Would U Change Your Food Habits For Your Partner?

India
February 21, 2008 7:31am CST
Hello everyone.. I saw an article on this topic today.. some people said yeah i will.. but someone said why should i change for the sake of my partner. what i feel is i'm a non-vegetarian from my childhood days. If my partner is strong vegetarian and cannot stand the smell of non-vegetarian food in the house, then i would not mind turning into a vegetarian for him.. wat do u think.. will u change for your partner?
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• United States
21 Feb 08
There isnt really a correct answer in this case I have personally created a better eating habit for me and my partner we eat the same things so that works in my favor but as for others it depends on the tighteness and commitment of the relationship if you to are just dating they no no no but if the relationship is where you two live seperately no no no and if you two live together well that has to be a discussion that the couple has to come to an agrement but never stop doing what you like people forget who they are sometimes when they have got into realtionship one love sisterlove
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• India
21 Feb 08
Ok.. Thats fine..
• Canada
10 Mar 08
I am vegetarian and I have a boyfriend who is not. I have many food allergies and he has diabetes so between the two of us, we have special diets. I don't mind if he eats meat as long as he cooks it himself. There are also some meat that is too strong, like pork and pepperoni, that I cannot stand smelling, so I leave the room when he eats these. I am allergic to onions and garlic, so we don't cook with these even though he loves them. If he wants onions or garlic, he'll buy fast food or cook when I'm not around. SO, it's a compromise and two people have to be willing to respect each other's dietary needs and find a middle ground so you both can still share occassion meals. It's an important ritual that strengthens a relationship. My last relationship broke up partly over the fact that I developed food allergies and couldn't eat the things he cooked. Well, he took it personally and withdrew his love instead of finding middle ground. So, it's really important to find someone who is respectful and not too self-absorbed.
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Hi. I'm a vegan and I could not change my eating habits for anyone. My choice was a spiritual awakening and it's part of who I am. My partner is a meat eater and he knew I was a vegan when we got together. I didn't ask him to change for me. We manage to work around our diets, but I can't tolerate the smell of meat cooking either. If he's craving beef, we go out to eat. On the few occasions we do cook meat, I open the windows, even if it's thirty degrees outside. As far as anyone changing? I used to think people could change, but I've learned changes in personality to satisfy a partner's desires don't last. We are who we are. Certainly, there are life changing moments for everyone, but I'm not talking about that. I mean the little stuff - like - can you teach your guy to consistently put down the toilet seat?That's disturbing to mention bathrooms in a food article. Sorry, I can't think of a different analogy right now. If anyone thinks they can change someone, please talk to me first. I have the battle scars (creatively speaking) to prove my theory. I'm sure a person's desire to change for someone can be very strong. If I was on the end of hoping the person will change, I wouldn't wait. I didn't try to alter my vegan diet, but I did alter the time pattern of my life. I write late into the night and I tried to switch my schedule around to day time writing. Guess what? I stopped writing. Oh well. Life circumstances change. I remember a phrase I read somewhere - "Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely."
• India
27 Feb 08
I dont think the food habits should matter or should be the matter of concern when i comes to changing them for your partner.But if the family doesnt agree on certain things definitely i would change it for my hubby as after marriage you are supposed to follow certain rules and regulations of that family..But certainly it should matter at a gr8 extent...
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@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Feb 08
not necessarily i will...since its how or my preferences of food and no one can change it...the best thing will be to cook 2 kinds of viands for the family ..and thats exactly what im doing at present..
@dpk262006 (56756)
• Delhi, India
23 Feb 08
It is a matter of understanding each other. I think food habits would differ from individual to individual. We should request our partner's food habits. If she is a non-vegetarian, she should be allowed to have non-vegetarian dishes, there is no harm, I would allow that. I won't force my partner to change, as per my taste. I would definitely allow her space for her likings and dislikings.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Feb 08
What if you are a vegetarian and the person whom you want to marry is a meat-lover. He wants you to fix him steak, pork chops, ham, hot dogs, bologna, and all the other wonderful things. Would you ever consider going back to eating meat, just to make life simpler for you? I believe that becoming a vegetarian is a very big decision and you want to stay committed to that for life. I think that food is an important enough factor in determining who we spend our lives with. How one feels about their diet, says a lot about who they are.
• United States
23 Feb 08
Since i don't eat vegetables Anyone who wanted me to become vegetarian in a sense wants me not to eat anything. Needles to say I wouldn't change my eating habits for anyone or even for sake of my health.I wouldn't change for my boyfriend because I would resent him. It is because of him , I wouldn't get to eat what I want.What ever love I had for him would fade. Or worst I would start lying to him and sneak out to eat what I like.So the relationship would fail. The only way for it to work is we agree Not to eat together.
