AGE you wanted to get married

@skbh12 (2950)
Philippines
February 26, 2008 7:38pm CST
what do you think is the right age to get married? have you told yourself that you have to be married at this specific age? me, i have told myself that i should be married by the age of 27 and now that i am 23 years old that is 4 more yers to go but then my boyfriend told me that he wants to married at the age of 35.. waaah. so i have to wait for 12 more years!!! haha.. i just hope he changes his mind. haha!
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23 responses
• United States
27 Feb 08
There is no "right age". Everyone's ready for marriage at different times and life happens differently for different people. I never had a "I want to be married by this age" when I was younger. I never thought about marriage at all, for that matter. I figured I'd end up like my mom and get married sometime around age 30 or so. But, as it turns out, I'm about to turn 21 and I'm getting married in 3 months. Sometimes life just happens when you don't expect it. I prefer to let life happen instead of trying to make it fit into a "plan".
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
wow.. congratulations and best wishes to you and your husband.. i wanna get married too but my boyfriend and i still have to work hard for it. haha..
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@nanayangel (7855)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
Hi there! I got married on my 20th birthday but that's after ten months of living with my husband. Well, like what she said, I think that there is no right age unless you're too young. I think that depends more upon the couple's stability. Mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
wow. so young.. hoping you'll have a blessed married life..
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
wow.. married at a young age... well i just hope you'l have a blessed married life..
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• Guam
28 Feb 08
hehehehe... I'd like to get married before I'm 30... 25 - 28 is an ok age for me. by then I know I have been able to save enough money for myself... but i do have requirements for myself before I get married.
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
and what are those requirements miss?? hahah.. hmmm.. come on! share it to us! hihi..
@snowzhxq (46)
• China
28 Feb 08
I think best age to get married for women is age of 26-27. and for man is age of 30. age of 23 for women is too young. So age of 30 for men are too old.
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
yah im too young to get married and i can still enjoy my life with my boyfriend as a couple. soon id be seeing myself walking in the isle and at the end of the isle is the man that i love, loved and will always love. that is my boyfriend.
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• Pakistan
2 Mar 08
the best age is 20
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
did you ever get married at the age 20?
• Pakistan
7 Mar 08
yes I am married and was married at the age pf twenty.I am really satisfied with my experience since I easily adjusted myself with my in laws.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
8 Mar 08
really? well good for you that you have easily fitted in with your in-laws.. i guess if my boyfriend and i gets married, i would not have any problems with my future in-laws. i like them for they are fun to be with. hehe..
@maasha25 (108)
• India
1 Mar 08
Am not at all interested in marriage. But for you its better you convince your boy friend and marry before the age of 28. All the Best
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
1 Mar 08
haha.. well, all i can say is .. come what may.. whatever the Lord plans is for me, then may it be done..
@maasha25 (108)
• India
1 Mar 08
Hey i could find some maturity in your answer so this is the correct age to get married.......
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
thanks for seeing the maturity to my answer.. that made me smile because you noticed something i didnt myself.. haha!
@AJ1952Chats (2336)
• Anderson, Indiana
2 Mar 08
I think you should be at least 16--and, ideally, you should be out of your teens. After that, there's no "right" AGE for marriage. However, there IS a right TIME for marriage with that time being when you've found that people you love enough to marry who loves you enough to marry you and both of you feel ready to make that serious step. Some people don't even find this until they're over 80 years old, though that's rare. When I was younger, I'd assumed that I'd marry sometime in my mid-to-late twenties. However, here I am at 55 and still single. I have somebody really special in my life, but neither of us is ready to get married as we not only live over 2000 miles apart and have never met but, also, we have some things we want to finish before taking this step.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
really?? have you two met thru chat only??? wow.. well i know that isnt unusual nowadays but why havent you and your special someone thought of meeting up one these days?? you two should do meet ups now.. i guess this is the right time to do that. right?
@omar0913 (942)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Mar 08
You know getting married does not come as you wanted it to come it just all of sudden appear to you, its like being inlove, love comes even you don't expect it. but setting up your mind to be married on the age you wanted to is good you will be wellprepared when that time happens, and to your boyfriend, if he don't change his mind, try to find another one. only if you want to have more kids but if not go on with your boyfriend be married at 35 and have a very dificult days of making a baby. see yah!
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
of course i wont find another man just so i can have a baby before i reach 35... haha.. he's my love and ill be loving he till the end of my days.. if that is the case then i would adopt a chld.. it is up to us on how we manage to raise the child..
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
2 Mar 08
I am thinking at around 25, but I am already 22 and no boyfriend just yet, so I am quite hesitant that it's gonna happen soon. I just hope I don't go over 30 before getting married. It has always been a top priority for me, to have a family of my own in the future, the thought of not settling down actually scares me. So I do hope I find him or better yet, he finds me soon!hehe
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
ooohh.. im hoping you'd find your mr right as soon as possible. God's blessing shall pour upon you and that He chooses the right man for you...
