would you consider an abortion?

@winterose (39897)
Canada
February 22, 2008 5:24pm CST
No this has never happened to me, or anyone I know, it is a question for discussion for myloters, you must answer with I, meaning you the reader for a positive rating. would you consider an abortion if you were pregnant and the doctor told you that you child would be born severally deformed, or would have a life threatening disease which there is no cure for and the child is not expected to live past 5 years old. I know for me it would be the hardest decision I would ever have to make in my life, would you consider an abortion?
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49 responses
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
23 Feb 08
No I would not consider an abortion. My oldest daughter was told to get one and she refused and thank goodness she went with her heart and didn't listen to them. He has klinefelter's syndrome and it is not as severe as the doctor's led them to believe and even if it had been we all would have loved him just the same.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Feb 08
Praise God, he was given a chance.
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@s_bala (75)
• India
24 Feb 08
Under no circumstance I would consider an abortion. Because God has given life and we have no right to take a life. I would commit the child into God's hands and pray for healing because " By His stripes we are healed ". " and things Impossible with man is possible with God " and when the World says No, the Word of God says YES.
• United States
25 Feb 08
nice comment...it really puts things into perspective
• United States
23 Feb 08
If the baby is gone to be born with live threatening diseases and is not gone to live a normal life i would have to admit that abortion would be something to consider. It just seems so selfish to me to have a baby knowing that it is gone to go through severe pain and suffering. To know that a baby is gone to be sick from day one and in all kinds of pain is just wrong. Why would one want to put a child through this just for the fact that they want a baby.
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• United States
23 Feb 08
and I am not talking autism and such when I say this. Autism and such is doable. I have a cousin with autism and hes perfectly fine. It just takes him a little longer to pick up the concepts of certain things. I would not about a baby just because of this. So it would have to depend on the condition that we are talking about.
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@suspenseful (40313)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
I would never consider an abortion, because even though the child might not live long, she or he deserves even those few years of life. Besides I would suppose that the only reason my child exist is because there are countless healthier babies who would have lived had not their parents decide that they were an inconvenience. So if I have this happen, and I hope not, that when they ask why did I not abort her, I would look on those and ask, "why did you abort yours,she was perfect." and they would be ashamed.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
23 Feb 08
To be perfectly honest, winterose, I would never consider having an abortion under any circumstances. It is my personal opinion that abortion is wrong, and always has been.
• United States
23 Feb 08
It would really depend on why the child wasn't going to live. If I was carrying a child with tay sachs (sp?) I don't think I would continue the pregnancy. I have 2 children with autism, and if I were to have another child are there was a prenatal test, I would have the baby. Down Syndrome is questionable only because I have a lack of experience there. Abort a fetus with severe deformities? That again would depend on what it is. Having children with special needs makes you look at everything in a new light. I also think things happen for a reason. If I did decide not to continue with a pregnancy, but I was meant to, something would happen. There would be too many "road blocks" to abort.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
Yes, I would strongly consider an abortion in that case, assuming the science was accurate in its determination. I am pro choice, and always have been. I have considered aborting in the past, and went through counseling to see if that was the right choice for me. The first time, no, it was not. I was only there because the father was goading me into doing it. The second time, I had 3 children aged 2 and under, but ended up with a miscarriage. Within 6 months of the miscarriage, I had a tubal ligation, so that I would not have to make a decision like that again.
• United States
22 Feb 08
my personal opionion is i would keep my child as i believe that doing aboration is messing with some cosmic rythem, meaning if u get pregnat you should take responsibilty for the life you created, and that goes with universal law of accountalbilty. and have faith,that you will be the best parent for your new child.
@gemini_rose (16257)
22 Feb 08
Yes I would, and I probably would not just consider it I would probably do it. For me I could not give birth to a child that would not have a good quality of life or indeed would only have a short life, it would not be fair on that child and it would not be fair on everyone else involved to have to go through that kind of heart break. Yes it would be a hard thing to have to decide and a hard thing to go through but I know that it is what I would do.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
22 Feb 08
no, I can not even remotely consider a willful abortion for these scenerios . I am not the author of life, and that life is not mine to end. Who am I? I am just a person, a creation myself - I firmly believe that God will take care of His Own. If He does not desire that life created, He would not create it. God's Will be done.
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@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
22 Feb 08
No. I would never consider the idea of abortion because I mean apparently you and your girlfriend/boyfriend got pregnant for some reason(I mean it must be meant to happen)so why would you go and get an abortion..if the girl didn't want it I would just tell her to carry it out and then i would take care of the kid and she wouldn't have to worry about it!