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@Annmac (949)
23 Feb 08
I wouldn't change any of my habits and neither would my husband and we've been together 37 years. We 'compromise' on everything and it's probably why we are still together. Any partnership has to be equal and neither should expect the other to change, after all you fell in love with the person as they were! Hubby had never kept a pet beyond a single gold fish,in his life but I couldn't live without them and he accepted that and soon learned to love them himself, and most cats and dogs 'love' him. Even the 'strangers' respond to him, so I don't really see that as him changing as he 'discovered' something that had been missing from his life. We are both meat eaters but I have a problem with cheese, it makes me ill if I eat it and even the smell of it can make me nausious. He loves cheese including Gorgonzola but he only eats that when away from home. He has milder cheeses at home and cooks cheese when I'm out and keeps it well wrapped up and in a box in the fridge so neither I or our son (same effects as mine)can smell it. Funny thing is my daughter loves cheese as much as her Dad does. She never eats it when I visit. When it comes to 'smelly' foods it's my husband who does most of the compromising as he also likes strong curries and Kippers! I can't stand the smell of either! Again he doesn't cook or eat them when I'm around. The only way I compromise over 'smell' is that I don't have flowers indoors or wear or use flowery perfumes! He really can't stand them except for lavender. If you decide to 'change' it should be because that is what 'you' want but if you love eating meat then just find a way to compromise. There are many things in life and living together that you may not agree on, music, leisure activities, TV programs etc etc, what is important is that you share the things you do agree on and consider each other when choosing to do what the other doesn't like! I think if someone has to change who or what they are to better suit the person they are with, then they are with the wrong person.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
no I would not, nor would I expect him to change for me, we are all adults and make our own food choices.
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@uath13 (8204)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Nope, I'm a carnivore. Herbivours get eaten at my house.
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@suspenseful (40313)
• Canada
21 Feb 08
Seeing I am married, I guess this does not apply to me, but I will answer it anyway. Am not politically correct, and do not like the term 'partner' it just sounds like a business arrangement and says I have to do everything he does. If my habits were life threatening, that is if I were eating lots of meat at the expense of vegetables, then I would change, but if I already know how to balance the meat and vegetables, and salad stuff, letting the vegetables and salads be a majority in the diet, I would not change. For instance, there are vegetarian burgers, etc. that simulate the taste of meat, so I would think that he could not even stand even their odor.
@ellie333 (21018)
21 Feb 08
I enjoy meat so for me I would probably choose a non-vegetarian partner in the first place, but if I did find I fell in love with someone who physically couldn't stand the smell of meat cooking I'd probably eat out with friends more often and on the days at home cook vegetable dishes, some are really tasty. I would not become a vegetarian though to please him, just eat my meat dishes when he not around. Ellie :D
• India
21 Feb 08
Yeah.That would be a good idea..
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
8 Apr 08
This is a very interesting topic. I really like how you included what others said according to an experiment or at least what you've heard on this particular subject. I know a lot of people might say they wouldn't change for their partner, but I beg to differ. After living with that other person for a while, I've seen that people become more like their partner than they want to admit! It's like they start living the same life and molding their activities around that other person, which isn't a bad thing at all. What I'm trying to say is that although people might say they wouldn't change their habits because of their partners, slowly but surely they might actually begin changing without even knowing it! To answer your question, though, my answer is yes. I would definitely change because of my partner, as long as the change is profitable for me as well. I think it's important for couples to grow together. After all, that's why they decided to get together in the first place! Good topic.
• Canada
11 Mar 08
No way would I change. My brother-in-law didn't change for my sister, and my sister didn't change for my brother-in-law. She's a vegetarian, and he is not. My husband and I like pretty much the same foods, but we both agree. One partner should not have to change for the other.
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
Technically I won't but if it would be for my own good,then why not?
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
25 Feb 08
I won't if my partner can't stand the smell of non-vegetarian, I'll have vegetarian at home but when he's not around I will still have something I like.
@manya_pearl (1903)
• Singapore
25 Feb 08
Hm, i think i would not change my partner food habits since he is a really "trouble" kimchi eater. Its his fave food, i cant totally change his eating style. But i do cook some indonesian food for him, and he has no prob to eat them, with "requirement" that kimchi should present!
@jazgottt (1181)
• Poland
25 Feb 08
hi rathi04. I think it is good idea to change our food habits for our partners only in one case - when we have bad food habits LOL. I have good eating habits, fortunately eating habits of by boyfriend are also quite good. We share our experience about heathy and yummy food, so our food habits unite. I forgot about one situation - when a partner is on a diet. I mean a diet which is given by a doctor because of health problems. I'd try to not cook or eat meals which my partner can't eat, when he is around. have a nice day, jazgottt.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I don't believe that anyone should ever have to change their natural habits in order to please their mate, rathi. That is why people should take time to get to know one another before they get into a relationship. Partners should be respectful of each other, and that does not mean giving up what each of them enjoys.