My boyfriend is going to be mad
By mollyrose
@mollyrose (414)
United States
February 26, 2008 2:31pm CST
We have been estranged since he demanded that I get an abortion and I told him no. He left me for months and didn't come back until the baby was born. Well I decided to give him another chance for the sake of our son even though he is always working and stops by once a week and spends two hours with our son then leaves. Well he was only giving me $20 a week for the baby and it wasn't enough and I told him I needed more. Not to mention my car is falling apart and needs repairs and I have to take our son to the doctor in that car. He has a great job where he makes loads of money and drives around in a mercedes. He told me that $20 is plenty and that he would get me a used car but it would be a few months. So I had no choice but to go and file for child support because I am living with my family and they can't afford to help me and barely pay their rent on time and with my son being sick I have needed to go out and buy humidifers, vaporizers and baby supplies. Now he is going to be mad and we will probably fight. Did I do the right thing? I mean I told him that its expensive to raise a baby and with him only being a month old I can't go back to work yet. What would you do?
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5 responses
@soulist (2985)
• United States
25 Sep 08
You did the right thing! If you know he has a good paying job, you should be getting more than 20 dollars a week! My goodness how does he think that is enough to raise a child on? I mean diapers and food alone would be more than that a week. He sounds like a huge pig and not worth your time. I say break up with him and still try to have him in your son's life, but really from what you said he doesn't sound like a good guy to be with.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Well maybe you should be mad since he didn't stand beside you while you was carrying his child,I am proud of the fact that you didn't get a abortion, You did the right thing in filing for child support babies take alot more than $20 a week.Good luck!
@quiltedblessings (1066)
• United States
26 Feb 08
You did the right thing. Unfortunatly, you are right, he is going to be mad. Odds are, he may even go so far as to walk away. Regardless, you are doing what you need to do to provide for your son. If it were me, I would let him know now that you have filed for child support, because that will make it less of a shock when the papers show up in the mail.
Hang in there.
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
26 Feb 08
You should have filed for child support the day after you left the hospital after giving birth.
You didn't make that baby by yourself and it is dads responsibility to help you and $20 a week barely buys a can of formula so you CERTAINLY did the right thing. I would have done it sooner but better late than never.
If he gets mad so what. You are doing what is best for you and your son and no one can fault you for that.
@miller1978 (1101)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I don't know what world he lives in to think that $20 a week is enough to raise a baby. One can of formula here costs almost that. Diapers and wipes on top of that. Yes you did the right thing because to me he wants his freedom and doesn't want the responsibility of a child. 2 hours is not enough time for him to spend with his son, especially at such a young age. So many people (both women and men) get away with not paying child support for their children and it's ridiculous that the single parent should have to do all the support. After all that child was not made by just one person.
