Have you had any problems selling second hand clothing online?
By maddysmommy
@maddysmommy (16230)
United States
February 26, 2008 12:22pm CST
I recently sold and sent a box of second hand boys clothing in good condition, to a friend online. I have yet to receive payment for them. It's been 5 weeks since I sent the box and have sent 3 private messages to her and still no reply. For your info, she did reply to my initial pms when she wanted to know more about the clothing.
It's not the money that annoys me but the fact that I've seen her come online, and she still doesn't acknowledge my pms. I am not a mean person and have said to her if she had any problems with payment, to send it when she can. I sent the clothing in good faith and even though I don't know her very well, I thought I would send it anyway and let her check the clothing first and if she was happy with it, to send payment when she can. I did get a pm saying she received them and was going to talk to her husband about sending payment to me via paypal. She asked for my paypal details and I sent them to her that day.
I know she is a lovely person and is going through a lot at the moment, from what I have heard, but all I want is one reply saying "Sorry Rach, but I can't send payment yet and not sure when I can". How hard is that?
All I know is that I am not going to do this again - I'll give them away through the free-cycle club I just joined a few days ago and save the hassle.
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7 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I usually don't sell things online either as it was my first time trying. I'll give them away next time.
@mummymo (23706)
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28 Feb 08
I can understand how you feel sweetheart - specially when you were being so nice! I have bought clothes via ebay but not sold any yet - i have a small pile of things that are in good condition that I plan to sell, I used to give them to my SIL for her daughter until she let her wear an outfit that my Gran had paid over £60 for my daughter who had only worn it twice as it was so special to nursery the week after I gave it to her and got it covered in paint. She just shrugged her shoulders and said well she liked it and wanted to wear it - never again! xxx
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Aww no I would of been most annoyed at that mummymo. Once I posted this discussion I felt a sense of relief and have now let it go. Thanks my friend :)
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
That is pretty disheartening coming from a friend. I learned that being honest would really solve the problem and avoiding them would just make them pester. There were times that I thought avoiding confrontation or not telling some people the truth about my reasons created breach in our relationship be it business or personal.
I have sold a lot of books online thru ebay but so far all those who bought from me were strangers and all paid well. Sad to say that there are times that strangers act better than those that we consider friends. It's one of life's disappointments that we have to learn from and deal with.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I totally agree and now have learned from it and moving on. Thanks for your comments cdparazo :)
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Feb 08
I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you. It hurts when we put ourselves out there and try to be nice and others take advantage of our trust. You reap what you sow. She will remember this when it comes back on her.
I know it makes you feel uncomfortable now. You keep hoping to hear from her and she is purposely ignoring you. These kind of things happen to me quite often, but I do not let it sour me on being the person that I choose to be. I know that I will be blessed and God will take care of the rest.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I hear you Rozie. I think after posting this I felt a huge relief and am just going to let it go. I'll keep on being me though :)
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
27 Feb 08
i totally understand. it's not so much the money but the emotions behind it.
If someone would just be more transparent and come clean about it, even if it were to say, I'm sorry I don't think I can pay you. it feels so much better.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
27 Feb 08
It does feel so much better if they just tell me the reason why. It's ok, as soon as I posted the discussion I felt so much better. Thanks squaretile!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I would have gotten payment up front before sending them. I have sold some used baby clothes online, but it was through eBay and I got the money before it was shipped. I am sure you were expecting her to be honest and pay you since she is an online friend of yours, but you never can tell with people. It is possible that she is trying to get off without paying you, but she may also be embarrassed that she cannot pay you and is avoiding you because of that. Free-cycle is a great way of getting rid of things you no longer have a use for and helping someone out at the same time.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I think I am too trusting of people online. I thought she might be embarrassed that's why I said in my pms that it was ok if she wasn't able to pay it then.
I thought it might be a good way for me to make some extra $$ oh well. Thanks for your reply.
@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Sounds to me like maybe she's embarrassed that she doesn't have the money right now and is avoiding you. Even though you said she could pay when she had it, some people don't like to feel like they're taking charity.
If you've contacted her several times about it already, personally I'd just let it go and see if she comes around on her own.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I was thinking to let it go - now that its off my chest it feels like I have already. Thanks for your comment Ldyjarhead!
