Would you marry a man who already has been married 7 times?
By MrsFrizzle
@MrsFrizzle (1963)
United States
October 30, 2006 12:40pm CST
My friend is enaged to a man who is 34. She is 25. He has been married 7 times. I want her to make sure it will last. They have only been dating for less then a year and plan on getting married in 6 months. He also has costity of 4 of his kids from two differnt mothers and wants my friend to stay home and watch the children. She would be giving up a job she loves teaching after she just spent 4 years in school for it. What do you think about this Is there anything I can do to help my friend from making a big mistake. Is it even a mistake?
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30 responses
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I think your friend needs some serious counseling. If this guy already has 7 failed marriages behind him and is only 34, he has about the worst track record I've ever heard of. I'd say the chances of your friend having a lasting marriage would be very small and not worth taking the chance. Besides, he shouldn't already be after her to give up the job she loves to watch kids that are HIS responsibility. It sounds to my like he's looking for a full-time babysitter with a little fringe benefits attached.
@dreamsncharms (1340)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I so agree with you. If I were her, I would just for kicks have a background check down on him. That is just what I would do in that case.
@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Wow. He obviously just wants her to play baby sitter for his kids wile he goes out and does his thing. I think it's a big mistake. I mean if she loves him and he is good to her and that's what she wants then it's okay but if that was me I wouldn't even talk to that guy. Hope everything works out for her.
@juls146 (963)
• India
30 Oct 06
i think aft marrying 7 ladies and meeting 101 gals...he is still looking for his true love..means he doesnt know wat is love n in need of something else...
it better u advice ur friend...
tak care
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@juls146 (963)
• India
30 Oct 06
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I opened my bag,
found it empty.
Reached my pocket,
got few coins.
Searched my heart
& found u.
Then i realize how rich i m
becoz i have a friend
@billysbabe (578)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Does she know why his previous marriages failed? I married my husband and i am his 3rd and FINAL wife lolol, I know about his past and exactly why they never worked, that was a big thing the trust issue..... She may need to look a bit deeper in2 this before jumping in feet 1st
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
30 Oct 06
I would say it's a BIG mistake! I really don't know how you help your friend - she presumably has stars in her eyes! I think it's very, very sad when people can't see logic when it's staring them in the face! This man is either very charming or your friend is desperate to get married!Whichever way you look at it (either the man has been very unlucky in choosing gold-digging cheaters of wives or he is constitutionally incapable of having a serious relationship), he is a loser! I'm not surprised he wants her to stay home! (Does she really want to be an unpaid nursemaid?!?) He must have two or three jobs in order to pay the alimony to seven people!Please, please tell your friend that she can afford to wait before getting married! She is quite young yet and there are plenty of fish in the sea besides the ones that have been caught and lost that many times!
@MisteyJewel (90)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I think the Interesting part of it is..Married 7 times and shooting for his 8th and everyone is claiming he is the bad man..well what makes me wonder is how and why does he have 4 of his children??Something has to give with this story..right?
@clownfish (3272)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I probably wouldn't even date someone who has been married 7 times. Obviously this person can't make a relationship work. Your caution is warranted.
@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
30 Oct 06
That is what I thinkk. If they had been together for a few months or somethng that would be one thing but it has not been long at all.
@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Neither do I but she has been a very close friend since we where i middle school.
@gbspew (455)
• Bulgaria
3 Jan 07
Why not? If we love each other. Nothing is eternity. The more important things is the present.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Show her how she will be kissing her life away. Holy cow, seven times. This man doesn't know what he wants. Hunt down the previous seven wives and find out why they divorced him or vice versa. If they did, have them talk to your friend. Find a nice guy that will treat her like a queen and introduce them.
A man can want in one hand and crap in another, and see which fills up first. He better find a babysitter. She should NOT give up her job for this guy. Stay at home for another woman's kids. Heck NO.
Girl you have about 3 months to end this. 7 marriages, with 4 kids. He must make a lot of money to take care of 4 kids, and alimony if they got that. How in the world will this man be able to take care of him, his new wife, and four kids, if she doesn't work. You didn't mention he was dumb, lol. He must be really hot looking, lol.
Good Luck with your friend.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Show her how she will be kissing her life away. Holy cow, seven times. This man doesn't know what he wants. Hunt down the previous seven wives and find out why they divorced him or vice versa. If they did, have them talk to your friend. Find a nice guy that will treat her like a queen and introduce them.
A man can want in one hand and crap in another, and see which fills up first. He better find a babysitter. She should NOT give up her job for this guy. Stay at home for another woman's kids. Heck NO.
Girl you have about 4 months to end this. 7 marriages, with 4 kids. He must make a lot of money to take care of 4 kids, and alimony if they got that. How in the world will this man be able to take care of him, his new wife, and four kids, if she doesn't work. You didn't mention he was dumb, lol. He must be really hot looking, lol.
Good Luck with your friend.
@jenbatres (799)
• United States
3 Jan 07
Ok married 7 times, he is 34 and they ahve been dating about a year. On average his marriages last about 2 years and that would be rushing into the next. . . .You might upset your friend by having the conversation with her, maybe you should see if her parents will do it. He could be a good guy, but I would not date someone who has been married that many times.
@dadynigga (744)
• Romania
3 Jan 07
maybe he marries with women just to get money like a gigolo:P
lol,7 times are hard to number;at what age did he first get married???15:p
@emilylynn2003 (876)
• United States
7 Nov 06
all that really matters is does your friend enjoy working with those children .. is she happy with him.. if she is there is nothing you can do or say to change her mind.. it is good that she has schooling out the way incase things ever happend she can pick that back up again .. I think she may have alot of baby mama drama but other then that as long as she is happy just let her do it
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
30 Dec 06
There is nothing you can do or say dear. And, only time will tell if it is a mistake. It's between them to make it work.
@pondlife (467)
•
6 Nov 06
Wow, that doesn't sound right does it?
I wouldn't marry him but then I'm a man and that wouldn't be right either! ;-)
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@wyykidd (1460)
• Singapore
31 Dec 06
Definitely not. I don't ostracize divorcees, but if all 7 women couldn't stay married to this guy for wrong, then I'd really suspect that something could be seriously wrong with this guy!
YOu might want to try talking to your friend. However, if she is so blinded by her love for this guy, your kind words might just fall on deaf ears.