@bobet17 (158)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
I got married when I was 19,because I believe that no age limit for this called marriage,as long as you can handle it without any regrets,now Im happily married even if were too young,but were planning to have a baby 7years from now so that we still have time for our self.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
May the good Lord bless your married life!!!
@yannycui (377)
• China
2 Mar 08
You should be at least the age that the law permit to get marry. If you have reached the age, you can marry whenever you feel like you can take the resposibility of family and marriage. Marriage is more than a word, while it is a long-life promise.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
youre right!!! it is not just a paper to be signed but a matrimony between two people becoming one in the eyes of God.
• Australia
29 Feb 08
I always said that I wanted to get married by the age of 25 and have kids. I wanted to be a young mum, and I did. I got married at 23. I think it was a good age as I had my fun and it was time to settle down. I have been married for 6 years now and its great,(most of the time). HA HA . I think you both have to be ready for it as you wouldn't want to feel pressured into it by obligation. Good Luck
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
1 Mar 08
wow.. good for you because you are enjoying your married life eventhough you everything started at such a young age... hope it stays that way forever..
@xuejie (112)
• China
29 Feb 08
I have no accurately age to get married. In my mind, when I love someone very much and want live with him I will get married. I think maybe after 30. hehe^_^ because I don't think I can't find my MR.RIGHT befor 30.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
1 Mar 08
why did you say you'll never meet mr right before you reach 30? who knows, he is just around waiting for you to notice him right??
@jesiear (53)
29 Feb 08
In my college,I told myself to be marrid at the age of 28, but after I entered the society,I am marrid at 25,because my parents ask to get marrid . I think you can not say the married specific age,because you can get the pressure from your parents ,friends .... Of course ,that is different from country to country.but in china ,that is the truth.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
yeah i heard that in china, fixed marriage is the in thing. well here in the Philippines, it is also applied to muslim community..
• Indonesia
29 Feb 08
I used to tell myself that I want to get married by the age of 27-28 when I was still in college. Now I'm 27 and I already have a 3 yrs old daughter. I don't think age is the appropriate measurement in deciding when to get married. You just got married when you've found someone you want to get married with and other circumstances also has affects on the decision.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
your right.. only love can tell whether you are ready to get married or not.. sigh.. im just thinking when will my boyfriend propose to me to get married. haha!
@rashmigs (400)
• Singapore
29 Feb 08
I feel 24-25yrs is the right time of marriage for me. Lets see if i can do it or not :) Actually, there is no right age as such. It varies from one person to another. If u r well settled, then i think its time to marry! And again, "settling down" could have different meanings ;) Each one views it with a different definition. For me 24-25yrs is the right time.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
yah settling down means a lot of things. well, i just hope that in the future you may have a blessed married life.. take care always!
@soulist (2985)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Honestly I wanted to be married by 25, and that's how old I am now, and not married. Honestly I want to get married when it's right. You never know when it's right, so why put an age limit on yourself? Enjoy your life and if it leads down the path of marriage so be it, if not that's cool too.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
yeah. we cant really tell what is really going to happen to me, you and anyone else in the future. well i just hope everyone of us find our true love and that may we all have a blessed married life when the right time comes...
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
I wanted to get married at 21, just like my mom did. I thought it would be nice having kids at a younger age, so that I'd end up being closer to my kids since the age wouldn't be as big had I married at a later age. Oh well, I married late. I got married at 29 and had my first kid by the age of 31. Actually, there is an advantage of marrying late. You get to make the most out of your singles days. They even say that you're more financially and emotionally secure by then, but I think maturity doesn't really come with age, but experience.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
yes that is right! we become mature persons from experiences we've had, people we met in the past and the present. marrying at the age of 30's surely gives an assurance that you are financially stable so you can provide the things your child needs.
@izathewzia (5139)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
When I was much younger, I wanted to marry at an early age. So I will mature as my children will grow up. There will be no big generation gap. But it did not turned out that way. I married on my late 20's. But no regrets, because I am mature and very much ready. Still, I understand the generation of my children.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
it really depends on how you treat your kids for them to grow up the way you want them to be. but most of the time parents like you shouldnt really blame yourselves if kids at time act differently and negatively because there are other factors why they act that way. one could be peers, people they bump into daily. some could be a good role model type and some are dangerous type of group to be with. it how kids nowadays decide whether to go to the right path or wrong path. and as a parent, dont stop reminding your kids of the do's and dont's of life. on the long run, they will also realize the correct thing and mistakes they have done in their lives.
• United States
28 Feb 08
I never had a specific age in mind to get married, but I hoped it would be before I was too old to have kids. I guess anytime between 20 and 30 would have seemed good to me. Finding the right person was more important than the right age. I was 28 when I got married.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
oh i see. at least you got married before you reached 30's. me i wanted to be married before i reach 30's because i wanted to have kids before i reach that age for me to have a normal kid who can live life just as how others kids does. im not saying i am against downs syndrome or trisomy baby where in fact they are called precious babies. it is just that they will be surrounded by some who does not accept down syndrome in the society..