am i doinq too much ?

United States
February 24, 2008 10:15am CST
do you think im doing too much ? so i've been with this guy for a year and about 6 mnths. i love him soo much..i cant go a day without him on my mind and he makes life enjoying. we fuss & fight and disagree but when we break up , its usually for about a few mins then we are together again..we are young so some of the things im saying may sound really stupid. "teenage love". anyways , i broke up with him like 3 weeks ago because i had got mad , he wasn't acting like himself once we broke up..he act like he didnt give a DAMN ! about me and that he just hated me so much. the last time i've talk to him was last sat. whats going on ? he gets on myspace so i know he knows im here , he has a phone so he can easily call me..whats wrong ? i wrote him a letter & sent to him kindly in the mail and he haven't wrote me back yet ! am i doing too much ? i miss him soo much, i have so much pain right now..im fearing love and this is getting to me easily..what should i do ? will he ever talk to me again ?
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Ummm maybe its time to just let him be. Give him space and time to answer your emails, calls or whatever. If he really cares about you he will contact you. And if he doesn't then it wasn't meant to be! IMO.
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@starangel (414)
• United States
24 Feb 08
It is a good idea to try to get him to tell you what's wrong. Maybe before the breakups were meaningless, but you guys have gotten older in the past year and a 1/2. Maybe you can use this as a lesson learned type of thing. Just because you get mad at your boyfriend doesn't mean you break up. You talk it through. if you and him are too angry to talk and feel something might be said that shouldn't be said, then it's ok to say "lets cool down and talk about this later" and you both go cool off. That way it's not a break up, just a little chillout session and you both know you're still together. Maybe he's getting tired of the whole "i wanna break up w/ you" scene. That's a sign of maturity. He may still care about you, but he doesn't want to keep on getting hurt. it may mean nothing to you, but those breakups may mean alot to him. Or it could just be something else. Try talking him face to face and try to figure out what happened. At least talk about what went wrong. If he doesn't want to talk anymore and keeps trying to avoid you, then try to move on the best you can and learn from your mistakes. Don't blame yourself for the breakup, i'm not saying that, just know that mature relationship don't break up every time someone gets mad. they stay together and work it out. Yes, that's what teenagers do. they break up and get back together all the time. And when someone finally gets tired of that scene it just means they're growing up. I don't know if i'm explaining it well or not. I wish you luck. real breakups suck. I believe we all have someone we're suppose to end up w/, and maybe your guy wasn't the one.
• United States
24 Feb 08
very true ! when i try to see him face to face hes always busy. so i dont even stress that anymore..he knows im here for him anytime and place. im too nice to him and i dont really set standards to him until im mad and then that makes the problem worst. maybe he just needs a moment..and that is totally fine but it would be nice if he would tell me that rather than just ditching me. thanks. -brittney
• United States
24 Feb 08
Well, if he's completely ditching and not even giving you the common courtesy of being straight up w/ you, then he may not be all that mature. Maturity in guys is limited and doesn't always hit until they're in their 30's. And even then it's only a spark of maturity. lol. It sounds like you have tried to be the better person in trying to talk it through, even if it's something you don't want to hear, you're at least trying to make the effort. Stop trying. Some guys like to play these games that makes them feel like they have the control. You're probably boosting his ego big time. Just stop what you're doing and keep living your life. once he sees that you're not wasting your life waiting on him, he may decide to come talk to you. then again, maybe he won't. You'll just have to see. I'm sure what you're doing right now, he's eating it all up. why would he keep you on his myspace friends list? he's playing his "pimp" game. and he feels like he's got the upper hand because he's sitting there doing nothing while you are doing all the begging. it's a guy thing. lol.
• United States
25 Feb 08
thanks so much. you've be a great help..im just going to live my life..i love life even when i hate it ! life is great..im just going to enjoy the freeness and be alone for a min..maybe go out with friends after school 2mrw to ease the pain..but im preg and his parents know about it..and him and i talked about it last fri when he called me.idk ..i think thats the only thing he care about is me being preg not really me in genereal..but thanks so much, -brittney.
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh teenage love.. I wouldn't EVER do it again. I am much older and much wiser than I was at that age. So from experience, I can tell you, I think it is time you moved on. From what you have said above, I think he already has. Yes know it's tough, it hurts and it SUCKS!! But, it is time for you to do other things. Don't call him, don't "stalk" (I am joking when I used that word.. don't take offense) on myspace, delete him from your friends so you are not tempted to see who he talks to or about what. There are MUCH better guys out there who will love you for who you are. Really.. I swear!! Sometimes.. they are not even anyone you already know. I met my husband 7 months before we married. It is now almost 17 years later. He is the best MAN ever! In high school, you are still dealing with BOYS whos only goal in life is to get laid as many times by as many girls as they can. (no it HASN'T changes since I was there) So get up, get showered, dressed and go to the mall with your girlfriends shop and have fun and do other things the next few weeks to keep you occupied. This isn't a healthy relationship, and IMO I think it is time you moved on
• United States
24 Feb 08
thanks so much. yeah i agree with you. im tired of stressing ! its like im putting my effort in and hes not caring anything about how hard i've tryed..but thanks so much ! -brittney
• United States
24 Feb 08
i agree w/ dizz, too. If he doesn't want to talk, you can't force him. It'll start to look like you're desperate. I know you may feel desperate, but you don't want to look like it to others. Go shopping and move on. :) I met my husband 6/7 months before we got married. We'll be married 7 years in April. we didn't meet in highschool, either.
• United States
24 Feb 08
Dont take this the wrong way but it sounds like just a silly fight. I think maybe his feelings must of gotten hurt pretty badly... I'd just keep trying a little while longer, but if it doesnt work dont press the issue. I know its hard though. Or you can always play the hard to get type deal. Really I guess those are the only things you can do besides saying sorry. OR buy him one of his favorite things and a card.
• United States
24 Feb 08
thanks so much..i like how u said i can buy him one of his fav things..then it will seem like im doing anything to get him back..and i dont want him to think that way..thanks. -brittney
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
25 Feb 08
It is hard to say what is in his head. Maybe he just got tired of the fighting or maybe he is also playing some head games. I think you have done your part in trying to work your way back to him. As hard as it may be, I think you should get out and about with your friends. I am betting that once he feels that you have moved on and gotten over him....he'll be calling you. Even tho you may feel desperate...don't act it. take your time. If he doesn't come back then it may be that you will have to actually move on. it is hard, i know. good luck.
• India
25 Feb 08
My dear, forget him and get on with your life. Seriously, don't you think the world is full of mature men who won't go silent on you just because you got mad once? Get on with your life and find such a mature man. Cheers
• India
25 Feb 08
i think u did alot now. now stop this thing and try to avoid him when ever he meets u or calls u and if he also loves u with heart he will surely come to u.