Could you forgive someone responsible for the death of your child?

@kiran1978 (4137)
Australia
February 23, 2008 9:27am CST
I read this article from That's Life (February Issue), about a woman that has forgiven and become friends with the guy that accidentally killed her son. Here is a brief overview of the story... This woman's son was riding in the back of the ute. The guy driving the ute went around a bend, he underestimated the bend and the ute tipped. The guy in the back of the ute leapt out of the ute and the ute landed on him. (That's Life, 2008) So it was clear that this incident was an accident however silly move on both the driver (driving with people in back of ute) and the passengers by travelling in back of the ute. I would not know how I would react, I would be devestated if something ever happened to my children. Your first reaction would naturally be to blame the driver. I would always be thinking what if...... What if the driver did not lose control around the bend?? I definately could not become friends with this person and have them over for dinner, that would be too hard. What about you, how would you react?
5 responses
@SViswan (12071)
• India
23 Feb 08
Well, tough one. But if it was an obvious accident, I think I would forgive the person...be sad about my loss but wouldn't blame the person. I would think it was God's will that my son's life was short. But that wouldn't be the case if it was a drunk driver who killed my child...or some pervert. I don't think I will be able to forgive them.
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@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
24 Feb 08
You are a very forgiving person, thanks for your response. THere is noway I would forgive someone either if they were drunk or driving wrecklessly.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
23 Feb 08
If that person is responsible he/she must face certain consequences for that. Anger subsides. if it happens you cannot bring it back anymore even you cry with blood whats gone is always gone.. it is like a precious vase once it is in pieces hard to put together again. Same as forgiving.. there will always a space in your heart to forgive..
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@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
23 Feb 08
Hi, thanks for your response, you sound like a very compassionate and forgiving strong willed person. Sadly it is true you can not bring back what is gone, but you will always have memories. : ))
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
12 May 08
Sorry to say, I'd have a really hard time forgiving. Accidents happen and that's understandable but still...it would be hard to forgive. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 May 08
Yes I agree with you, it definately would be hard to forgive. It is too painful losing a child, I could not imagine it at all.
@ledouxs (64)
• Canada
23 Feb 08
I don't know how I would react but I think that she may have forgiven him because not only does she have to deal with it but so does he he killed someone by poor judgement and for him that must also be devastating. And maybe it's nice to have someone her sons age around the house to help fill the void
• United States
25 Feb 08
My children are the most important thing on this earth to me. That being said though I think in this womans case she should have forgiven. It was her son's actions as well as the boy's that got him killed, he chose to get on that UTE. I have watched children and adults on them for years, my heart is always in my throat because they all drive them wildly I have seen them rear up on two wheels so many times and think they were going to flip over. Then you also have to ask where the mom was when this happened, did she know her son was riding? Did he have her permission? There are so many ways to look at this particular incident. Now if it were as the other lady said a drunk driver, or predator, that is where I would have a "BIG" issue. They may not make it to the court room for the judge to give them a slap on the wrist, which is usually what happens now a days.