I'm NEVER doing that again!

I don't exactly call "worshiping the porcelain god" exciting....

Ohh!! This is very encouraging. Thanks so much for sharing. That's an inspiring decisions that I'm sure will affect the rest of your wonderful life in a positive way. I'm glad you made the decision and were able to stick to it. Good for you, my friend! :)

(You see? Your life isn't so boring after all! LOL)

I agree, as saying says " good thing happen to good people"LOL! I have only 2 friends who actually do that and they were doing that to almost all of their friends. Backbiting, after that, I prefer really to stay away from her.Anyway, people are like that but great that I can still count to most of my friends since they are real and genuine!

I'm happy to know that you still have friends you can count on. That's one of the most important things in life is having people you can confide in and know they'll be honest with you. If I were you, I'd also be the one staying away from those backbiting "friends" who probably aren't really friends at all. Keep up the good work and keep doing what you're doing to help people. I love how you included that wonderful quote, "Good things happen to good people." It's so true! Thanks again, my friend.

That's so sad that they would criticize you behind your back when all you were trying to do was help! People can most certainly be like that. Backstabbers are really hard to get along with, but yet, you seem to have that tendency toward helping people. You shouldn't be criticized because of it, though. I know because I'm the same way. If you're trying to help a friend in need, they have no right to be picky about how you choose to help them. That's just my opinion. I know exactly what you mean, and I thank you for your honest response. I've been hurt many times as well for helping others. In the end, however, you and I are the ones who will ultimately reap the benefits of our efforts! Thanks for sharing your experiences.

You are a very independent person and that's exactly what I admire about you. I'm the same way, so I must admit that I've had some doubts about getting married myself also. I must echo the comment I made to Lori's response previous to yours. Your situation reminds me of the quote, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Stay single. Go for it. You can do it, and do it beautifully at that! That's the "real you," so that's where you need to be. I appreciate so much how you've learned from your mistakes and shared your lessons with the rest of us. I couldn't agree with you more on your response. Thanks!

very well explained JJ. Yes I know this comes with baggage , the baggage of being misunderstood by others. But as long as that doesn't make me pauper (intrinsically) I would do that. For as you have rightly said, its my way of helping myself. I am not doing anything great dear but I am being human and we need to be more humane. Four defunct limbs, two eyes virtually blind, a misused brain and a wasteful heart and soul - does that what attribute a human?

I know many people in your shoes and have been there myself. It's like, you shouldn't be the one with a disadvantage because you tried to help someone else. Doesn't ever make sense, does it? I'm glad your a "people person," though. We need more individuals like you in this world. I'm the same way too. I have to reach out and help a friend in need. I don't want to get pulled into a bad situation, but I think it helps me become a better person because of it. I think helping others also keeps us busy and scares depression away. They always say that the best way to help yourself when you're depressed is to reach out and help others. I know medically speaking, this wouldn't be considered a "cure," but I think it works just as well. I wish you all the best in your endeavors because you are a person who lives to help others. Continue doing what you're doing and do it well! There are people out there who need you. Thank you so much for your insight.

It may not seem like you're doing much, but it's like you said, "I am being human and we need to be more humane." You're the kind who helps the world become what it needs to be, so in a sense, you truly are doing something great! Touching lives and doing something wonderful starts one life, one person at a time. I believe you're beginning a change the world needs to see and experience. It's great to know there are still wonderful and selfless people in the world. Thanks a bunch, my friend. It's great to hear from you again.

Good for you! Wow, your response definitely took me by surprise, but what a pleasant one it was. I really appreciate your response. There's no better way to live your life than without any boundaries! Keep up the good work, my friend. :)

I felt a small bit of guilt when I read your response only because I'm the same with shopping and shoes! Of course, I'm happy I bought whatever it is I got on that particular shopping trip, but I always do the same in telling myself I will never make that same mistake again...that never works. (LOL) I'm glad there's someone out there just as bad about shoes as I am! Makes us both feel at little better, doesn't it?

How sweet of your daughter to get you the same pair of shoes in a different color! That was very thoughtful of her. I could talk about shoes all day...and buy them. (LOL) I'd definitely get myself in trouble. I'm staring at my shelf of shoes right now and just have to shake my head and laugh since there couldn't possibly be another pair that I'd need! Thank you so much for sharing in my guilt. (LOL) It's great to hear from you, Ellie!

Oh yes I feel much better now and I'm sure my daughter does now too as she is worse than me for shoes, in fact she bought me a pair on Sunday bless the same as hers but a different colour because I had said I'd liked them! Ellie :D

That's really sad that this woman has caused you to make such a decision. It's truly a shame that she's such a hard person to get along with. I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but I'm really glad you've decided to move on.

I've definitely been there and done that. I've said something, and as soon as the words came out of my mouth, I was already regretting it without being able to take it back. What a shame. I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't always think before she speaks! (LOL) Thanks, Pretty Babe.

Your response made me laugh! I like it when you're in a good mood. I'm also glad your cat gets you all to herself! You know what that tells me? SPOILED. (LOL) It's ok for a kitty to be spoiled, though. I'm glad you have her to keep you company. I have to tell you that I laughed when I read your response because this isn't the kind of thing I'm supposed to be reading when I just got engaged a couple weeks ago and am probably getting married in a few months! Of course, you said you regretted getting remarried rather than just married. I suppose I'll have to take your advice! (LOL) Thank you for your wonderful response and the chuckles. I'm glad you were able to enjoy this discussion on your day off.