Whats the biggest lesson you learned from your last past relationship
By kymommy72
@kymommy72 (588)
United States
February 22, 2008 10:19pm CST
For me, it's don't give so much of yourself that you lose yourself. I wasted 4 and a half years of my life waiting for someone who I now believe never intended for things to move forward. Waiting every night for a 9 o'clock phone call. Passing up opportunities to go out and have a real life, just so I could talk to him. Pretending to give up habits he considered bad or wrong. When I finally decided that it was no way to live and started going out with friends, he acted like it was the most terrible thing in the world, would text about a million times and in general ruin my time out. I finally decided he had to go.
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@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
23 Feb 08
Hmmm...I guess that would be not to lose myself in someone else. Not to believe everything a man says and to see the bad signs for what they are. Not to keep pushing a relationship when it's apparent that it's not wanted. To have self respect. Also, to never never let a man belittle me and lay his hands on me in anger. To know that I deserve better than that. I deserve to be loved. Fortunately, I found a great guy, who is an awesome, sweet, compassionate and loving husband. So, I have learned my lessons well...
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I lost myself in my last seven year relationship too. First few years were great, fun, loving, partying, enjoying life until I reached a stage where I was ready to settle down, but he wasn't ready to. I don't think it ever entered his mind to take the next step with me, until I decided to leave the relationship. We were up in arms in debt, he quit his job to pursue a career in fashion design which went no where and lots of money wasted on nothing really. Lots happened and I got more and more depressed - I even got a part time job (on top of my full time one) at a bar in the weekends just so I didn't have to go home to see him. I didn't know how to get out of it until I met a guy on the internet, who is now my husband and we have been married for seven years this year. He was my angel sent from heaven and if it wasn't for him, I wouldn't be where I am today. He helped me find ME again :)
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
23 Feb 08
i have learnt not to be walked over and not to give my heart to someone til i know that the love is real. i have also learnt not to go back to old partners who have treated you badly before because it stirs up old feelings and your will always end up hurting again.
