A rant from another discussion

It's so strange when I think about it, that I would think that was ok. But, like you said, we're so blinded by our love (infatuation really) that we just don't see it.

Thank goodness it was a long time ago and not now. Not allowed to go out with you sisters. Thats just crazy. I can see why he's now gone and out of your life. Yea I know what your saying he never asked. I had an ex like that. He would be so insecure about me going out, and I would be told I was ignorant if I did not tell him when I was going out and what I was doing while I was out. He would always want a complete run down when I came home. But if he wanted to go out it was a different story. If I would ask who did you go out with, mind you I wasn;t even being nosey i was just making conversation I would get I was just hanging out with that guys and that would be it, end of subject. It is not way to live, and we only put up with it at the time because we are blinded by love and other feelings and just keep telling ourselves that it's gone to be fine. Until that day that we finally wake up and realize how foolish we actually are being for thinking it was ok.

I must admit though I am guilty of letting this happen to me before. I was a teenager so I did not know any better. The only thoughts that crossed my mind was how much in love with him that I thought I was. But I am 26 now. I have not had to asked permission from my own parents in the longest time. So there is not way that a man is gonna tell me that I am not allowed to go out. And thats great that you and the hubby try to do your own things every now and than. It makes the relationship healthier when there is some time apart

yes they do become possessive but let it be them who want to go out. Than it's completely different. They go by a double standard what isn't ok for us to do is perfectly fine for them. I am by no means bashing all men. Because all men are not like this.

wow I have never even thought of it from that perspective of women's revolution. This does kind of take us back to cave man times asking permission. You make a good point

I've been there before with the jealous boyfriend. and it will never happen again. I can see if there is already premade plans but every time is just crazy.

which is quite understanding. Some circumstances change the whole aspect of this. When you have children and hardly go out in the first place because you's are home with the little ones most of the time I would guess that when you and him actually can get away you and your hubby want to go out together.

I know actually asking permission just sounds so absurd to me. If I wanna go out I'm gonna go out. My boyfriend is not gonna tell me no, and if he did he wouldn;t be my boyfriend now more. It's like these men are trying to take a fatherly position with these women. And these women are letting them get away with it. Yes I am always considerate and make sure my boyfriend doesn;t have anything planned for that night. But i'm not about to stay in just because he doesn;t want me around no one else. Men like this are just insecure and posessive. It just really angers me to see that women actually let there boyfriend or husband control them like this.

I can defiently see your point about the money and all. So much has to go to keeping the house hold going. What I am talking about is if you want to go out and hang around with your girlfriends. Do you have to ask permission to go out and spend time with your friends?