Your Baby starts walking, But!

There is a fine line here isn't there Kamran? Having raised three boys myself and now taking care of grand children I know from experience that we want both worlds for our children. We want them to know we are there for them at there first call, all through out their lives. On the other hand we want to raise them so that they are strong, capable, independent adults. With the example that you give here, I would suggest that just being close to your baby and soothing talk of encouragement is enough to build trust, even if we hold back our arms of support. Children strive so hard even as toddlers to impress us as parents, they so want to please even if they do not understand that is what they are doing. We start teaching independence the day they are born, letting a baby fall back to sleep on its own teaches self soothing. It does matter, and I believe it to be a balancing act of both, it is just defining where that line is for each individual child.

hello kamran ! Such kind a topic from your side..seems u hve kids as well :) well,would like to know that . umm i dunt have much to say with this topic as i dunt have kids but still i can a little bit predict that if this kind a situation comes to me then what would i do. Actually i dont like kids to that extent because since my chilhood i have been living amony many kids form every size to every kind :D ..and i have my own 4 younger siblings so have got proper training lol and i am veery much fond of them as well but personally i dont like to take kids and start muchi muchi kind a thing:P .unless they are my siblings or my own kids in future inshAllah !like other's kids too as they are so innocent and cute :) but i dunt know why i just avoid to hold other's kids:) like mostly girls do. According to the topic! A really good news,i will be truly happy to hear this news.If i'll be away frum home i'll probably be running towards home to see baby standing and trying to walk. When baby will try to walk and fall down i will actually hold him so thet he dunt feel any fear to walk again. I will hold then i will hold only his finger and make him walk forward or making some steps.Will leave him for few seconds to try himself,i wont let him totally on his own,this way baby can get scared and may feel hesitation or reluctation to walk again. Best way is to let him try for the first time,and then hes falling i will be holding his finger to encourage him to move forward,or this can be done by support of something like beds or anyother thing baby can hold easily and start making steps. So he will be a bit excited to walk without any support with a bit experience of stepping. A few days of training by holding finger,i will site infront of him and call him to walk towards me.He will try and try by falling and then again getting up. And now by doing all this i am superrrr tired lol :D ..please some one fetch me a glass of water i have came back from work :D ..and now he has made me lazy enough ! lol kidding :) Well whatever i speak right now the real feeling will come on the day when it will actually come :) inshAllah.otherwise i wont be able to know the actual feeling of mine at that time.

I am the type of parent who allows my baby to develop things for his/herself. If she has to fall in the process, so be it. But all those times I also reassure my baby that I am always around and that she won't be hurt because I am looking out for her so there is no need to be afraid. Children at the earliest age possible must be taught to take steps for themselves at the same time be secure in the knowledge that they are not alone and that somebody is looking out for them.

I would let the baby develop trust in himself by backing up and staying out of reach while keeping my hands out towards the baby. Its important that the baby find out that he/she can do things for him/herself. This way he/she will be encouraged to learn and try new things. If I were to grab the baby before it attempted to walk, it sends the wrong message. That says to the baby that "I don't have do do it, mommy will do it for me." And from then on the child will depend on your for everything, not trying to learn for him/herself.