Taking Care of Yourself

United States
February 26, 2008 1:52am CST
This is a difficult topic for me to discuss but I hope I make sense lol. I live with my parents and I don't have any life experiences that will help me take care of myself after they are gone (hopefully many many years from now). Anyways, what life skills should I learn? After they die, there is nobody else who will take care of me, so I need to figure out how to take care of myself. Are there any websites where I can learn these skills and do research on the topics? I would do a google search on the topics if I wasn't so confused. I don't have any "real world" experience of my own . For those who are wondering, I haven't been outside this house since I graduated (except going to the store every once in a while with my mom and grandma). Yes that means I have no social life and I do not talk to anyone outside of my household, even on the phone. I know everyone else I know are busy with their own lives and don't have any time to chat with me (I know because I've tried many times, so I don't try anymore). Any help is appreciated.
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• United States
28 Feb 08
Hahahaha! At 21 my son had never had any 'life experiences' that would help him take care of himself on his own. He was very concerned about that himself. He spent all his time on the computer, playing video games, getting kicked out of chat rooms, etc. In fact his first girlfriend was a girl who lived in Japan! The only thing he could do in the kitchen was make a tuna sandwich... and he makes a killer tuna sandwich! But one day, an old school-chum of his contacted him by email. His friend had gone back to Slovakia and the two of them continued their friendship via the internet. Then one day his friend invited him to Slavakia for a 3 month visit... Well, I'll put it this way; he learned some 'surviving on his own' skills in a very short time!!! The way I figure it, there's no need to worry, things always work out to be exactly what is needed to move you forward to your next adventure in life. Enjoy the comfortable lifestyle that you have! Enjoy the friendships that you have, whether they are 'real' or 'virtual' makes no matter. Enjoy your life and continuously seek out the things that make you feel good when you think on them and you will find that your life is full of delicious experience!
• United States
29 Feb 08
Those words are very encouraging. I guess my lifestyle at the moment is pretty comfortable since I don't have to pay bills lol. I've been going to the store every week with my parents and asking them to buy me stuff (they did). They were not very happy about that, so maybe I could get a job soon if I keep it up?
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• United States
29 Feb 08
Oh god, try to avoid that as long as you can! My son got a job walking dogs while he finishes his maya classes, my daughter too. I'm the only one of us still unemployed... hehehe, the reverse of your situation!
@etavasi (751)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 08
Hi lancingboy, first skill you need to know is how to cook for your self and to others. Then open up your friendster then find friends nearby your place. Then ask him to go out. You can learn experince from other people also. Join some of church activity or other activity then you can learn more in sosial.
• United States
26 Feb 08
Yeah, cooking is very important. You don't wanna burn the house down lmao! I've tried cooking using recipe cards and the food I make turns out really good. I think I'm a natural cook, but I don't get many opportunities to do it. Unfortunately for me, the only social interaction I can get is on the Internet. All the nearest social places I could go to are too far away to walk. I live very far away from other people and I have no transportation. But yes, being social is a very good thing that gives learning experiences.
@etavasi (751)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 08
In my experince, even my house is to far to reach. My friends do come and visit my house. I love them very much. You need to be a good friend to them too.
@cydzzj (356)
• Australia
26 Feb 08
I think you can learn things step by step. First of all you need think about what you need if you live with yourself. Like you need know how can you cook, or at least you should know how to buy foods from market. And you need know how to clean your house. I think you do not want live in the bin. You need know how to connect your telephone,water, gas, and electricity if you moving house. You can just image all the things you may need when you live along. Then learn them one by one. Good Luck!
• United States
27 Feb 08
Thanks! Yeah, learning each thing one by one is a good thing. You know how the turtle and the hare story went. The tortoise took his time and ended up winning the race because the hare wanted to top and sleep for awhile. Right now, I am taking practice tests for a drivers license. It isn't the same as real experience on the road, but at least I'm learning what all the signs are suppose to tell you.
@slavezero (833)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
That would be a lot difficult my friend... All your life you have been covered with support by your family. I hope that learning will be easier for you. but there are times that you could learn from your experiences. So what is the best thing that you can do... start fixing your life... learn NOW. Dont wait for your parents to be gone. Go outside the house... find a new job. That is the best way to start. Meet new friends. Learn tyo face and enjoy life.