Arranged or love?
By andyvish
@andyvish (901)
India
February 25, 2008 2:56am CST
Our marriage was an arranged one. I met my wife for the first time in my life just two months before marriage in an arranged meeting. Everybody talked and fixed a date for the marriage. As I was working away from home, I needed to come back again for the marriage after two months.
Frankly speaking, in the beginning, there were problems and then we learned to adjust and we are here, living happily with a child.
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7 responses
@boyfriend2k4 (398)
• Australia
25 Feb 08
Answer my this question please...Do you love her cause you love her by heart or you love her coz you had no option?
@Swaana (1205)
• India
25 Feb 08
Ours was also a love marriage. We both me each other after his parents met me at our home. We met in an restaurant. Though it was not love at first sight, we both eventually fell in love for each other and we really love each other till the moment. We are happily living with 2 kids.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
25 Feb 08
Its nice for you I guess . But i think as the society is changing, before marriage n=both partners should approve each other. i just can't understand how people stay with each other years without loving at all.
Arranged marriages also should be such taht when you like each other.
But i think its turned out to be good for you.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I am so glad that our customs here in the US don't include arranged marriage. I would hate to be married to someone i couldn't love or be happy with. I truly hope you are happy for your childs sake. I also hope your child is allowed to marry for love and not just pushed on someone as you see how it has affected you.
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
25 Feb 08
I believe that every relationship starts with trust and grows naturally..Whether be it love or arranged the relationship can only nurture if both the people understand each other well and go together.. Even love also starts when you start caring about the other person.. Problems would have come up even if you would have chosen to do a love marriage but its good that u came up well against them and learnt to adjust.. Oh about me.. I m still single ..i m just 23 yaar.. And neither i nor my family would go against love marriage if i do.. but i have to find a love b4 to think of that..Ha ha..So i don't mind what so ever it be because each othe two has its own pros and cons...
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
26 Feb 08
thats a wonderful one there as long as you guys are happy together who cares about arrangement or not,in fact i thank those guys involved in setting up the meeting,but the fact still remains that you guys allowed it to work if not it will not so congratulations and please just stay in there.i wish you luck,you have to meet your wife somehow so it does not really matter how
@cindrel_27 (89)
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25 Feb 08
Hi andyvish
mine is a arranged marriage, but the boy came a saw me before my family or their family saw me, he just deopped in my office one day & liked the way i was in the office, he infoemed his mom, & they inturn asked for me with my parents & with in 10 days i was married coz my hubby was supposed to go to netherlands,
we love each other, we are more understanding, & caring as well, my hubby is is US now, & infact i love my mother in law even more, she is 68 & alone , we live together, & i love my inlaw more coz with out the mother in law, i would not have got my hubby, so we three are so much interlinked,
its not just love but a little Nest where we three are very much attached now,
God bless you too
