the kindest thing you've done when your gf/bf cheated on you?

Guam
February 23, 2008 9:27am CST
During 2005, I met a guy who eventually became my boyfriend. On our first month we had our first fight while he was in the province. According to him, he was so depressed that he thought we had broken up and that he went out on a date with someone else. As a woman with strong woman's intuition... I asked him several days for the truth. Day one: Date with a friend Day two: Kissed and made out Day three: 2nd base and 3rd base... Day four: All the way! Day 5: It wasn't a friend, she as his ex girlfriend... He told me to slap him hard and break up with him if I wanted, but he said that he loved me so much and that he was sorry... The kindest thing I did, I never slapped him, but I hugged him, kissed him and told him that I loved him so much to let him go.
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@ayou82 (3459)
• Philippines
23 Feb 08
Understanding is the best.. well there are levels of understanding if you can tolerate it and he never do it again then if he does... well sorry for him not my drama anymore.
• Guam
23 Feb 08
we eventually broke it off... no matter how hard I tried to forgive him, i just didn't trust him anymore...
@ayou82 (3459)
• Philippines
23 Feb 08
well let go of it. If you cannot take anymore..have the courage Face it my dear..
• Guam
23 Feb 08
I did let it go... sigh
@lecanis (16661)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
23 Feb 08
I stayed friends with a guy who cheated on me, though I did break off our engagement, and even later I wound up dating him again for a bit, but not exclusively. I wouldn't have been as nice about it as I was if it weren't for the fact that I honestly believe that he misunderstood the boundaries of our relationship. He believed that even though we were getting married, our relationship was going to be open, even though we hadn't explicitly discussed it. He just thought I knew, since we had been friends for years, and he'd never been in a relationship that wasn't open. However, since I found him in bed with someone else three days before we were supposed to get married, that was the end of the engagement for me, since I had thought our relationship was exclusive, and wanted it to be exclusive. Later on, when I wasn't so interested in a serious relationship, the same guy and I dated casually for a while, and it was great. I wouldn't ever hit someone I was involved with, even for something like cheating. I don't agree with violence in those types of situations, and would rather just talk things out or break up if the situation merited it.
• Guam
23 Feb 08
that's so sad... you almost married him... but lucky for you, you found out before marrying him...
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@lecanis (16661)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
23 Feb 08
Well, he was a good guy really, just not cut out for that sort of relationship. I still think of him once in a while, positively as a friend, and he's called me a couple of times over the past few years. It turned out for the best for me, since I'm now married to someone I love very much, and have a beautiful young son. :)
• Guam
24 Feb 08
good for you. I'm happy for you... You;re one of the lucky ones who got to find someone who is willing to commit... congratulations
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