My Deodorant is Tainted and I'm Grossed Out!!
By skinnychick
@skinnychick (6905)
United States
February 23, 2008 8:14pm CST
Ok everybody, here's one to ponder.
For a few days this past week I had my aunt staying at my house to help me out with my kids while I went to school and did homework, etc. She stayed overnight for a few days because she lives kind of far. We are very close, she is like my mom only a better person and because of what happened I hurt her feelings.
The thing is I found out that she used my Secret roll on deordorant because she forgot hers at home. She didn't ask she just used it after I accidentally left it in the guest bathroom that she was using. I freaked out...I couldn't use this deordorant. I wasn't just grossed out but completely disgusted. She could see I was mad and grossed out and she said it hurt her feelings. I just told her to keep the deodorant. Noone has ever used my deodorant before so I didn't know I would react that way but I can't help it. It really grosses me out, right along with feet and anyone using my soap- I use bar soap and don't like anyone else even touching it. Does all this make me weird or is everyone else like this too?
So I have a few other questions, feel free to give whatever answers you want..
Have you ever used anyone else's deodorant?
Have you ever let anyone else use yours?
Does it gross you out? If deodorant doesn't gross you out, is there another personal item that if anyone else ever used would send you over the grossed out edge?
Thanks for reading...
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10 responses
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
24 Feb 08
I've used another person's deodorant once, when I forgot mine. I didn't tell them either. It was also Secret lol... but the solid.
It didn't gross me out to do so, nor would it gross me out to have a friend use mine if they forgot theirs.. assuming they were using it immediately after taking a shower. That's when I used the other person's as well. I wouldn't dream of it at any other time.
The only item I can think of that would gross me out for someone else to use, would be underwear. I'd never want them back again.
I would think the majority of people would also say toothbrushes, but that wouldn't bother me if it was my lover. Considering all of the other sharing going on, what's the problem with a toothbrush too? lol!
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
24 Feb 08
My ex husband used to take some of my underwear to wear... the jockey for her high french cut. Gawd... I'm so NOT into that... I should've left him the moment he did that. I certainly never took them back after that. Ew!
This is good.. I've just gotten more validation for leaving nuckfuts. Yay! :D
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
LMAO!! Underwear is definitely a no no! I still couldn't even let a lover use mine. I don't know why- like you said with all the other sharing going on. I can't figure that one out in my case. Have a great night hun!
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
24 Feb 08
I expect this coming from you because I already know you're weird. You laugh at words like crust and anal leakage. And I could do you one better. I have used other people toothbrushes. LOL
I figure if I am tongue wrestling with them anyway and we have swapped more bodily fluid than just spit nothing is going to gross me out.
I use liquid bath soap but will string up up by your toes if I catch you using my body puff. And the deodorant I just don't see being upset over as long as she didn't smell like a tuna salad sandwich that was left in the hot Arizona sun for 3 days before she put it on she should have been just as clean as you are before you use it.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
I'm really casual about most stuff but personal items I have a thing about. But a toothbrush...ewwwwwwwww. LOL She did put it on after a shower, I can give her that and the deodorant. Ooooh yeah, puff's and sponges- another Danni no-no...LOL Thanks for stopping by hun! :)
@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
24 Feb 08
it grosses you out, plain and simple, you cant change that, but..you might have over-reacted a bit in front of her...rather maybe you should have just said, "oh thats ok, you can have that one, ive got another" and then gone to your room and done the icky-poo dance lol!
ive used others deodorant, only after a shower of course, and with permission..wouldnt bother me either if a boyfriend used my toothbrush, as long as it was cleaned off when he was done..and not left with toothpaste still on it!! had that happen once and THAT grossed me out for some reason lol!
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Great point I did probably overreact but I have never had anything happen like that before. I am the master though of the icky poo dance, I usually use that in public when I know if I open my mouth something really bad will come flying out. :)
I can see how toothpaste left on a brush would gross you out- it does get sticky and hard if it stays on there and lord knows what could grow on that- LOL!
Thanks for stopping by!
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
24 Feb 08
I think using someone else's toothbrush or underwear are tops on my list of things NEVER to share. My daughters & I have on occassion borrowed each other's deoderant but I definitly would not want anyone else to and even between us it is a rarity. we usually use liquid soap so the bar is not an issue...just seems more sanitary. We also do not share lipsticks or eyeliners. I can kind of see your point with the deoderant but also understand that you did leave it in the guest room and she may have assumed that it was put there as a courtesy. I think you should talk to her and let it go. It is not worth ruining the great relationship with her over. someday you'll both laugh about this, i'm sure.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Yeah I pretty much have let it go, I did call her this AM and all is well. :) On most levels I couldn't believe my freak out myself. I'm a really mellow person in general but it just completely freaked me out. Maybe a stress build up or I'm too protective of my bath products..Thanks for stopping by.
