He may be more dangerous now than before and you don't want your child to have that same fear that you lived with.He made his bed and it's time for him to lie in it.I wish you all the best.

that was tough!! i mean what youve been through with your dad...well for me he is still your father no matter what..i know its hard to forget but no one is perfect (dad)..try seeing him and find out what it is all about..maybe he had changed or whatever...nope no need to confront him about the past...be reunited with your relatives and see what happens..just for closure i guess ..

I really think that this depends on you. I have chosen not to contact my father at all. My parents were together for 20 years when he decided that he needed something younger, something thiner, and something blonde. He walked out on my family. My mother and father have lived apart for 5 years, and it is killing my mom. She cries all the time. I just want her to find someone, but she does not think that it will happen. Make your decision, your the only one who could make it. Good luck

This is a sad story. Did he only beat you when he was drunk? or was he sober? Technically it wouldnt be his fault if he was drunk because he had no control over it. In that case he should go to AA meeting to stop drinking.

I think that you should see what it is that he wants to say but not bring your child any where near him because it might not be a good situation. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing.

ONLY get in touch with him and confront him IF YOU ARE POSITIVE you're ready AND you have a solid support system backing you up!

My opinion is live in peace and don't invite your past drama into your life or the life of your child and mum. His issues are his demons. Let him deal with them when he is truly repentent.

I am not sure that anyone can answer your question, drinkers are great manipulators and liars it's true... Do you think he would be able to give you a good answer to your questions?? Would you regret it if you refused to see him and then you never had another chance?? If you think you want to meet him, make it on neutral ground and don't take your child - make a list of questions you want to ask him and make him answer, it's up to you - you take control...

I think you should get out of it. it seems he has always bothered you in your life. so there is no point in doing so. Again what is the gurantee that you won't be in trouble?

wellli donot now what type of ur dad is well with ur discussion might be it shows that he is big drunker and he donot cares about his family. i think u should stay of it . and when ever he goona contact with u try to not contact with him. because might be he will took u to and pab or any other where . where he will like to telll u his story or might be wanna beat u. stay away be safe

There's nothing wrong in asking what went wrong.Who knows if you do that,everything will be fixed and be ok.But be careful with his response though.I'm also bitter with my dad and I'm having 2nd thoughts of visiting him when I get out of the house.

This is something that no one can tell you what to do. Its something that you need to follow your heart about. Go with your gut instincts they will never stear you wrong. I've chosen not to contact my mom anymore becuase she never wanted anything to do with me as a child and she tried to keep my brother and me apart and still trying to do it until this day. So what I'm trying to say is you need to look for yourself and do what you think is right. I have my reasons for not talking to my mom but they are personal reasons. Just like you have personal reasons behind your dad. The only advice that I can give you is this: "Do what your heart tells you."

No, don't stay out of it, be strong and confront him, i think he's been terrible to you and it's time for an explanation, you're not just a little kid anymore and he won't be able to push you around, if he's really honest about getting in touch with you i think he should first discuss this important issue with you! Besides, i'm sure it'll make you feel good or at least somehow relieved to get a response from him...noone ever did anything to stop all the nasty stuff he did and when you finally spoke out the truth to someone he LIED...i think he owes you AT LEAST an apology and if he can't even do that then maybe it'd be better off to keep ignoring him...even if he's your dad, i don't care, noone deserves to be treated like crap...my brother was sometimes like that and i'm still kind of resentful.

i guess go talk with him maybe he needs someone to talk with him! maybe he gunna change !! just try !! better than nothin wishu the best