• China
24 Feb 08
One week ago,I got the sad news that my friend accepted her doctor's advice of abortion,because the baby had some disease.If this happened to me ,probably I would not consider an abortion.I awe life ,I have no right to decide the future of my baby.I will treasure every minute to stay with my baby, love him or her ,enjoy beautiful sunshine and nature.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
24 Feb 08
I am so sorry, I will say a prayer for your friend
@xueliang (27)
• China
23 Feb 08
NO!!!DON NOT abortion! I believe in Buddha and Buddha told us that metempsychosis is the truth of our world.All the people have spirit,and the baby in your bingy also have his spirit,if you abortion,the baby being killed will have deep enmity with you!Because you killed him!And he will retaliate in the next metempsychosis.So,don't,don't abortion!It is enormous evil!
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• China
23 Feb 08
We must confess for our evil!
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@weehihi (132)
• Philippines
23 Feb 08
first things first, how far are you in your pregnancy when you can still have the abortion..because, im confused when you said the doctor already knew the child will be born deformed..how will he know that when it's still not formed yet in your tummy..and if it's like 5months old alrdy, can you still abort that?? hmmmm and if the child would have a life threatening disease and can only last for 5yrs or so, would you trade that 5yrs of happiness?? it will be sad when that time comes when the child will die bt at least you get to spend those 5yrs happily and lovingly with that child..personally, i dont think i can do abortion..not only will i feel guilty bout it coz im a christian,and abortion is like killing too and also,what if i get the abortion but then i wont be having a kid again??that's too bad...
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
there is a lot modern medicine can detect through amnocentesis, by checking the blood fluid they can test the dna, chromosones blood cell abnormalities etc.at each stage of human development they know what a fetus should look like and therefore they can tell if it is developing normally, and if it is full term with two heads, or six legs then what? abortion sometimes is the answer
@dtroas (481)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Yes if need be I would. I think that their is alot of mothers out there that should of had an abortion, why wait until your child is borned then decide you do not want it. You let it live a life of Hell-o , or decide to kill it or hurt it after it is here. That is a good question, But I am pro- choice, I do think all children have a right to life. But if you know that childs life is going to be hell do somehting about it before you bring it into this world.
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• United States
8 Mar 08
It would depend on how severe the deformity or disease. I cannot see bringing a life into the world to only suffer. However, it would be a struggle to make that decision. Either choice would bring pain and suffering. I am happy I have never had to make that choice. I don't know what I would do!
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@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
I know of a lot of people that have had an abortion or two. Myself incuded. When I was 17 years old I had a baby and the father took off on me. When I was 18 years old I got pregnant again and this time I didn't have the baby, instead I had an abortion. I couldn't have another baby for many reasons, mostly because I was too young to have two babies. Then when I was 26 years old I had another baby and this time I as married and my first son was already 8 years old, so it was okay to have her. Then I got pregnant again when my daughter was only 4 months old and when we found out I was pregnant we also got the bad news that I had cancer in my womb. So I had to have an abortion because they had to treat me for the cancer and the baby would die anyways. I had to have my womb removed so they did it at the same time as they did the abortion. I had to have chimo after that for 6 weeks and I am now cancer free. That was 25 years ago and I am still cancer free. Two of my sisters have had an abortions, by choice, and my daughter has had an abortion, by choice. A few of my girlfriends have had abortions also. I don't think they is anything wrong with women choicing to have an abortion and I don't think anyone should be judged for it. There is always a reason for it and who are we to question their reasons.
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@eden32 (3975)
• United States
25 Feb 08
For me, I would probably continue the pregnancy, but I would not suggest that is the 'right' choice for every family. If I was a single parent already & this pregnancy (and future special needs child) would cause a severe hardship to the children I have, I would terminate. If the condition was such that the child would live a short life, in pain I may feel terminating is a more humane. With a few exceptions, those diagnosis are usually made later in a pregnancy; a second trimester termination is a much more involved & debatable (to say the least) procedure. I would not choose a late term abortion except in the most dire of circumstances, but I certainly feel sympathy & empathy for families facing that choice and do not judge their choices.
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• United States
25 Feb 08
I honestly don't know 'cause I wouldn't want the child to suffer or have a short lived life. I guess the not wanting them to live a short life is kind of selfish because I wouldn't want us to experience the pain of losing him/her. At the same time I would want the child to live the best I could give him/her during their short lived time here because they didn't ask to be formed and should have a chance at life. I don't believe in abortion with the exception of rape or it puts your life at risk, but this raises a new question. That would be a hard decision for anyone to make, and I hope I never do. I honestly don't know what I would do.
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• Philippines
25 Feb 08
That would be a hard decision for me too.It would cost a lot of money raising a child like that.I'm also going to pity the child because there is a big chance that me and my boyfriend would put our frustrations on the child.But why not consider having the child?He/She may complete the family and be a joy to us.
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