@irene_27 (542)
• Philippines
24 Feb 08
Hi skinnycheck, so far i haven't used anyone else's deodorant or toothbrush as well as I haven't had yet the privilege of letting somebody use my own. Reading your case, i think you've made an overreaction. Yes, I understand it really grossed you out but you know getting mad and bursting an artery won't make a difference to the situation sometimes it only makes matters worse. For making such a big issue out of it, you see, the agrieved party now is your aunt, whose feelings you've hurt. You could have stretched your patience a bit on the first offense. They say patience is a virtue and sometimes it's really what we need to keep in harmony with others. I do hope you'll iron things out with your aunt soon.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
I agree with you and we will I'm sure patch it up- tomorrow I'd imagine. We can't go too long without not talking to each other.
I had a lot on my plate at the same time, which isn't a great excuse and I do feel bad but I looked at it on my list as just another thing to do and I already had about 1,000 things to do that day and deodorant wasn't one of them until...she used it. Thanks for stopping by and patience is defintely something I need to work on.
@shymurl (2765)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Ok heres my thing. I don't like it when other people use my toothbrush, and I don't like to use anyone elses. When it comes to deodorant, if someone uses mine or I have to use someone elses I take a paper towel and wipe the top off, then use it. Don't know why I do that, but its just me. You're not weird, you're just you. Just explain to your aunt that you have nothing against her, its just they way you are. I hope things work out between you and your aunt.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
She'll get over it hopefully in a day or two. I thought about wiping it off but that still didn't do it for me either. I couldn't bring myself to use it. If anyone touched my toothbrush I couldn't handle that either. But most people I think except for a select few would agree a toothbrush is for it's owner.
Thanks for stopping by.
@starangel (414)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Wow, I'm alot like you. lol. I would've been disgusted by it, too, no matter who it was. I won't let anyone use my deodarant. I also have a thing w/ feet and bar soap. I don't use bar soap, because my skin dries out alot. I just use the lotion soaps. But, i won't touch anyone else's bar soaps. Other things I can't stand sharing is toothbrushes, mascara(or any other eye makeup), lipstick/chapstick, brush/comb, loofas, and razors. I'm sure there's more...oh, i won't borrow or let someone borrow my bra or panties. I've been asked for a pair of my panties before. there was a good reason why she asked, and even though they were clean, I couldn't do it. That would have to be my grossed out moment.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
We are soooo alike, I'm the same way! :) Have a great day! Thanks for stopping by.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Feb 08
I wouldn't use anyone's deoderant.....but if someone used mine if I left it around (like in your case)...I'd just quietly go out and buy myself another one. I wouldn't mention it...because I wouldn't want to hurt their feeling. But I wouldn't use it for myself again and throw it away after they left.
Others (besides my kids) using my soap does gross me out a bit..but I guess soap is self cleaning...and I just wash it once before I use it again.
I don't like people using any of my personal items! I hate it when my husband uses my comb even!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Feb 08
lol..I have tact because I don't have the same people visiting often (except my parents and sister and they all know that my personal stuff is off bounds).
Imagine having to buy a new deo everytime a particular person stays over just because they thought it was okay with me because I was silent the first time they did it!
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Many people seem to think that bar soap is unsanitary but you made a good point- it is self cleaning unlike those bath puffs (which should be changed every 30 days)that people use for liquid soap which become unsanitary. Good point. I wash my soap before I use it myself. Sounds like I'm like you in thinking about this stuff but you thankfully have more tact than I. Hopefully there won't be a next time but if so I will follow your advice. :) Thanks for sharing.
@Sissygrl (10909)
• Canada
24 Feb 08
wow skinny! I Have used someone elses deoderant, i dont think its that big of a deal, i mean its just your underarm.. If you are fresh out of the shower and you use someone elses stick of pit purfume, what's the big deal ? I dont understand, but if you have a good reason please let me know!! hehe Other then if they just shaved their pits and maybe cut themselves.. I dont know what the problem could be!!
I use body wash so i dont have the problem with the bar soap, but again, I dont see too much of a problem if you know the person and know they are clean.. If you wash the soap off before you use it then the soap that they've touched is gone.. and it IS soap.. its ment for cleaning! so it should itself therefor be clean! ;)
There are things that i wouldnt use of other peoples though.. for example.. someone else toothbrush, that's pretty gross! lol.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
24 Feb 08
LOL at pit perfume! I like that one! I'm just weird about that kind of stuff I guess. Little OCD in me..probably. Thanks for stopping by.
@HerHippieIam (62)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Wow. Though I will not criticize your quirks I will say to be so seemingly germaphobic is just a bit silly. Germs (bacteria) are everywhere and though you may keep your deodorant and soap separate they are inevitably "contaminated" by other people's "germs." So my advice either keep everything in little plastic baggies or possibly seek some kind of help. And yes I have use others deodorant, soap, and...yeah toothbrush as well.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
26 Feb 08
It seems to be with bath products- it just grosses me out. Everything else I'm ok with. Believe me I deal with germs on a daily basis. Something about someone else using my bathroom stuff just doesn't seem right. Thanks for stopping by...
